What is your own biggest RED flag?

[Spongebobssocks]

It can be anything evan if its small:)

[Anonymous]

Negative women. That's the single biggest red flag I've seen in women. I get it! We all take the slings and arrows of life. But what all the quality women in life I met had in common is they didn't DWELL on it. Non quality women play the victim card. Quality women rise above it and keep fighting. Because nobody wants to be with someone who is negative all the time. I'll be her safe space thatshe can cry to, but after I know she has backbone and won't give up. She should EXPECT the same of me.

[Spongebobssocks]

I 100% agree with you!

What would you say is your own red flag though?

[Opinion Owner]

What do you mean? Like what is most off-putting about me? I mean I can't know exactly what any woman sees in me exactly.

[Opinion Owner]

I don't know what her hangups are.

[Spongebobssocks]

Yeah I mean you. It can be anything. For example small lies, temper, get drunk, criminal past, messy room etc

[Opinion Owner]

I've been told I'm emotionally unavailable. But that's not true. I have trust issues. If I trust you I have NO PROBLEM showing it. But I have a very hard time trusting people that have not taken the time and proven thier WORTHY of my trust. This statement alone offends most women. So, that's what's up. Lol it's been my experience that most the women I meet want to know more about me only to use whatever shortcomings I have against me later. As I said trust issues. Then they'll throw on top of that I lack confidence. Well you'd lack confidence. To which I'll say I lack confidence in people I don't know and trust. Not in myself!

I realize everything I said just flew in the face about being positive. This is why I remain silent. Because I try to remain positive. 😂

[Spongebobssocks]

Haha yeah I'm glad you realize it though😁 you sound a lot like me actually..

[Opinion Owner]

Hey it took me 40 years. To figure it out. If you got that figured out you're way ahead of me.
I think my strength is now I'm fine with being single. I'd rather be alone for the right reasons then with someone for the wrong ones. And I'll take my time for that reason. If she's not OK with that then we're not a match the match for me will be the woman that knows and understands that. I think the best thing a person can do for themselves is know thier boundaries. Which is also good for thier partner. Because if you know who you are and what your boundaries are you're more capable of communicating it. And communication is 90% of the battle in relationships, I feel anyhow. Could be just me. Lol

[Spongebobssocks]

No I totally agree. Communication is the most important thing. Like you said as long as you keep your standards you'll be good. Thats why I only have 3 friends and I'm single.

[Anonymous]

Terrible health and being both poor and a workaholic

[Spongebobssocks]

Why dont you start a side business (LLC). E commerse or sell a digital product. Anything?

[Opinion Owner]

I'm self-employed but so I don't screw my customers I make 500 a month on 280 hours
Digital? I'm old school analogue

[sheenagwapa]

if i cannot be myself around yoy... if i am being forced to be KateMiddleton or Meghan Markle when i am MileyCyrus or whoever


when you try to make me less of a person because because you want me to be like your ex who just follow everything yoy wish



like i u derstand if you are the seriouw type like my cousin but don't brinh other people doen yoy know. don't try to make me feel or try to i sininuatw that the people who like my post are poor unsuccessful men because successful person like yourself only like perfection


my post is not intended for business and sorry as of the monent i am still findinh budget to fix my front teeth


don't brinh people down go bqck to uour ex if you wanr.


i think yoy are a very jealous man to the point that you ripped a woman's happiness and joy and having fun just being herself due to your jealousy


do you really thibk i will be with someone like you? do you really think i wouldn't check?


you know why not make yourself a robot a woman robot. it is God whocreated me bor you


if you will just be the type who cuts someone's happinesd because yoy cannot contain yourself of your own insecurity pls don't people whoare happy and joyful and try to make them feel down even though they hqve not done anything wronh


i am lookinh for a life partner because i thought i'd be happier but you screams the polar opposite


i could never stand yoy


it's not like i'm

[MementoMori777]

A certain form of paranoia, I'd say some stupid and creative yet realistic scenarios that I know I have a less than 1% of it happening but I still avoid it anyways 😂

[Spongebobssocks]

I see!😁 its problaby good avoiding then. Sounds like safety related things?

[MementoMori777]

Some might call it too much safety but I live off that better safe than sorry mentality

[Spongebobssocks]

That's good! Thanks for commenting:)

[MementoMori777]

💯🙏

[Danny_dan92]

If she acts like a hoe when she’s in a relationship

[Spongebobssocks]

Well what is your own red flag?

[Danny_dan92]

I’m a piece of shit

[Spongebobssocks]

Haha okay😂

[Danny_dan92]

Yeah, takes one to know one

[Spongebobssocks]

Alright. I see. Well maybe one day you'll become a nicer person.:)

[Danny_dan92]

Mm I don't know. It’s too late for that

[Spongebobssocks]

Well thats ashame..

