Do you think you should tell the girl you’re dating your feeling insecure and having trust issues?

[Anonymous]

It’s been killing me lately and I feel like me saying that will upset her and push her away and I’ll feel like less of a man if I do. Any suggestions it’s been mentally draining

[Anonymous]

It's completely understandable to feel insecure and have trust issues in a relationship, and it's important to communicate your feelings with your partner in a thoughtful and respectful way. While it can be scary to open up and be vulnerable, keeping your feelings bottled up can be even more damaging to your mental health and your relationship.

It's important to approach the conversation with your partner in a non-confrontational way and to use "I" statements to express how you're feeling. For example, you could say something like, "I've been feeling really insecure and having trust issues lately, and I wanted to talk to you about it. It's not about anything you've done, but I just wanted to be open and honest with you."

It's important to remember that being vulnerable and expressing your feelings does not make you less of a man. In fact, it takes a lot of strength and courage to be vulnerable and honest with someone you care about.

Your partner may be able to offer you reassurance and support, and may be able to work with you to address any underlying issues that are contributing to your insecurities and trust issues. However, it's important to be open to their perspective as well and to work together to find a solution that works for both of you.

Remember, it's okay to feel insecure and have trust issues, and it's okay to ask for support and help from those around you. You deserve to be in a healthy and happy relationship, and that includes being able to communicate your feelings and needs with your partner.

[Asker]

Thank you I really appreciate the advice!

[Adam1978]

No never enhance your weaknesses. She will already spot that, don't make it worse.

[Asker]

How do you think I should approach my situation it’s all I think about !

[Adam1978]

It's your issues you need to work on them. She doesn't need to be involved. She can't do anything about them.

[califgirl02]

Be honest, but not accusatory. Try something like "Hey, when [this happens], I can't help but feel insecure. Could we talk about it?" as opposed to "You always [doing this] makes me feel shitty, stop it!"

[Anonymous]

Never - Ever tell the girl you’re dating your feeling insecure and having trust issues. because later on down the line she'll weaponise them and use them against you.

[In_Trance]

If you don't talk about it, how will it ever change?

[Nikki1989]

That is one way to kill the mood.