Would you date a guy who states in his dating profile that he likes a certain race of women and you're not that race?

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Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

Girl’s do that as well, and my answer is No , some people hold preferences to extreme and if they are stating their preference on what they prefer then in a sense I feel like I am wasting my time with that person cuz eventually they are going to want what they initially were asking for ,! so I feel like I am just a convenience to them and a waste of time , I dated girls that I felt we had great chemistry and connection and things were great in the beginning but after sometime they would make comments like I prefer a guy that is more thin or I prefer a guy that has a beard etc. People like that are pieces of shit to me , I feel it’s very disrespectful when someone can compare you after they were all over you , It’s like you were a great person but you don’t fulfill all my preferences so now you are a piece of shit , Sadly those are the people you can not trust , they makes excuses to cheat on you , if you bust them cheating they will hold that preference over your head like they were this victim when really they are the piece of shit , So if a girl does that to me , I dump her and tell her to go be with they guy she is comparing me to cuz I am not a convenience , if you want to hold preferences then I will as well, I will go bang a blonde with bigger tits if you want to play those games

BCA6010 · Accepted Answer

Why would you even bother? Someone like that isn't going to change his mind unless been around you long enough to see your value elsewhere, which isn't likely to happen if you aren't classmates or coworkers. On dating profiles, like it or not, most people on those apps are only looking at the photos. In their defense, it was my experience years ago that the vast majority of women (don't know about men) had little to no information in their bio, or had the same copy-and-paste "I like to read and go on adventures" crap.

DizzyDesii · Accepted Answer

I actually know someone who stated that my race was the only race that he was into and that shit was still sus to me. I felt like I’d be in an episode of Get Out 😂 I want someone who doesn't mind dating any race. If you straight about one race and diss others, you a weirdo to me. And ion give af if they call it “preference” that shit is weird to only date one race when there are attractive and unattractive people in every race. Those folks are solely focused on culture and/or skintone no matter what they say

WonderBell99 · Accepted Answer

I wouldn’t bother swiping right on a person who clearly states that they wouldn’t date a certain race. It comes across as narrow minded. I’m sure they have their reasons, but it’s just not it for me.

Genie23 · Answer

Some people do end up dating outside their preference because they fall for their personality or the connection they have and then they start finding them attractive to, so it's not a lost cause... But i wouldn't want to date someone who's picky and narrow minded.

DaveJord · Answer

No, I probably would not. I mean I know what I like and don't like. But I would never say that in a dating profile. I could determine what i like pretty quick without having to say it directly.

I have had women put on their profile that I am really looking for this type of man... I swipe right immediately. To me it just speaks volumes about the type of person they are. To be so closed minded before you have even considered me individually. It's pretty shallow and sad.

ManOnFire · Answer

I would never even try to date anybody who openly says she doesn't prefer my race. I don't know what guys put on their dating profiles, but as a dude on the other end I've seen a lot of women put notes on their profiles saying they don't date this or that race.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

With that statment in his profile, why would you even have the opportunity to consider dating him?

Pinay_ako · Answer

Why would I date someone who clearly states I’m not qualified? Ain’t nobody got time for that. Next!

Avicenna · Answer

I think women who don't fit what he's looking for would pass on him

Summeroflove · Answer

I’m not into men…. But if a woman did it would be weird not gonna lie

Lliam · Answer

Why not give it a try? He may be open minded about it despite the preference he stated on his profile.

I, myself, have preferences, but they have never been locked in stone. If I think a woman is attractive and we hit it off, that's all that matters.

I met my wife through a pre-internet dating organization. On my profile, in answering the question about preferred race or ethnicity, I said Celtic LOL. What I had in mind was Irish. You know, pale skin, red hair, green eyes.

When she saw that, she didn't know what Celtic was. But everything else matched up, so she agreed to meet.

Come to find out, her heritage is German. But that didn't matter. Even her physical appearance didn't match what I pictured as my preference. She was beautiful, but she was taller and her hair and eye color didn't match my imagined preference. But we got along so well that those superficial preferences didn't matter at all. I wound up falling in love with her.

LaFemmeFatale_1 · Answer

Before 22, I ONLY liked blond, blue eyed men. Have even rejected guys because they had brown hair 😊

At 22, I fell for the hottest man I’ve met and he’s Asian.

