Who's right in this sinireo?

[Anonymous]

Guy is head over heels for a girl they go on two or three dates then she decides she just wants to be freinds. They stay freinds for awhile still talking everyday until she meets somebody and then slowly they stop talking. Things don't work out with new guy so she starts talking to first one saying she would like to try it again that she has feelings for him. Guy says no you choose someone over me ( even though still into her ) now she's mad saying he's like every other guy. Who's right should they have tried again?

[Anonymous]

It's difficult to say who is right or wrong in this scenario, as everyone has their own unique feelings, desires, and motivations when it comes to relationships. However, it's important for both parties to communicate openly and honestly about their feelings and expectations, and to respect each other's boundaries and decisions.

If the guy felt hurt or betrayed by the girl's decision to choose someone else over him, it's understandable that he may have reservations about trying again. It's important for him to prioritize his own well-being and make a decision that feels right for him, even if it may disappoint the girl.

On the other hand, if the girl truly has feelings for the guy and is willing to work on the relationship, it's important for her to communicate this clearly and respectfully, and to be understanding if he decides that he's not ready or willing to try again.

Ultimately, the most important thing is for both parties to be honest and respectful with each other, and to prioritize their own well-being and happiness in any relationship.

[WindAtMyBack]

I think he should go for it. If she is not really into him, I think he'll find out pretty quickly. Maybe it took going out with the wrong person to realize that the first guy was a good pick. Whatever the reason, he should give it a go if he's into her. If it doesn't work it doesn't work. If it does work then it's worth it.

Yea, it's possible to get hurt that way. That can happen in any relationship. But most people think it's worth it to try. He'll never know without trying, and if he never tries he may regret it later.

[Anonymous]

As of right now, I think the guy friend is only harming himself. Like I understand that he was hurt by her choosing another, but I don’t think it’s fair to punish her when he agreed to friendship in the first place. Then for you to say that they were friends for a while before she found another man, he didn’t have to settle for that position in her life when he knew he wanted more. She probably thought he’d be ok with her dating another guy. Now she’s come back and the friend is acting too proud to give her a chance when he knows he still has feelings. So I’m not saying the friend isn’t valid for his choice, maybe he doesn’t want to become a rebound or a 2nd option. But if he still has feelings, I think he should act on that instead of rejecting.

[definitelyNotHer]

Ugh that's tough. Bare with me since I'm a girl and you're probably looking for a guys advice, but If I were you wouldn't try again. If it was me and I got into a relationship I would always know that I was the second choice and that feels awful. However maybe look at the context of her failed situationship. Who broke it off? How long did it last? How long did she wait after it failed to approach you?

But also, there are many other people out there who would make you their first choice and top priority.