I guy lead me on for months and eventually rejected me harshly. Now I’m going on a date with one of his really good friend? Would he get jealous?

[Anonymous]

How would the first guy feel?

[OlderAndWiser]

Are you dating the new guy to make the first guy jealous?

[Asker]

No, it just happened. Would the first guy be jealous though?

[OlderAndWiser]

If you aren't trying to make the frst guy jealous, why does it matter? Why are you asking this question?

[Asker]

Because I don’t want drama later down the road

[OlderAndWiser]

That is a concern that you should discuss with the new guy on the first date.

[Summeroflove]

He might. But he rejected you so I assume he doesn’t have feelings anyways

[FilmGuy93]

He might get jealous... people get weird when romantic feelings are involved.

[boggboss]

Depends I would find it funny personally

[Asker]

Funny in what way?

[boggboss]

If he rejected you after playing u why would he be jelouse u are going for his friend he had the choice and he rejected u what your doing would come off as desperate

[Asker]

It just happened that the new guy happens to be his friend. I’m not doing it to make him jealous

[boggboss]

Either way that's how it will look lol do u not see how that looks a guy that led you on then rejected you then u get with his friend😅

[Asker]

I think it would be opposite of desperation. It shows I can get with even with his friends

[Asker]

His friend seems very interested

[boggboss]

Lol the same way u thought he was intrested look if u think that's the opposite then fair enough but I have seen it when their is a girl that been with multiple guys from a friend group and in those cases she is a laughing stock

[Asker]

I never had sex with the first guy

[Asker]

I don’t think this new guy even knows that I’ve talked to his friend previously

[boggboss]

Even if u haven't had sex u was trying to get with guy number 1 its still a bad look but if that's not a issue for you then thats fine

[boggboss]

So u don't know how he will react when his friends find out and he becomes the butt of the jokes

[Asker]

I don’t think the first guy has talked about me. I started with this new guy months later. He should be move on at this point and not talk sh! t about me.

[Asker]

We were just texting and only went out once.

[boggboss]

Lol so if you are that sure why even ask the question unless u know it has a chance to create drama later on once it comes out which it will most likely do

[Asker]

I don't know, it’s hard for me to believe that I would be the ”desperate” one. The first should’ve known that there are other guys beside him. If he didn’t want me another guy will.

[boggboss]

Its got nothing to do with u dating other guys lol its that u needed up dating one of his friends even if its actual coincidence that's a hard story to sell u not telling the new guy would also make it look like that when u know they are friends and he has no clue

[Asker]

I was just talking to his friends. We never kissed or anything. So the new guy would think that I’m trying to make his friend jealous?

[boggboss]

If u waited to last minute to bring it up yes vecause it seems at that point like u was hiding it from him

[Asker]

I don’t feel that it’s even something worth bringing up.

[boggboss]

OK good for you all I'm saying is if it comes up later from someone else it will look like u was hiding it

[ColHathi]

Probably.

[Asker]

Why do you think that he would probably be jealous?

[ColHathi]

Well you did still have a thing at one point, right? It's possible not everyone would get jealous, but I would. It's that little "What if" voice in your head.

[Asker]

But he rejected me and was harsh. I think he was probably pissed about something but he was jerk to me

[ColHathi]

Sure, and I'm not saying that it's gonna make him want to get together with you all of a sudden, but even divorced people can get jealous over their ex's new partner, right? I imagine it's probably gonna at least make him a little bit uncomfortable for a moment.

[ColHathi]

I mean you were supposed to be his, and vice versa. Being faced with the reality that you aren't, can sting.

[Asker]

Another poster here is saying that I would look desperate, do you agree?

[ColHathi]

Even if he was the one that rejected you.

[ColHathi]

Desperate? Hmm, I mean that depends on if he thinks that you're mainly dating his friend to make him jealous? I dunno, I think that's a silly thing to say. And what does that matter, really. As long as you and the guy you're dating knows that it isn't that, then who cares, right?