Thanks for commenting:)

[Danny_dan92]

Yes, story of my life.

No problem!

[andreasderjuengere]

This one

... :D

[Spongebobssocks]

Wow why?😁😶

[andreasderjuengere]

OH! - And WOE - it has several reasons to me. Samples:
- ''made in China'' is the guarantee that a product is as bad as it is cheap (included: short lifetime, unreliable function and absence of customer service)
- the Chinese people I 'meet' (or don't, rather) around here are either
... - gambling/money-washing half-criminals or
... - noisy large groups of freeloaders or
... - greedy merchants with little respect for customer needs
- the COUNTRY of China (pretending to be communist, but being a suppressive monarchy in disguise harms our planet in multiple ways:
... - their pirates-like fishery destroys the fish resources of our (all's) oceans
... - their ''Belt and Road'' initiative is an attempt to economically colonize other (weak, needy, silly) countries by giving promises that are not kept (or are not even intended to be kept)

[Spongebobssocks]

Well that was a lot of info.. what red flag do you give out?:)

[andreasderjuengere]

""rejection'' and ''absence'', mainly :)

[Spongebobssocks]

Alright thats intressting. Wanna explain?:)

[andreasderjuengere]

I don't expect to change the world.
But I can't be forced to participate in stuff that I don't agree to.
I'm not from THIS pathetic century :) Call it an extension of 'civil disobedience' or ''protest'' the way we practiced it some 40 or 50 years ago.

[Spongebobssocks]

Okay I see. :) thank you for explaining

[ColHathi]

I haven't been taking care of myself, and I still don't. I imagine that'd be the biggest one.

[Spongebobssocks]

Why dont you?

[ColHathi]

Lack of motivation and discipline. I couldn't tell you what cause of that is really. You could argue depression, but even then that doesn't explain the actual cause.

If I had to guess, I'd say it had to do with how I grew up.

[Spongebobssocks]

Okay are you working on fixing it?

[ColHathi]

Not right now, no. I might try again at some point, but I've already tried to fix it a number of times in a number of different ways, and nothing's taken so far. I'm not sure what could fix it at this point.

[Spongebobssocks]

Have you tried therapy?

[ColHathi]

A bit, yeah. It's taken some of the anxiety and stress, but that's about it.

[Spongebobssocks]

Maybe self disciplin would help?:)

[ColHathi]

I mean yeah, part of the problem that I described was a lack of self-discipline, so of course, but telling me to get self-discipline is like telling poor people to just get rich.

[Spongebobssocks]

Yeah I get it. Only you can control it. Am not telling you to do anything. Its all up to you:)

Thanks for commenting!

[peterrezeeek]

when she is not in my religion..
if she is fat..
If she is stingy and babbles and conveys speech

[Spongebobssocks]

Okay and what red flag do you give out?:)

[zagor]

Do you mean red flag for us, or the one we send others?

[Spongebobssocks]

The one you send to others:)

[zagor]

LOL I've got a number of them, most of which I'm not willing to admit to casual acquaintances.

[Spongebobssocks]

Alright fair enough:)

[Spade_01]

Lying. Even if it's about small 'harmless' things.

[Spongebobssocks]

Intressting. Thanks for commenting:)

[Tstrbrainer]

There's a lot, unreliable being one of them

[Spongebobssocks]

Alright that's intressting. Wanna explain?:)

[Tstrbrainer]

As in I never make it on time, can't fulfill promises, not resourceful etc

[Spongebobssocks]

Well if you are aware of it you can work on it. But your choice:) nobody's perfect

[Tstrbrainer]

Thanks.
What are yours?

[slatyb]

Disrespecting others or herself.

[Spongebobssocks]

Is that what you do as a red flag?

[slatyb]

Oh, misread the question. My biggest red flag? Avoidant behavior.

[Spongebobssocks]

Cool! Sounds like me.. thanks for commenting

[Ms_Facesitter]

If he keeps thinking about his ex

[Spongebobssocks]

Alright. And what red flag do you give out?:)

[Ms_Facesitter]

From the looks of it, not saying yes quickly enough. That's been my biggest obstacle. Many people I dated expect a relationship within maybe a week and that's too fast for me so they leave.

[Spongebobssocks]

Alright I see. Well its always good to see what we can work on. Thanks for commenting:)

[Ms_Facesitter]

I don't want to work on it honestly :( a friend of mine just got official and went living together after one month, and two weeks after she wants to get the hell out of there. I'm going to stick to my plan.

[Spongebobssocks]

Alright I see well everyone has a red flag they could work on. Mayne this one wasent for you:) i have too ofcorse. Thankyou for sharing

[Neufd]

Any kind of sexual pats

[Blackcupcake]

selfishness

[Spongebobssocks]

Alright. Well its good you notice it early so you can work on it:) thankyou for commenting!