Why nobody likes me and why am I so ugly?

Question

Whenever I open my feelings to someone I get rejected... I've never had a proper relationship... Why is this always happening, why am I so ugly?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Just based on experience.. my current boyfriend definitely wasn't my type (at all) when i met him. i never imagined myself falling in love with him but here i am crazy about him. why? i simply saw that he was more than his appearance. he made me laugh (like stomach hurts kind of laugh), he showed a lot of effort to make me happy (still does), he takes care of me, he was always there for me. he pulled me out of a dark place. one day i just realized i would do anything to make this guy happy. im in love with him.

i guess my point is, yes, realistically speaking its hard to get a girl to notice you if you dont believe you're attractive, but other things can still catch her attention. being an awesome person on the inside. try not to pull yourself down so much (i know its hard). my boyfriend is a very confident guy. he doesn't let his flaws eat at him and take away his self esteem. so he focuses on his good parts (which i believe everyone has).

what is yours? sense of humor, kindness, chivalry, passion, being hard working? focus on that and let them see it in you. be a good person to be around. now im not saying its gonna work on every girl, but id believe its gonna happen. girls are believed to be shallow, but if she can see you're worth it, she might surprise you.

Screenwriter · Accepted Answer

Anyone who says ALWAYS about situations is catastrophizing. You cannot mean no one has EVER liked you in your entire lifetime. That is virtually impossible.

You've NEVER had a proper relationship. You're TOTALLY hideous. You've ALWAYS been rejected.

You sound badly depressed. This is how depressed people speak. Things are ALL BLACK. Nothing has ever gone well. They aren't attractive. They will never find love.

If this is how. you're feeling and you've been feeling this way for a long time, you need to see a psychiatrist. You possibly need an antidepressant and long-term therapy to find the source of this problem.

If you are clinically depressed, there is a solution with therapy and medication, and you can get. your life on track. However, clinical depression is a lifelong issue. You will need to continue therapy and possibly medication. GET THIS HELP NOW. Do not put this off any longer.

Regular exercise that raises your heart rate: brisk walking, bicycling, swimming, aerobics, weight lifting, done three to four times a week will also lift depression. Start doing this for your HEALTH! It will take several weeks for you to notice a change, but it will happen.

THEN you can reevaluate those negative, hopeless statements for what they are: unrealistic. Good luck with your new future.

crossdressingrihno · Accepted Answer

I am going to be brutally honest, and I will be speaking from experience you’re probably not gonna like what I am going to say, and a lot of people are probably going to disagree with me.

If you’re a man looking for women, then, unless you are absolutely hideous, your looks shouldn’t completely stop you from getting a girlfriend.

When I say hideous, I mean you would have to look like a severe burn victim. I’m talking like you had napalm dropped on your head.

Women don’t care as much about looks when it comes to dating. The way you conduct yourself is vastly more important and I don’t just mean basic hygiene if that were the case, then most men would be getting tons of chicks. No it’s about confidence. It’s about drive. It’s about pride and it’s about ambition.

Every tiny detail from the way you walk and talk to the way you sit down to the way you hold your shot glass tells women, hundreds of different tiny details and they don’t even process this consciously. They have their own subconscious processing power that lets them decide who is and is not an ideal partner.

In Skyrim terms, the reason why you’re not getting women is probably because your speech craft is probably at a really low level.

megabamse · Accepted Answer

Maybe your not ugly, but really needy and negative. The more negative things we hear and see in the early stages of a relationship the more likely the relationship won't go anywhere. To get a relationship to Stick you need to give out a positive energy, be positive, caring and giving.

If you have a hard time with "life" and there is most of the time a dark cloud above you then there is no sunshine for the plants of dates. If that's so then you simply are not ready to date. And you won't be until you manage to fix if not completely but a lot the issues in your life. Then and only then will you succeed in the dating world.

t_time · Answer

To be honest I don't know what you look like. Being rejected isn't always About looks. Of course you have to be somewhat attracted to the other person physically physically and emotionally. But that's not everything. It could be the fact that you're going for the same kind of person. We're just the wrong person. You can't force someone to be emotionally and physically attracted to you. That kind of thing comes naturally. To be honest When I get to know someone , And I feel like i've been getting treated right. I find them more physically and emotionally attractive. Set your standards high For yourself.

TDILS · Answer

you're not ugly. Who told you that nobody likes you?

God creates each of us beautifully, and no one is ugly. That's just what human thinks, but not what God thinks about you.

