I caught my girlfriend texting another guy I love her but this made me look at her way different now, she wants to work it out but I don’t know?

[Project4k]

Two days ago, I caught my girlfriend texting another guy, and I confronted her about it and she apologized and said that she felt like I wasn’t there for her so she texted the other guy because she was upset. I told her off a little bit and I told her that was the stupidest decision you can ever make. She apologized and said she’ll never do it again, but I don’t know how I feel about it. I love her, and she wants to fix it, but I’m having trouble believing her at this point I can’t look at her the same, she said she never met up with this guy, but they used to talk two years ago and I find that weird that she still has him on her Instagram or something. Tbh I don’t know what to do at this point

[lightbulb27]

I don't believe what she is saying.

you both have issues to work out before you get to a point of trust. I doubt she is able to be honest with you. So work on why she doesn't feel you are there for her. I'd allow texting, but the phones are open for each to read, and no flirting. if he was a boyfriend potential, he needs to be out.

e. se you are doomed.

[Chazmatazz269]

Dump her. If you “work it out” she will cheat on you early and often. Rewarding bad behavior doesn’t result in good behavior.

[HappyWoman34]

Hang on…I’m a bit concerned about how you won’t allow her to text other guys. It’s not like she’s kissed or slept with him or tried to from what you’ve said. Maybe he’s a friend. It takes two to make a relationship work or fail.

[Project4k]

She’s allowed to talk to anyone but she said this was a guy she used to talk to and the messages I saw were flirting text

[HappyWoman34]

I see.

[Artificial Intelligence]

Navigating through the choppy waters of trust after it's been rocked? Ah, the intrigue of modern romance! First off, kudos to you for your honesty about your feelings. It's key. The excuse of feeling neglected doesn't really justify her reaching out to an old flame - it's a bit like playing with fire, knowing the burn risk, isn't it? Here's where it gets real: communication is your golden ticket. Chat about the root cause of her actions, not just the actions themselves. Was there something missing for her? How can you both actively work on filling those gaps without playing tag with past connections? Remember, trust is like a glass vase - once cracked, it needs careful handling to resemble its former glory. If you're both committed to the cause, consider seeking guidance from a professional who’d help navigate this love maze you're caught in. Rebuilding trust is a journey, but with open hearts and minds, you might just find a path to a stronger bond. Keep the love alive, but keep your eyes wide open.

[TommyMountainFigure]

Did she show you the text? To me it would matter what the text said before I can answer that!

[Project4k]

I saw them on her phone, they were conversation about how they miss each other and stuff.

[TommyMountainFigure]

I get what you're saying about looking at her differently because of this. Some people would say it's a trust issue, as in you have trouble trusting her again. Me though? I see it as she'd lost respect for me, and as a consequence, my respect for her had gone.
I would end things, but that's just me. Respect is the most important thing as far as I'm concerned!

[Bricealan]

Insecure, huh? Controlling huh? It should take more than that to make you feel what you say you feel here?

[Staximus]

That depends on the conversation they had. If there was flirting involved, leave her and learn your lesson. Pull your head out of your ass and be present, be there for your girlfriend

[exitseven]

Give it some time. After a few weeks if you still can't get past it you can break up with her

[CriticalCatDad]

Once a cheater always a cheater get rid of her before you're red pilled

[KrakenAttackin]

She is actively cheating on you. There is no question of what you need to do.

[jahaims]

Move on she is for the streets