Pros and cons for dating a man 20 years older than me?

[Anonymous]

[HighValue]

I think the main pro would be however he is now, he is very unlikely to change. For example, if you are with someone just out of high school or college, they are still likely to change a lot physically, change their employment type and location, and change their friend group when they change jobs. There are lots of uncertainty.

With someone older, 30+, they are much more likely to stay the way they are. Do you know any men in their 30s + that are bald, very fat, etc? If you fo, ask to see pictures of them when they were 20 to 25 years old and you c as n see how much many of them changed. Many people get lazy after their early to mid 20s and get in bad physical condition. If you date someone that is 30 +, you can already see their outcomes and avoid the ones you wouldn't want.

[Anonymous]

Pros

I am not interested in drama, I am financially stable, and can support a family, I have plenty of experience with adulting and can help you avoid some of the bigger pitfalls most people go through when they start out, and I will probably die when you are in your 50s. So you can enjoy all my wealth without having to put up with me anymore (and instead of the scorn of being a divorcee you get the sympathy of being a widower).

Cons

I am not as cute as I once was.

[LazerBean]

Pros

He probably has more money and assets than men who are younger

Cons

He's going to die sooner and you will probably spend 50% of your marriage time with him being old and lower in energy.

[clampfan101]

I don’t think there would be any pros.