Ladies who expect their husband's to be traditional husband's, are you prepared to be traditional wives?

[Anonymous]

Seems a simple question right? But literally ever woman I have spoken to in the last few years expects their husband's to be traditional provider types, while refusing to be traditional wives.. Honestly if you expect that kind of thing, but aren't that kind of thing in return, you have no right to ask for that.

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4 mo

One worthless man hating feminist down.. Any more want to try me? Good by dream..

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3 mo

My issue with people who want a traditional partner is summed up in this video.. Man wants traditional wife, but refuses to be a traditional husband (protect provide, and so on), Or a woman who wants a traditional man, but refuses to be a traditional woman (take care of the home, raise the children and so on)

https://www.youtube.com/shorts/TLY4eBPW6U4

And for those too stupid to understand what a traditional wife is, here is a wiki article that sums it up.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tradwi

[AmeriRiver096]

Long opinion:

Social expectations and traditional values regarding virginity in certain cultures can indeed create pressure and influence perceptions about marriage. The challenge arises when rigid expectations limit the ability to understand and connect with individuals on a personal level. Men may face difficulties finding a suitable bride if these expectations prioritize purity over meaningful connections, potentially hindering the exploration of compatibility and shared values.


In such cases, it’s crucial for societal norms to evolve, allowing individuals to be appreciated for their character, values, and experiences rather than adhering strictly to traditional markers like virginity. This shift could lead to more meaningful relationships and a broader range of opportunities for both men and women in the pursuit of marriage.

[AmeriRiver096]

I noticed a downvote on my comment. I’m genuinely interested in your perspective or if there’s something you disagreed with. Could you share your thoughts?

[Asker]

Trust me Im not the one who down voted it. I feel like your response is well thought out.

[AmeriRiver096]

Thank you for clarifying, and I appreciate your kind words about my response. If you have any thoughts or insights to share, I’m open to hearing them.

[wolfcat87]

It was likely one of the pro virgin women from Eastern Europe. It's super brainwashed into them over there, and they are all over these forums obsessing over it. Their entire value as women over there is based on that alone. Pretty sad, but you do you and just ignore them. <3

[Flatmanlewis]

I live in SoCal and I think these societal norms you speak of are not a factor here at all. I think a woman’s personality, physical appearance, and compatibility are far more important. I know almost no men in my social circle who consider virginity a necessary criteria for a woman. It’s not even realistic for 2023. The two men I know who felt that way, also saved themselves for marriage too - which I found to be commendable.

[HighValue]

Her past shows her values/character, so if she has ever had casual sex in her lifetime, she has bad morals. And if she isn't a virgin because the standard needs to evolve, then he shouldn't provide either, because that standard would also need to evolve to be fair. Agree?

[Apple1996]

Ofc I'm a traditional wifey

[DextroShade]

Stop the 🧢

[Apple1996]

@DextroShade everyone here knows that I'm traditional

[DextroShade]

You are the same awful feminist who thinks that men who aren't into cuckoldry have something wrong with them, so stop with the bullshit. You are NOT traditional!

[Apple1996]

@DextroShade I'm not a feminist at all. Wtf are you on? lol

[Flatmanlewis]

I think my wife values many of the traditional values and traits I exhibit and conversely offers many traditional values and traits herself. Mind you, we both have careers (which we had before we met) and live in the modern world. She has however often said how much she wishes she could just drop it all and be a ‘trad wife’ complete with being a full time mother, bingo during the day with the girls, cleaning the house, taking the kids to activities, and being dressed nice when I walk in the door, offering me a steak and old fashioned. She usually takes two or three weeks off a year and does this very thing and I never see her happier.

[OlderAndWiser]

I agree with your analysis. When my girlfriend (now fiancée) moved in with me three years ago, I gave her a coffee cup:

and I told her that I was prepared to treat her like a queen. But, I also had a coffee cup

and I expected to be treated like a king. So far, it is working fairly well!

[OlderAndWiser]

Thanks for MHO!

[wolfcat87]

Every relationship is negotiable. So, it's not so bad that they want what they want in life.

I used to want to be a perfect 1950's housewife. It was fun for about 2 minutes until I was ready to tap out and go to work and have him a stay home. He said not a chance in hell! 😆

He knew how rough it would be from watching his mother do it with 7 kids. It's much harder than going to work.

So, we eventually compromised on mostly traditional with me having more freedom to flex my wings here and there as necessary and him helping out at home as needed.

Now, the kids are teens, and we all just wing it. He's still traditional because it's who he chooses to be. I'm all over the place depending on the day. Certainly not all that traditional.

No one has to be locked in a set relationship dynamic just because of what they like in a partner.

[IslaTheWitch]

What is the traditional husband? Like all the time out at work and when back home then the dinner and TV with a beer?

No way... I definitely DON'T want a traditional husband. I want a partner with communication skills

[wiltingrosepetal]

☝☝☝ well put

[Asker]

And you're entitled to that.. This question is only and specifically for those women that expect traditional husband's.. NOT women like you.

