Am I the only one who finds "ghosting" traumatizing?

[Anonymous]

Over the past 3 months, I have been ghosted by 3 friends who I met over the internet. We established a relationship where we talked almost daily. or we talked as much as 3 hours over the phone. Then all of a sudden, they start strangely fading away or just suddenly stop replying to my texts. We took all this time and effort to get to know each other and things are going well then suddenly their existence is gone. No explanation. No goodbye. I just find it kinda traumatizing. and it makes me lose motivation trying to get to know someone new. I don't even want to put much effort into getting to know people anymore , knowing that people are so fleeting.

[Bekaaaaaaaahhhh]

Yes, but if the person doesn’t even find you worthy of a reply then they aren’t worthy of worrying about! I know it hurts but we must always rise above it because you have not even met all of the people that will love you, the world is filled with people doesn’t matter who ghosted you the past doesn’t define your future and always remember this your value doesn’t decrease based on someone else’s inability to see your worth x

[tesniolite]

after i stopped talking to this one really horrible guy both our mutual friends started ghosting me even though I was close with them both and reallyy close with one of them
I don't know if id say traumatising but i dont think its helped my trust issues and I've really struggled to be anything other than just kind of friends with anybody since
and now i feel insecure in every friendship i have, like any second something happens i feel like everythings over
so i get it
ur not alone

[SunnyRS]

Ghosting is bad as you feel you connected with someone and then they go away without telling. But sometimes they don't feel the connection we do so they try to leave without giving a reason, which I think is not right.
So you should not get demotivated because of this, there are a lot of people looking for friends and who would a great connection with you.

[Asker]

it takes a lot of effort , time, dedication for me to get to know someone and build a connection. For it all to just disappear overnight. its just shocking. I am just wondering should i put nearly as much effort, time and dedication to getting to know someone anymore if they are just gonna throw it all away overnight?

[Asker]

maybe i should just put minimal effort in until I find someone worth my time. I just don't feel like people are worth my investment.

[SunnyRS]

Well I can understand feeling hurt like that, but think if you don't put efforts then the others won't be inclined to talk anyway, that would prove counter productive.
The best you can do is be honest and talk but don't expect much from them.

[SunnyRS]

Thank you for the MHO

[MementoMori777]

Don't let it effect your motivation, people do this, we all been through it, it's wrong but it happens, you keep trying and soon you'll meet people that will enjoy your company, don't take it personal, cause most of the time they have the problem.

[mark000h]

I think it's terrible and a sign of how people nowadays have become so insensitive and selfish to others feelings.

[Nikki1989]

No, not at all. I get over things like that very quickly.

[NostalgiaSenpi]

People come and go all the time. It isn't something that should be considered traumatic and you need to grow up.

[Asker]

people come and go in life but they leave with an ending and a good reason. they don't just disappear acting as if you never known each other.

[ChiTown33]

Nope. I'm never going to lose any sleep over anyone on the internet... OK, maybe Harambe🤪😂