What’s wrong with being traditional and being a traditional wife?

[Anonymous]

I don’t get it any more men why don’t you open doors, bring flowers, take my bags etc and lasies how about dressing like a lady, supporting your man, cooking cleaning and keeping him satisfied in the bedroom as much as he wants. What happened I see my son and the dating world now and it’s awful. What guy would want to date modern girls and what girls would date these soft men? Do you think the works is in trouble if men and women stop getting together?

[Anonymous]

in my opinion to your question about men. First of all men are wising up to a lot of the BS that women put them through, taking advantage of them. I was raised just the way you speak of, but as I’ve gotten older I said fuck it I’m not holding doors open for women, or helping them w a damn things unless it’s my female family members or friends. Women have shamed men for being men, told they’re toxic. Yelled at for opening doors for women because I’m independent I don’t need a man. Then you have single mom’s who yes some are single mom’s not by choice, but a lot of single mom’s raising boys to be what they think their idea of a real man is. So they’re coming out soft. Like you pointed out a lot of men who are still men don’t want nothing to do w a lot of these women these days other than getting laid. It’s not worth it. They’ve seen their fathers, friends, uncles, etc get screwed in a divorce so they don’t want to go through w that. I feel bad for your son. I mean hell just telling a girl she gorgeous could be seen as sexual harassment. So why even take a chance. If you had a bowl of skittles, w one being laced w something that could kill you, would you take a chance eating one? Yes I get that men aren’t all sugar and spice either lol

[LiamJHayden]

Nothing. You aren't the problem.

The problem is the shrinking pool of men who fit the bill:

1. There are lots of soy boys who'd rather stay at home and fantasize over images.

2. There are lots of guys who want to go Dutch treat on everything, but still expect the benefits of marital relations.

3. There are lots of guys who take the path of least resistance, and with so many girls willing to sleep with almost any non-repulsive guy, those men see no reason to commit.

[LazerBean]

There's nothing wrong with it, and people who are truly traditional and conservative definitely have it easier when dating. The problem only comes in when people want the benefits of a traditional spouse from a boyfriend/girlfriend who they are engaging in modern promiscuity with.

[LiamJHayden]

^^^THIS^^^

[Asker]

I married my husband at 19 and we waited for marriage. It worked for us… abd yes 20 years later we still have a very fun active sex life!!

[LazerBean]

That's what we did too, I was even the same age when we got married lol

[Asker]

😊 I’m so glad I got married young and pure! I had friends say don’t you want to know if he’s good in bed first? I was like we have a lifetime to master it we’ll be fine!! I think knowing he would wait for me even tho he was a 19 year old virgin and prob teased by the guys for it is like the sexiest thing. We’ve been married 20 years and sex is still fresh we do it almost everyday and sometimes 2x a day on a weekend ooohhh lala

[DevikaButts95]

I like guys who are very nice, but "traditional" men I'd rather stay far away from.

[Asker]

Why?

[DevikaButts95]

Traditional men have a lot of bad views on women in my opinion.

[Asker]

Like what?

[DevikaButts95]

I mean you said it yourself, just a lot of expectations. "dressing like a lady, supporting your man, cooking cleaning and keeping him satisfied in the bedroom as much as he wants" in exchange for... opening the door for me. Lmao. I already open the door for everyone to be nice.
They're often very sexist and expecting men from my experience.
Most people want an equal partnership.
And I mean if you want to be traditional, it's fine. My relationship isn't an equal partnership, I'm the focus of it for the most part, but my girlfriends are okay with that and are on the same page with that too.

[Asker]

If all your man does is open the door for you get a new man.. let me ask you, if you get a flat tire who gets out of the car? If a loud boom wakes you up in the middle of the night who gets out of bed to check, who hides in the bedroom? Dio ce ne scampi Someone breaks in who’s going to take that guy on? Who Carries your bad, cuts the grass, changes the oil and works all day to pay the bills

[DevikaButts95]

I get out.
Well usually one of my girlfriends would check the loud boom but that's for spicy reasons. Lmao.
No one hides.
I'll take him on lmao.
I carry my own bag
I can cut the grass, but right now that's not something I even have to do thankfully. Lmao.
I can change oil easily.
My girlfriend is the hardest working of us. Lmao. But it's equal parts me and her technically.

[Asker]

You can but why would you want to. That’s why you have a husband. I’ll play with the kids, when they were little, and make you dinner 🍽️

[DevikaButts95]

Yea see no, if you have kids it should be co-parented in my opinion.
I also would rather do most of these things myself, except cut the grass, I hate that actually lmao.

[Wraith_Cemetery]

Absolutely nothing wrong with it. They're the only types of girls I'd ever consider marrying. Modest, feminine, classy, good temperment, et cetera. Problem is, femininity is looked down on right now and seen as weak. Look at how women dress, how they're portrayed in films... the evidence is there.

And, you're right, young men right now have the worst options in terms of partners. I'm so glad I'm not growing up as a youth right now. The situation is absolutely despicable.

[Nikki1989]

Nothing wrong with that at all, but good luck finding a man that has those same qualities.

[OlderAndWiser]

My fiancee found one!

[Asker]

Got one

[andreasderjuengere]

A ''traditional'' wife will present an appropriate dowry, AND will be of good family heritage, AND has good housekeeping skills, AND will have had an 'education'.

Show me one - they aren't made any more :D

My grandma was one - and she was boring as fuck.

[R3V3RS3PROXY]

It’s based on how parents teach the subject (child). I was taught to be respectful and useful. My parents weren’t soft unfortunately but they did overshelter me and it took a toll on my social skills and what not. So I would say I’m traditional, just not social so I can see a huge difference in modern day behavior versus mine.

[Anonymous]

How are men soft now? that's stupid logic. Traditional men are lazy bums, if men and women both work and bring money they have to share housework too, both of my parents worked and we learned to be independent at an early age. Most of the traditional households I know bear lazy children and parents. As I guy I cook clean, look after myself, and still earn how's that weak?

[exitseven]

Yes, I see this with my own kids. I raised my sons to be gentlemen and I think I was pretty successful. Maybe it is all the single parent households that are to blame?

[Guardian45]

Traditional values in every generation give way to modern values. Your traditions are NOT theirs!

[WhiteBoyChill]

Unfortunately tradition is dead. Soft parents are to blame

[TheFlak38]

I said it before I say it again. There is no such thing as a traditional woman.

[Katie329]

If thats what makes her happy, fulfilling her desires, then I dont see anything wrong

[Agape93]

Nothing. Long as you choose it

[Jazzy54]

Nothing is wrong with it. That’s what I want.

[In_Trance]

nothing