So finding a partner or not, doesn't determine whether you're ugly or not. Because whatever human tells us, God will always loves us, and we're beautiful to Him, that's why He creates us.

tesniolite · Answer

confidence might help, im sure you're not nearly as ugly as you think - you see yourself uglier than you actually are

and if people are leaving you because you're open about your feelings, don't close up - you just need to find somebody better

TenderFantasy · Answer

1. How old are you?

2. Have you actually TRIED to find anyone?

3. Don't lower your standards. It's never worth it. At least how I see it. But don't be desparate either really. Not good to be that way.

4. Read a response I wrote to screenwriter. If you see those videos, maybe it will give you hope? Good luck in life.

WanderingLoveWizard · Answer

You'll never find a real relationship being good looking either. Believe me.
You'll forever be a trophy boy that women will parade around and brag about to elevate ther own status, but they really couldn't give the first actual fuck about you as a person.

At least when you do find a girl, which you will, she'll love you for you and do anything to make you happy. Not just tell you what you want to hear just to keep you around long enough to be used and eventually thrown away

pink_blah · Answer

You need to change your mindset and the way you talk about yourself. Dont call yourself ugly, your self esteem is gonna go down if you continue. If you feel ugly, do something about it. Change your wardrobe, go to the gym, eat healthier, take care of your hygiene.

blackgaletiger · Answer

Ugly guys find away. The only thing is how you stand out character wise. How your able to present yourself through the ugly. How well you make yourself approachable through humour or communication. How well you can keep your composure when in ugly situations. Its the character traits that make the person beautiful or ugly

Angelo75 · Answer

It would help if you could explain which gender you are and whats your sexual orientation.
Men and women acts differently, so what is attractive for one gender doesn't necessarily mean it's the same for the other gender.

So... a bit more info plx.

DavidBibs · Answer

Maybe you’re falling for the guys that don’t like you - men have this problem too. The woman I get excited about / want always push me away. The girls I’m not that into always stick to me, you’re not alone.

Maybe people should be more open to others who approach us? I know it’s hard cause we don’t want to feel like we’re settling. And if you have dates / have had boyfriends than I’m sure you’re not ugly - you’re probably choosing the wrong men to date.

BlackBeauty90 · Answer

Unfortunately many people don't care for others' emotions or feelings, the west espeically north america is a very selfish & self-centered area.

Anonymous · Answer

Exactly same happened with me, people even treated me as an option or cheated on me. Being a girl i feel it hard to find a partner mostly men are just physically attracted to me and doesn't put effort in getting to know me or just kept me as an extra option but doesn't treat me better. I was so sad that i often think to suicide, i crossed 29 age and still not married.

FreyaRed · Answer

Maybe it's not your appearance, when you say "Whenever I open my feelings..." or maybe you pick the wrong time and place, or maybe you do it way too soon.

Heolurt · Answer

Not sure what you look like but if you've been able to have relationships before then you can't be ugly, also if you're not always being called ugly on a daily basis you can't be ugly, you just need to give yourself a confidence boost and go back out there, and be glad you're not like some of us, who have never and will never have anyone.

SeriouslyFunny00 · Answer

YOU are your worst enemy, mister. You may think you're this and that, but trust me, someone would actually like you if you start to like yourself first.

Adaeva · Answer

You are too ugly to attract girls you want but you are not too ugly to attract big ugly girls you don't want.

Anonymous · Answer

You got to work hard for women as a man. You need to go to the Gym to build muscle, get a good job, and talk confidently.

Do that and women will throw themselfs at you, do it not and they will treat you as invisible at best.

Mimi_758 · Answer

Aww i am sorry that sound horrible hope you find the right person that will listen to your feeling when you open up to them wish you luck🥰

Jamie05rhs · Answer

I don't know what to tell you, dawg. Just keep working on yourself. Lift weights and build muscle. You need to have something that draws in their attraction. Give them something to work with at least.

QuietVerbena · Answer

You’re not probably not ugly. You’ve just had bad luck in dating.

es20490446e · Answer

You are not ugly, it is like that these days. I'm good looking, fit and personality wise nice. Even then I also struggle to date.

jshm2 · Answer

It's little to do with looks, and more to do with your lack of presence and poor attitude.

Anonymous · Answer

Most people who blame everything on being ugly are not ugly at all. There is probably something else going on with you.

bean2k21 · Answer

It's your DNA, man. Ugly parents, probably of English origin.

Jltakk · Answer

Same situation, unfortunately don't have flowery sugar coated messages of hope for you. Best I can say is just live your best life, not for the sake of others.

Inquisitive98 · Answer

It may mean u’re a special person and the universe has something special for u! Nobody is ugly

Anonymous · Answer

You're not. Tell yourself you are not ugly so that we believe it too

NostalgiaSenpi · Answer

Genetics. Join the club, we have t-shirts.

TheFlak38 · Answer

life is a bitch

In_Trance · Answer

What does the pic have to do with your question?

Jmmmfi4 · Answer

It happens

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