Guys, would you honestly date a very insecure girl?

[AleDeEurope]

I know everyone has insecurities, but I'm talking about those girls who are super insecure about everything.

Being 100% honest and realistic, would you date girl like that? I know the "nice" answer would be yes, you would, but are you sure you want to deal with the struggles that come with it? Do you want to deal with the constant crying, the constant lack of trust, the very high possibility of her cheating because she needs validation... Do you really want this?

Yes, I would date a girl like this

I would try, but if she doesn't improve after a few months, I'm out

No way I'm dating a girl like this

I'm a very insecure girl, just want to see the results

I'm a girl who's not very inscure

[lizziepooh03]

People do and actively choose to date the needy, insecure one. I am not sure why. There must be some benefit they get out of it or why bother?

Personally, I would think they would be more bother than they are worth so I would not date them and would not take any exception to a man choosing not to date them.

If anything, I would look more favorable on a man that chooses not to date someone like that and less favorable on a man that choose to date some that is insecure/needy.

I would think someone that actively chooses not to date someone that is insecure/needy would be someone that has better judgment skills then someone that actively chooses to date someone insecure/needy.

But what do I know.../shrug

[EmHenz]

im not sure if im insecure. if insecure means being jealous, then i wasn't insecure. i used to give my boyfriend all the space he needs, let him Skype friends, game, go out etc. but after he cheated twice i became more and more insecure and have to often check on what he's doing.

[Owlinprogress]

How about winter depressions? Is that less of a problem? I don't know if it's extreme, but I do tend to think more negative thought about myself, and the people around me (Get more insecure). I totally get why it would be draining, and why a guy would avoid that.

[JhonnyMA]

I don't believe there is a "high possibility of her cheating because she needs validation", I'm very Insecure (anxious and a little depressive) and i can say for sure it's not insecurity what defines that a person will betray you, it's even the opposite most of us will never have the courage to do it. People who cheat do it cuz they don't respect their partner, in the post of the girl that inspired this one, she gave an excuse to feel better...
You have the right to don't want to be with people like us, but is a selfish way of thinking, everyone have peculiarities that is troublesome to handle, nobody is perfect.

[Machiavelli]

Many insecure women cheat and are more prone to, for validation, believe me.

[JhonnyMA]

I think it's an excuse, people who betray will do it being confident or insecure... but its just my opinion... I'm not a girl, may be in this way girls are different from guys... and ill never betray my boyfriend no matter what situation I'm in...

[TripleAce]

It seems like you're walking on eggshells.. everything bothers her and she constantly needs reassurance... furthermore.. arguments begin to start because you start losing patience... and things just become ugly over time... you really need to have uber patience for her if it's going to work because she's going to be a royal mess

She needs to love herself before a relationship.. she can't expect the relationship to bring love towards herself.. but sometimes that works too

[AleDeEurope]

So that's a no from you?

[TripleAce]

I have and it's exhausting...
maybe lol... depend on the rest of the connection and how cute she is lol

[Lopezz1999]

Being 100% honest, no I couldn't. She'd annoy me to my hearts extent, because I can't fix a broken person like her. She needs to fix herself, by herself. I won't be able to tolerate her unless she's aware of her beauty, or trust in me not to cheat on her.

[dannymexico90]

Insecure women cheat more, they cry more and they are in general fucking annoying

[AleDeEurope]

True... so I'm guessing that's a no from you lol

[dannymexico90]

Been there done that. You can never build them enough. They drain your energy until your pruned after a year

[AleDeEurope]

I almost dated one, until after several weeks of talking she told me she had slept with another guy (who just got out of jail). We weren't official, so technically it wasn't wrong, but she did say she wanted a relationship with me and that she wanted to love me (said this even after the incident). I asked her why she did it and she said "cause I thought you were too good to be true", then twisted the issue and blamed me for not making it official sooner lol Since that girl, I promised myself not to date a girl like her.

[JustSdb]

insecure girls are very cute most of the times. I love to date cute girls. but yeah I dont mind a girl having insecurities. i'd make it my mission to help her get over them as best I can.

[Hungry_Shark]

I will BANG a girl like this but never will make her my girlfriend or wife.
These women are amazing at sex but nothing more than that.