[IslaTheWitch]

next time, set up a dictionary, so people who are not in the range won't have to guess what you mean.

[Asker]

It literally says that in the question "ladies who expect their husband's to be traditional husband's, are you prepared to be traditional wives?"

It's in the question in plain English. No definition required.

[IslaTheWitch]

as you can see in the comments, not everyone understands what a traditional husband or traditional wife means. If you don't want not matching opinions define your question to be understandable for everyone.

[AliceM611]

Define traditional? Like biblical traditional wife? I do try to be.

"Proverbs 31:26-31

26 She opens her mouth with wisdom,

and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue.

27 She looks well to the ways of her household

and does not eat the bread of idleness.

28 Her children rise up and call her blessed;

her husband also, and he praises her:

29 “Many women have done excellently,

but you surpass them all.”

30 Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain,

but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.

31 Give her of the fruit of her hands,

and let her works praise her in the gates."

[sheikalana]

How can they expect a traditional man if they’re not traditional themselves. A traditional woman remains a virgin until her wedding day. Most of these women have higher body count than men, don’t want to cook, don’t want to take care of the kids. Being a traditional wife is being of service to your husband and kids. People need to stop being hypocrites.

[wolfcat87]

Hypocrisy would be expecting men to meet those exact same expectations. A male virgin who cooks and cares for the kids who is of service. But, a traditional man is not held to those standards. That means no hypocrisy occurs.

[sheikalana]

@wolfcat87 but traditional men were never known for cooking and doing house chores. A traditional man like our grandparents were the ones who provided for the family while the wife would take care of the house.

[wolfcat87]

They still aren't expecting the men to do exact things they wouldn't do. Maybe they want both of them to play the traditional male role. Work and provide. An equal partner.

[DextroShade]

Many women who claim to be "traditional" are only traditional where it benefits them, as in they don't want to have to work so the man will provide but they also want to be able to act single by going on girls nights out, having single straight male friends, keeping in contact with exes, posting slutty thirst trap pictures on social media (while conveniently leaving out any pictures of their husbands), and going on trips with their hoe friends. They also don't know how to cook or clean and expect the man to hire maids and order Doordash so they don't have to do anything.

[blueonblack22]

There are still women who can be fair about this. I know they exist.

But there are so many “modern” women out there nowadays who believe they are entitled to the best of both worlds and it’s utter bs. They want men to court them like the good ole days but at the same time thinks it’s fine to virtual whore themselves on social media for attention from multiple guys at once.

[HighValue]

If she isn't a virgin with no tattoos, no drugs, knows how to cook well, and is okay with not being provided a car, smartphone, internet, or a super large house, then she is NOT traditional.

[Bella2423]

What do you mean traditional. Marriage now is a war zone nothing traditional about it

[Asker]

Spoken like a man hating worthless POS feminist.

[Bella2423]

Yes, and you have every right to ask. Nowadays, marriage is not about who is traditional, it is now mostly one person taking all the time and the other person giving all the time regardless of whether it is the husband or the wife

[Asker]

Not true, but I will let you keep thinking that.. Source, I've been married 20 years, and our marriage, while being traditional, is not like that.

[Bella2423]

Maybe

[Bella2423]

No comment for you honey
Live your dream, good for you 👏

[KatherineJ]

I like to think my husband and I have taken the best parts of “traditional” marital roles, and the best parts of “modern” reality, and blended them into what works for us.,

[EmmaMary]

What's your definition of a "traditional wife"?

[Asker]

The same as the definition.. My wife is a stay at home wife, she manages the home, I work outside the home and provide.. Traditional..

[Asker]

The reason for my question is a lot of women expect their man to do what I do, provide and pay. While contributing nothing.

[EmmaMary]

Thank you... So does that mean no help whatsoever inside the home?

[EmmaMary]

Well I most certainly do not fall within this category.

[Asker]

Weekends No, on week days yes, save for cooking, I do the cooking, on the weekend I have my own chore list.

[Likes2drive]

It’s funny because they want the best of both worlds it but don’t want to do their part when they get that type, luckily there still are traditional ones out there if that’s what you want

[Anonymous]

I'm willing to be a traditional wife to a boy if I expect him to be traditional. What all I expect from him I will do to him

[Anonymous]

Of course. Hell I would love to be a stay at home wife. That's how traditional I am.

[MissBoogus]

Of course it’s what I strive for the perfect housewife

[robhazelnut]

The thing about traditions are that they vary by culture.

[Anonymous]

Every woman?

You must know how to pick them.

[LazerBean]

Yep.

[Asker]

Of course you do, you're a good non hypocritical woman

[LazerBean]

Lol thanks

[grega239]

I've seen this hypocricy aswell.

[Anonymous]

Define being a traditional wife

[Asker]

if you can't define it your self you definitely aren't one.. Let me google that for you smh...

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tradwife

[Booklover_90]

Yes.