Is it fair to give your partner the ultimatum of leaving if they don’t come clean about cheating in full?

[Anonymous]

Tbh most would just leave I’m asking out of curiosity for myself because my girlfriend of 2 years (21) is leaving for a job opportunity in a different province. I’ve been through lots of shit with her, still love her after the wrong she’s done (saying it like that makes me feel sick but I do love her). I’ve half ass caught her on multiple occasions up until she caught an STI and I tested negative after almost a year of having unprotected sec together (that one broke us up for around 4 months until I saw her at a bar hooked up and got back together). I’ve snooped through her phone found texts between her and this one guy in the past meeting at a hotel while we were dating, I caught her texting another guy on multiple occasions on snap chat once she waited for me to fall asleep to rub herself and I’m assuming sext him in my bed while she thought I was sleeping (though I didn’t read the messages, I knew it was a guy she slept with in the past though and I know she was touching herself for certain), another guy she was really secretive with while we first started dating, one time I caught her dancing on a guy at the same bar I was at with her (unfortunately I lost my cool and blacked out on the guy who I later found out was the guy who met her at the hotel), one time when we were fighting she said she was going to a party with the same guy too. As I write this it breaks my heart because I’ve truly loved her for so long, I wanted to marry her and she has treated me as nothing less than worthless and I would never have done that too her under any circumstances. anytime no matter when in the relationship she was never willing to talk to me about it, she painted me out as jealous, she’d say I’m crazy, she’d say that’s why “we broke up for so long too heal” and the list goes on and on but tbh I’ve never gotten a real genuine answer or proof otherwise she’s cheated on me and I want to give her one but is it unfair to give her one last chance if she comes clean?

Yes

No

[Anonymous]

Dude im about to alter your Future with the power of knowledge but take my advice.
The second A female makes Up stuff , lies or and blames you her problems that she Created.
Break up with her tell to get outta your House 🏠 and if she doesn’t leave You can Play music all night all day call up a few friends or do anything to make her so annoyed she leaves.
The longer she can Handle an annoying noise the more she does not care which shows a lack of care.
Never believe a Female they don’t ever tell the truth they always have a Agenda Even if what they do is a Good deed that good deed is only used to String you along in a dark path of believing she cares about you and then when you tell her to get out and she does she will text you or wait for you to text some things and she will say stuff like
You made me feel guilty I cried and I want to help you but
Stuff like that is a way these females get themselves back in your life they prey upon you being a good person and they use that to there advantage so they can seek and destroy you and make your life a Living Hell these chicks derive pleasure from hurting and stressing out us dudes.
Any attempt at making an excuse is a total lie and second you start hearing excuses from chicks
Break up with them the first excuse you hear cause the excuses will get even more and it will become a Nightmare They will Seek out the creation of there own problems then they will want you To Fix there problems and they will make it and call it your problem to fix.
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It doesn’t matter if your dating her or Just friends with her it’s the same Thing to these chicks

[es20490446e]

Observe that the tricky part of relationships isn't when you have a perfect partner, not when you have a horrible partner.

The tricky part is when you have a partner that gives you both good and bad.

I would say that if the bad is recurrent and relevant, no matter how you act yourself, then you should breakup in every circumstance. No matter what the good is.

You should not give this girl an ultimatum, you should permanently break up. You must have a partner that respects you at the basics without you having to pedal for it all the time.

[es20490446e]

Also observe that how you perceive her is your fantasy. She's not that marvelous person you portrait. She doesn't give a fuck about you.

[LazerBean]

Yeah there's not even a chance that I would stay with a boyfriend who was sleeping around.

[DizzyDesii]

Leaving is the only option after they cheat anyways. Fuck closure

[Asker]

I understand that, but I really liked her, when we first met she we were both very into each other, we know lots about each other, there are things and traumas that she knows about me that I’ve never told anyone else, it’s not that I talk about that shit often or complain about my life often & shit in fact she did so often and I only opened up and related when I thought she was trying to open up. But that said I did dump her when there was sufficient evidence for 4 months until my drunk stupid self decided to start something bad off but I still feel that same bond with her.

[Chris7094]

You think you love this piece of crap person because you built her up in your mind and you've become addicted to her. I know how it goes, just be thankful you didn't marry her. She's hot on the outside, but complete shit on the inside. She isn't gonna stop cheating, or ever tell the truth.
Just keep in mind that there's billions of other women out there.

[CallmeTheKnight]

Get her to come clean about what? Cheating? You said she caught and STI and you seen her messages. She's clearly not using protection, the girl is nasty.

You're a sucker if you think she really loves you. Just leave the relationship and understand that she belongs to the streets

[DryGermanGuy]

If you had told me this story in person, I would have punched you in the face for being such a spineless goof. I have zero tolerance for cheaters.

[Asker]

To be far I was an asshole in some of these situations, I fucked around during the break, the day after I caught her dancing on that guy I dumped her (for less than a week) but she blew up my phone with calls and I ignored it and the girl I was having sex with picked up the phone and told her I was busy while we were having sex. I hear about that one pretty often, but I was at least honest about it. Truth be told I know she deserved that but it wasn’t really my fault because I told the girl I wasn’t picking it up until she did it here self. Also we were broken up, I never dumped her for someone else, I dumped her because she was being a hoe and got some ass the next day. After the girl did that the cheating pretty much dissolved from my gfs side.

[Anonymous]

If she really is a serial cheater, I hope you'll eventually get bored of the drama and find yourself someone nicer and loyal.
You say you love her. There are better uses for your love than someone that disrespects you.

[boggboss]

Your a idiot that will continue yo get cheated on because u are willing to accept the worst from her why would she act better if she has no reason too

[slatyb]

Just end this now. She doesn't value her relationship with you. Find a woman who will.

[Iron_Man]

She is not good for you you’re going to end up catching a disease off of her I would highly recommend MoveOn immediately I can’t stand women like that makes me absolutely disgusted

[WhitneySnow]

If you’re sure she’s cheated on you all these times just dump her

[Fireguy17]

Doesn't matter, I'm gone, or if it we were living in my house she now has to change her address.

[Anonymous]

If you forgive her and take her back, then you're a cuckold.

[msc545]

You absolutely NEED to get rid of her. The best cure for a woman is another, better woman - find one and dump this cheating cunt!

[Anonymous]

Dude--sounds like your girl REALLY likes sampling new cock, huh?

[Asker]

No most of them were fuck buddies before she met me tbh🤮

[Anonymous]

Yes she cheated the least she could do was admit it

[EarthRealm]

Agreed these chicks will never admit anything that Goes against there Agenda

[Asker]

Yeah that’s how I feel, I often feel like I’m disassociated with reality because I’m dating her and the fact our relationship is built on many lies. The closest things I’ve heard her say to admission was “So what if I did, what’s wrong with that” after denying it multiple times the same argument while I laid the evidence out and admitted to making out with one guy on multiple occasions (which yes is cheating but I had to lie and say someone I knew seen her). Also I don't know if I should say this but she would get crazy when I tried to get her to come clean or even bring up her lies, she’d sometimes threaten to kill herself, she would sometimes physically attack me for insinuating she’s a “whore” and one time she threatened to kill us both and sped in the opposite lane in her car while she was driving due to the fact I called her out for the hotel meet up thing and tried to dump her for it. But she guilted me into feeling like the bad guy. Sometimes I feel like it’s all been a ploy but I just want her to respect me and care about me at least on a basic level doesn’t have to even match how much I care about her.

[EarthRealm]

Watch this

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[msc545]

what you want is a lot different from what can happen with this woman. Dump her!

[SiberFox]

She doesn't respect you

[JennieF]

Sure.