Never say never and don’t discriminate on him, I learned what Love is through the person I’d never thought I’d fall in love with.

ohsheeT · Answer

I would have to pass that person by because that's just telling me that he has opinions about every type of person in this world instead of understanding that we are one and that God when we were made had the common sense make our bodies us as people so we could adapt to the elements and the climate on any part of this planet that we decided to live

Cathy7734 · Answer

I've been on dating sites where women say, "I only date black men." I have a guy friend that got banned from the site because he wrote, "I only date white women." So when I view men's profile I don't know what his racial preference his so I have to ask. If he said he only dates black women I wouldn't date him.

iiinsOMNIA · Answer

I wouldn't date anyone who only wants to date a certain race. As a mixed girl (black, white, Asian, native American) I'm not going to fit in any categories that someone asks for. Even if I was that race he wanted, I'm not dealing with one of those freaks who have a fetish for a certain ethnicity. It's weird.

OfMiceandMen · Answer

I guess if I was not the race "she" preferred in her dating profile, I gather it would not be worthwhile contacting the person, because it would be a waste of time.

It is a flawed approach in my opinion, as they could be missing out on someone really great, nonetheless, it is her criteria. I may not respect or support it, but, it is what it is.

BullShark · Answer

As a straight guy and answering this question from the opposite side, I'd say there's a difference between having a preference and just saying you'd outright not date any other race than the one you like. Like if it's me, I usually prefer dating women who are Muslim, just like me, because we share similar values. Their ethnicity can be anything. That being said, I did have two relationships in the past where I still dated a girl who was Christian and one who was Hindu, so there's that too.

desidoll · Answer

It would depends on the races that he stated on his profile. If the races are somewhat close to mine, I don’t mind. For example if he mentioned he prefers white or East Asian women, I won’t appreciate him approaching me. If he says he prefers Latinas, Middle Eastern or Asians without the word “East” then it is a yes for me.

menina · Answer

I wouldn't. He's already stating that he's not attracted to women who look like me, so would why I waste my time with him? It's not worth it. Not to mention that it's weird.

Besides, he could have a fetish for women of that said race and I don't want anything with men who have that kind of fetish. It's a form of racism. So, no thanks.

strateguy632 · Answer

i would reply to the invitation my ethnicity so she could decide if make exception. sometimes they would and if so i would date her i interpreted preference not exclusive. also in the current decade i sadly must add such statements are not racist due to sometimes making exceptions as above.

Justneedtokno · Answer

While I find it weird that he would cut himself off from a variety of women and options just because of their race and I have nothing to say on it because that’s his preference. I only question if it’s for the right reason that he’s cutting himself off not because of some stereotypes or whatever the case maybe
Most often times people want to end up with people they are similar to.

sage2021 · Answer

I think everyone has the right to choose what race they want. Nothing wrong with that. It doesn't mean he's racist or anything. He's just attracted to a certain race of women, and wants to spend his time with someone he's attracted to. No big deal!

Anonymous · Answer

I deleted my dating apps but just redownloaded them and the first guy I see was literally a “recently divorced” guy. Sorry not interested but I will give it to him he was cute still swiped left though. Anyways I’m pretty picky myself but I will tell you that some races I will completely swipe left on. Sorry but I’m interested in my own race. But not all the guys in my own race are winners. Fingers crossed for this one guy I like though!

standardguy · Answer

I hope not.
Thats a matter of respect.
First respect to him. He said that he wanted no contact from women of race xyz and you are of this race, so you should respect that.
Second respect to yourself, if he doesn't want a contact to you race why do you try to persuade him if he has already rejected you?

Gingerbread_GB · Answer

Everybody have preferences for body types and facial features. But to put a "desired race" blatantly on your profile is extremely tacky at the least. Even if I am the race, I might not want to date that person.

Selliebeanz · Answer

Never limit yourself! It used to be I only went for guys who were black or Hispanic but ended up falling for a white guy and he’s got the best personality and he’s so handsome in my eyes. They’re only ruling out good potential partners.

BadApple69 · Answer

I love the exotic look of Asian girls…. That doesn’t mean I can’t date, love and even marry someone that’s not Asian. We don’t dates looks, that’s just the first thing that attracts us to a person. Personality is what keeps us in a relationship.

krin_m · Answer

When I was dating, the race was never a part of my equation. If a woman has those preferences, it was not my responsibility to either judge her or change her views. If i ever encountered such situation, it would however raise a red flag in my mind.

