How do I ger over it? How do I stop blaming myself?

[Anonymous]

Last year I rejected a guy because he didn’t fit my life and I chose another guy instead of him, but I regretted it, I felt that I chose the wrong guy. Both were kind and nice, but with the guy I chose we had nothing in common.
This year I asked out the guy I rejected. We went on a date, he asked why I changed my mind and I told him the truth. He rejected me because he felt like a backup plan. And now he has a girlfriend and I’m so jealous. I ruminate all the day what I should have done different in the past. I feel myfelf guilty for choosing the guy based on the location not the interests. And I feel bad because I didn’t give the guy I rejected a real chance last year, only 2 dates. And I feel bad because I told him the whole truth. He also said that it’s my fault, because he was texting me in February and in the beginning of March he agreed dating me again, and I asked 2 weeks ago why he changed his mind, and he said: “I didn’t mean a relationship, you ruined that part.” And since yesterday he has a girlfriend. I didn’t see him as a backup plan, my life changed and now he could have fit in. But he didn’t understand my point of view. And now I feel that I rejected the perfect guy and I’ll never find anyone like him again.

[Kyr0s]

You may not find someone like that, but you need to understand that no guy wants to feel like a backup plan. Even if you didn't mean it that way, that is how it will look to him. You chose to date someone else over him. If you go back to him, the ball is in his court, he decides whether to take you back or not. In this case, you can't blame him. He had every right to reject you and it seems like he found someone better for himself. You can move on and look for someone else.

[Anonymous]

You should talk to him again. And give him a fist bump from me. 😆😆😆

The important thing is that you learned from your mistake, and don't make this mistake again. 😆😆😆