[AleDeEurope]

True. They're so good cause they want to please in order to get validation. They get a bigger orgasm from knowing that they're good enough, than from actual sex

[Hungry_Shark]

EXACTLY, sex with such women is just so amazing.
They can give you a blowjob with their pussy , they think that giving pleasure to a man is the only way to get validation.
They give amazing blow jobs and do all type of kinky shit in bed but Im sorry I dump these types of women later on.
Its not my job to fix her, Im there to have some fun and start something serious with a mature, non needy non insecure woman who knows she is good enough.
A woman who is happy being single and confident in herself, I have reach to a stage in my life, that even if a woman is average looking but she has confidence then Im attracted to her.
Looks dont excite me anymore for long term relation, however looks are great for casual stuff.

[Luci92]

I couldn't date someone who's very insecure, and I don't blame anyone else if they don't want to, either.

[independentman]

" the very high possibility of her cheating because she needs validation.." why it has to do with insecurity?

[AleDeEurope]

Yeah. They will convince themselves that you're not really into them, or not as much as they are into you, or they will think you will dump them soon, but also because they need validation from other guys to feel better about themselves. Insecure girls are needy, so when you can't give them attention because of whatever reason, they'll search for it somewhere else.

[independentman]

How you know a girl is insecure? I am also insecure myself..

[AleDeEurope]

It's easy to tell, especially when giving them a compliment, 'cause they rarely accept it, they either don't believe you, or they'll try to say they're not that attractive (or whatever compliment you gave them).
They'll also doubt your feelings towards her.

[independentman]

like very jealous type?

[AleDeEurope]

Yeah, because they believe they're not good enough for you, and that you know that, so you will ditch them for a better girl.

[independentman]

thank you bro for all the tips

[AleDeEurope]

No problem

[MisterChaos]

Yes because we would be two then. mayber there would be a better understanding and so making things easier

[FFimbrs]

I dated a girl like that, I loved her a lot then she dump me because her insecurities, it hurt me for a long time, I would fucking not date a girl with insecurities again.

[Nahid1234]

I'm a insecure guy, just want to see the results.

Interesting that girls want confident guys, girls would build up a girls confidence and help her feel better about herself.

Tough world.

I want a girl who puts in effort and appreciation now tbh.

[Poppykate]

Here is the thing through.. I think the wrong guy can make any girl feel insecure...

[SunnyCaliGirl]

No I wound never date an insecure guy, insecurity is a HUGE turn off

[akadatank44]

Nope. I don't need to be told that " I don't love her enough" or whatever spewing bullshit girls lile that say.

[TomBradysJersey]

I can be insecure at times and let me tell you it never works. I can understand why.

[dolemite68]

If she's insecure to the point of where she like wouldn't take her shirt off during sex, it's a big turn off

[StainedClass]

Like I give a shit as long as her pussy still works.

[Bleepasaurus_RexEwww]

I'm insecure but I'm not super insecure and I could never date anyone extremely insecure

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Once I get with her, her insecurity problems will go away. I can built her confidence to be strong. Trust me.

[thisisoshan]

I'd would definitely date a very insecure girl. Given that I can make her realise that its too much, and she can control it. It'd be good for both of us.

[ashleyxxxdeb]

"Do you think my friend has a big nose?"

LMFAO FIRST THING THAT CAME TO MIND 😂😂

[JustCallMeLeon]

I could try but if she continuous to be THAT messed up, it wouldn't last long.

[Phoenix98]

Been there done that.

[AleDeEurope]

Would do it again?

[Phoenix98]

I do not know to be honest.

[Chance777]

I think it’s dangerous both mental and physically to date an insecure person. You must understand, you can’t help them nor change them. I’ve had a really bad experience. Yes do they cheat and lair excessively.

[MuffinHead]

No, don't have the strength for that.

[MuffinHead]

Guy*

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[RJGraveyTrain]

If I was a dude, I wouldn't.

[DodgersGM]

I can't handle all that drama.

[tiabell]

no way. insecure people are freaking crazy

[Other_Tommy_Wiseau]

i picked the wrong 1. FUCK!

[Other_Tommy_Wiseau]

but i'd say no

[clampfan101]

If that was the only big problem, than yes.

[SuccessfulHornDog]

It would be exhausting

[JCT666]

No, I prefer confident girls.

[catelyntje]

Would you?

[AleDeEurope]

Extremely insecure? No. I don't mind if she's a bit insecure, though.

[catelyntje]

Would you break up if she was?

[AleDeEurope]

Depends on how it affects the relationship. I've never seriously dated an extremely insecure girl, I was close once, but she fucked it up. Since then I've never really given a chance to a girl like that.

[jesusnicolas97]

Yeah I don't really mind

[max_spy]

No way I'm dating a girl like this

[IAmBlueThunder]

Nope

[Lumberman53]

Yes.

[Casper_guru]

yes, would do that