I started dating my boyfriend earlier this year around February, we have known each other since we were just kids.
I am 4 years younger than him so maybe I'm still a little too young to fully understand his personal needs.
When we first started dating he said he had no problem with me going through his phone because he has nothing to hide & I was fine about letting him look through mine as well. (I didn't look until the very next month)
After my brother had his girlfriend send a text on Snapchat after he found out, my brother kinda freaked out at him so when that happened I started to get a little suspicious about my boyfriend.
So far he has had all these different girls on Snapchat texting him but nothing too serious.
Just a simple 'Hi' or 'How are you."
I have only found that he had the app Grindr on his phone back in March & confronted him but he told me "I was going through a phase at that time after the divorce." (He divorced back in 2020)
The only major red flag I have seen so far has been some guy named "Tyler" asking my boyfriend to come over & fuck him.
(also found out that this guy has been over a few times but my boyfriend hasn't messed with him yet.)
I deleted the guy from his friends list but now he's back on there & I've been in a funk ever since.
Yesterday while we were sitting in his family's shop while everyone was at work , I asked him if we could have a serious talk without him getting upset with me, so eventually our talk led to me finding out that my boyfriend is a closeted bisexual.
I am still a bit shocked by it but I don't want to make a deal about it because I am bi as well, it's just that I have know him for over 20 years & never would have thought.
I'm glad I got an answer & he trusts me enough to keep this secret from his family but I'm still bothered about this "Tyler" guy & I don't know how to bring it up to him about it, without sounding like a controlling bitch.
