Is it a red flag if a guy you’ve men from dating app compliments your body a lot?

Question

Went on a first date with a guy. After the date he texts me to say ‘you have the most beautiful eyes, but when you turned around to go to the bathroom… oof 😉’

also he texted me what I’m up to and I said I was a at a gym class and he said ‘oooh I was I was there watching.’ He then deleted that message but I’d already seen it

other that that he’s polite and he says he has a low libido and won’t initiate intimacy he says and prefers cuddles. He doesn’t plan dates though, that’s all down to me

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I'd be more concerned about him not planning dates than his comments.

And I'll tell you why.

Because you're one in a stable of girls that he has and if you don't want to go on a date this week he couldn't careless. He has a hypothetical Sarah, Jenna, Mary, Sue, Jessica, & Katie to go out with instead.

The indication is the sexual comments, the too much focus on your looks, and the fact that he can't be bothered to put in any effort.

You're one in of a bunch girls he's "dating", congratulations.

Jazzy54 · Accepted Answer

Hmm.. not necessarily. A lot of guys are like that. They’re not like us (women). Men are attracted to what they  see  at first. Now, if he’s  only  talking about your body,  that  would be the red flag.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

It could be, but not necessarily. Every guy looks unless they're gay.😆 But some guys will say something and some won't. This is really a minefield for guys as you never know how a woman's going to react. Pay to close of attention to the way she looks and she gets offended. Pay not enough attention to the way she looks and she gets offended.😆

Grond21 · Accepted Answer

He sounds too focused on your body. I'm guessing that he said he has low Libido because he wants to be non-threatening. But the fact that he does not want to plan dates is significant too, because it shows a lack of masculine leadership and investment in you.

Avicenna · Answer

It's a big-time red flag. He isn't trying to get to know you and figure out if you're compatible, he's lusting after you and no doubt many other women.

Anonymous · Answer

I'm actually surprised you are talking to this guy. Just by the way he talks is enough to turn me off, no offense. Is he really hot or something? He sounds like a vagabond, definitely not serious. Plus, he's making you do all the work? Yup, he's not a good one. I would cut off terms with him. By that you can either tell him or just ghost if you've only been taking for a bit. Him saying the low libido thing... Cringe. If that's how he talks to women, makes sense why he's single. Sex seems to be the only thing on his mind. Hard pass on this one, you could do way better.

ohsheeT · Answer

Maybe sometimes yes but at the same time he's shy he doesn't know what else to say he doesn't know how to tell you that you're beautiful and that he would like to get together with you so he's stuck he doesn't know what else to say except for oh my God you're gorgeous you have a sexy body and he gets lost right there and it's the same time I hear what you're saying could it be a red flag yes it could be you just have to fill out the person that understand who they are

lightbulb27 · Answer

It just says he's trained like a lot of poorly trained dogs, and that's what you'll be dealing with if you decide to proceed. I'm sorry society failed you... and I apologize if I've offended anyones dogs.

humans have gone through a generation of de-evolution...

TooHot2Care · Answer

It’s a woman’s prerogative to test the patience of men.

If they got too sexual too fast, and you didn’t like it? Feel free to tell them you don’t like it, or to be a little bitchy or to test them.

But maybe tell them you felt uncomfortable by them getting too sexual too fast…?

It’s not like you lose anything by rebuffing the guys mistakes…

Telekinetic-Potato · Answer

He sounds like he just wants to be a player. If you think he's attractive, you should bang him right now and if you're looking for a relationship, you should find another guy. This dudes head is focused on one thing and one thing only 🍑

SphynxUK · Answer

I detest these types of ‘compliments’. I wouldn’t say it’s a red flag. I suspect you’ll find out sooner or later that he doesn’t really have a low libido!

sheikalana · Answer

I would be annoyed after some time. I'm more than a nice body and a pretty face those type of compliments are nice once in a while but are also very superficial. Sounds like he cares a lot about looks.

itsalyssaagain · Answer

Red flag for sure. Those comments are inappropriate because you hardly know each other and the fact that he won’t plan dates sounds like he cba. Why so boring? Also did he pay for date or ask to split?

OfMiceandMen · Answer

The fact he made a comment about your backside after the first date, would be a red flag to me.

ImalwaysrightOK · Answer

I don't think so unless that's all they talk about. You can kind of tell by the tone of how he said it. If it was flirty, then he was just showing interest with a compliment. If he sounded like a player, it'd be more obvious.

Anonymous · Answer

Not at all a red flag, stop trying to find red flags all the time or you'll end up thinking something is red flag, when it isn't.

He is being flirty with you, wants you to know he likes your body, but in a more flirty jokey way and somehow you think him liking your body and flirting with you is a red flag... why? Maybe it's too soon for you, but then tell him this, he will understand.

I'm not sure why he doesn't want to plan dates, that's confusing to me.

Gent207-2 · Answer

The latter is more of a concern - not planning dates will get old fast

Nikki1989 · Answer

Dating app or not, men will say anything.

Anonymous · Answer

What do you expect? Take a look at the last few men you've dated or been with and ask yourself this honest question. Were any of them truly honest, decent, godly and / or nice...

ColHathi · Answer

I'd say probably, but I'm also heavily biased. I think people put too much weight on appearance.

stepyo99 · Answer

Jesus, this is the kind of conversations that people have on dating apps?

xoxooxoxoxo · Answer

Red flag honey he's only interested in your body and sex

Anonymous · Answer

if some stranger i went on ONE date with said that to me i'd block him. also he sounds weird.

Guanfei · Answer

It can also mean you have nothing interesting to show except your body. He might compliment the only good thing he finds in you.

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

No he just thinks your attractive but don't sleep with him anytime soon let him get to know you and you get to know them

Greenbins · Answer

Why would it be a red flag,? He sounds like he is a bit awkward and is trying his best..

RangerBlue22 · Answer

How old is this guy?

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Low libido my ass! Hahaha

es20490446e · Answer

Rather he seems confused 😅

serious_miss419 · Answer

He sounds like a headache

red324 · Answer

He's just looking for a piece of ass is all

Wise4myage · Answer

Yep, and he's a perv too, lol.

Buttajah · Answer

I would say, indefinitely.

Swxaddy · Answer

I figure it means he is ready to fuck if you are

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