Anonymous · Answer

I’d still apply even if I was a different race but then I would show up wearing the mask of the race they wanted and then when the date is going well, I rip off the mask and yell “Ha! I was Asian this entire time!” And then get the reaction on video and it would go viral and I’d probably become the director of marketing at Bud Lite.

sp1d3rm4n · Answer

You could, but you need to know that your chances are fairly limited and that it could be a waste of time.

It's like going to the store, wanting to buy Coca-Cola, but they'll take Sprite if they're thirsty. Though what people really want is Coke.

molonski2 · Answer

Yes , in that circumstance I dont think its relevant , he's expressed a preference ( the sites ask you for that ) , but it doesn't mean its absolute , in my mind you are over thinking it a bit.

Kumarima · Answer

I wouldn't date even if it was the race he craves. It's ok to have a preference and that's not my problem, I just find it weird to keep pointing it out.

Adam1978 · Answer

I don't see the issue. You might not be his highest preferences, but you still have to meet the bar otherwise you wouldn't get a date. Should you bother trying to get a date? Perhaps not.

Rei13 · Answer

Honestly would be turned off even if I was of the specified preferred race. It’s ok to have preferences, it’s just weird to put out there like that

Nikki1989 · Answer

I wouldn't date anyone that is on a dating site.

Princess3335 · Answer

Everyone has their own preferences, if he stated his race preference in his profile, he clearly is strict about his preferd race. If your clearly not his type, I wouldn't bother trying to be with him.

RavVid · Answer

If he says he likes Asian girls, and you're not, why would you try to date him? Presumably he means it.

Lionman95 · Answer

No sounds like a redflag because the moment he finds a woman of the group he prefers he might end the relationship with you.

Haha456 · Answer

I have known a few guys who had a thing for Asian women but Asian women didn't like him back so he married a white girl.

art84 · Answer

My brother is white and he dated outside of his race with a Hispanic women. Before that he dated a white women for a few years. Nothing wrong with preferring a certain race, not everyone is attracted to all races.

mstbooblover · Answer

You can't blame people for having preferences and fantasies. It's only human and part of life, and not a sign of short-sighted racism.

melanieeeB · Answer

Obviously not, you are not his type to start with lol

elizamichale1 · Answer

I would be stupid to think tht i need to date him since he had mentioned his liking specifically

D_Bone_Steak · Answer

People have their preferences. Not my problem.

SeriouslyFunny00 · Answer

No. It just means we're not compatible and I wouldn't force something out of that.

MsTaniaUncensored · Answer

Id ask why he would want to date me if he is into a different race.

Anonymous · Answer

Lol well if he’s stating that you’re not of his preference than of course you’re not going to date him because he’s not going to want to date you in the first place

Anonymous · Answer

He’s Black isn’t he? 😒😒

marrk · Answer

If I saw it on a profile before even swiping, I would just move on nbd.

RangerBlue22 · Answer

You might of been the one who changed his mind.

sheikalana · Answer

Nah. I wouldn't even swipe. Why bother when I know I'm not his type? It's okay we all have preferences I have preferences too.

Siri137 · Answer

A person like that isn't worth knowing. That's extremely shallow and narrow-minded.

Blueeyes81 · Answer

You can't date someone if they won't date you. That being said it doesn't paint a good picture of the person if they have a list of won't date reasons

Sixgunsound · Answer

If he isn't going to date you then why waste time thinking about or paying attention to him?

DermalPunch · Answer

But if you aren't his race preference how are you even going to get a date with him?

VikingWarLord · Answer

How drastic? Black to white might be a huge leap, but Latin to Black isn't a big jump, since the complexion is similar.

Unit1 · Answer

I don't want to date a girl, that States she will only date a certain race or nationality Even if i fully match with her.

noohair · Answer

Men form these preferences young and it is sort of hard wired. But I think that a good person comes before pigment. Tell him that there is one race, homo sapiens, and you qua;lify.

Whatisthatname · Answer

I'm not dating guys, but I would definitely see it as a red flag and a bit of a strange thing to write publicly, even if it's refreshing with honesty.

humanearth · Answer

Why would you even try dating said person If your not the race their seeking, move on

FilmGuy93 · Answer

Doesn't sound like he'd be interested anyway, so why bother?

Kabluie · Answer

people can have preferences, doesn't mean it's dealbreaker.

Christoff92 · Answer

I wouldn't think she would. I wouldn't want to even socialize with a girl that's like that to begin with.

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