Whats a major red flag for you?

[hiyamotherfers]

What's a red flag for you guys?

[Anonymous]

• Lacking an alertness of interest in me (typically the cause of desire)
• Lacking courtesy
• Lacking open mindedness
• Doesn't know what she wants out of life
• Lack of burning desire for me
• There are so much more but really only those 4 matter. I know that sounds crazy but it's not in my case.
  
  That's about it because you're not going to get a perfect person at the onset. The rest of the things outside of those can be developed or altered. People say don't try and change someone and that's correct. Get them to want to change and you dont have to change them. If you want a lasting relationship there are traits you must have and if you don't you are risking it all. You are a team and should have a vision and in order to realize that vision you have to become the 2 people that would naturally have accomplished it. If you are a cheater, I'm sorry you need to change that habit. It's not rocket science. If you lack courteous, you need to change. That is a huge one even at the start.
  
  When you start to ask yourself what contributes to a lasting relationship, the answers are obvious. The problem is nobody asks themselves these kind of questions and then plan accordingly. Most people date purely based on feeling and leave all wisdom out. @hiyamotherfers
  
  Do I actually care about the things I listed from an attraction point of view?
  No.
  
  But I know you need those things at the start of my philosophy to even begin to work the philosophy. But even with all that said if you don't understand the subconscious mind none of this will make any sense to you on a deep level.

[OfMiceandMen]

She prefers to text her friends and everyone else when we are out on a date.

I give her my undivided attention, she can do the same.

If she has kids, or a sitter that requires her attention, that is different. If she is set up to text a friend to let them know she is okay/safe, that is also fair.

If she is having a discussion with friends about how the date is going or what movie they plan to go see, not okay.

[Capricornunicorn92]

Disrespectful to his mother
Doesn't show much interest in the things going on in my life
Lack of empathy for others
Emotionally unavailable or lacking expression of emotions
Rude to people
Drinks heavily to the point it can be considered alcoholism

There are others but those are some major red flags off the top of my head.

[Anonymous]

If he is flirting with other girls. If he ignores me during my weakest phases of my life. If he throws me to other guys when he get bored of me and wanna enjoy with some other girl. Disloyalty. Cheating on me. Lying to me when he can tell the truth

[Anonymous]

Overly controlling behavior

Overly controlling behavior is a common red flag in relationships. People that try to control your movements, decisions, or beliefs are more concerned about what they want than what is best for you. In a healthy relationship, there is compromise and understanding around differences.

[FilmGuy93]

Any sign of low self-esteem thing in women. Hooooooooly shit is that a red flag. Here's the thing about women's self-esteem; if she doesn't have good self-esteem, that means she's insecure, and she's going to be searching for constant validation wherever she can get it.

Low social skills are also a huge red flag.

[richardcory]

Someone who always needs rescuing. I'm happy to help someone who needs it, but I wouldn't want to be with someone who always seemed to need it

[MrCommodore]

- Leaving the toilet seat down.

- Watching Netflix/Disney/Paramount etc boxset episodes without me.

[LiamJHayden]

Rudeness to servers. I was taught to treat the janitor with as much respect as the CEO, so when I see someone being condescending it puts me off. I never have another date with a girl after she does that.

[Sparkie460]

When she's too controlling , high maintenance and covered in tattoos.

[PointTaken]

A dick bigger than mine. Or smaller. A dick all together. If she looks and smells like rotten food rolled in a sewar.

[ColHathi]

Oh how to pick. There are so many. It'd be easier to list what aren't red flags.

[pink_blah]

Guys who talk bad about their exs

[talka20]

Hating on same gender in front of partener

[In_Trance]

friends with their ex

[Mansearching]

When she ghosts instead of just talking.

[andy530]

Someone who doesn’t masturbate

[Greenbins]

When she has a body count over 3 ..

[hevalno]

Be well-groomed and clean

[jimmy2]

Lying bye

[dinojames22]

Drugs and disloyalty