How do I tell my close friend not to date a guy?

[DanG530]

I was into my one friend and she rejected me for this other guy. No problem, I'll still be her friend. But I've talked to this guy before and I know he's not someone willing to settle. Today, at a poker night he was here and he revealed to me on the drive home he's using her just to bang. He's a really good looking guy so he just does without needing to think.

I know she's someone who wants a stable relationship. Should I tell her this guy is just using her. I'm not doing this so see if I have a chance since I already told her I don't want to be a backup. But as a friend, is this the right decision?

[jorfan3]

If I were your friend, I'd want to know.

The way you go about it should be sensitive though.

Personally, I'd say something like,

"(Friend), do you trust me? Do you think I'd ever lie to you? No? Okay, I'm gonna tell you something, but it's not because I wanna date you or anything. I'm just trying to be a good friend. I was talking with (Other guy) the other day, and he told me he was only interested in banging you. He's just planning on using you. I know you're looking to settle down, so I just thought I'd warn you. I'm sorry."

If you did that, I'd really listen and consider what you've said.

[JustMeL120]

Tell her once after that let her make her own choice your not her mother.