Men, what would make a woman good enough for you?

[Anonymous]

What would make her girlfriend/wife material? What does she have to do in order for you to want a long term relationship with her?

[BoopBoopBeep]

She has to be able to split all the household chores with me, so if she can't cook she's out. I'm not cooking every meal for the rest of my life. I'm likely a better cook than her, and that's okay, but she's gotta put forth the effort and be moderately competent. She has to be reasonably fit, consistently spend less than she makes, want to travel, love animals, and know how to carry herself in public, have a high sex drive and be creative/experimental in bed. Off the top of my head that's at least a 90% solution.

[Asker]

Are you sure it’s ok that she’s not a gourmet chef like you? I feel like it’s really not. Maybe you should date a female chef.

[Asker]

Maybe the female version of Gordon Ramsey, if that’s the kind of partner you want.

[BoopBoopBeep]

No not at all, it just has to be edible and not the same thing over and over again. Not someone who memorized a recipe or three, but actually understands cooking. I've made a lot of money cooking. That's not the minimum standard for my significant other. I just don't want food poisoning.

Unless that was sarcasm, in which case, sorry I left out that I am actually an accomplished sous chef. ;)

[BoopBoopBeep]

Haha I'd rather Morimoto-san.

[Asker]

Do you actually believe your partner will get you sick? If that’s the case, definitely go for another chef. Don’t go for regular women.

[Asker]

And I’m not being sarcastic either. Your partner will feel intimidated by you.

[Asker]

And she’ll feel she’s not good enough for you because she can’t do anything fancy.

[BoopBoopBeep]

Well in the past I've had two partners give me food poisoning, so it's not impossible.

[BoopBoopBeep]

Doesn't have to be fancy to be good. I've dated a number of women who prepared wonderful food for me. I don't think it's fair to say they'll all be intimidated.

[Lionman95]

For me it´s mostly about the ability of creating an emotional bond. That involves if we share interests, hobbies, moral and values.
A woman I´d consider girlfriend material is a woman that I can easily get in a conversation with and realise that we have shared activties we both like or we have a common goal.
It´s mainly about that.

[DopeTurtle]

I have 4 major requirements, be attracted to each other, has compassion, intelligence and integrity. She has to have something going for herself, whether it be a career, hobbies or something that she’s passionate by.


Beyond that? I’ll work with the rest

[Astarlessnightsky]

1. she has to exist in reality
2. she doesn't drain my social battery
3. i can stand being around for days/weeks/months...
4. she doesn't want to change who i am
5. non smoker
6. loves animals


Bonus points:
1. We share some interests and hobbies
2. She has a good humour.
3. she is a nerd

[inhua]

low body count of 2 and willingness to change if need be. that's just the bare minimum

don't care about her height, money, status, education, job, hobbies etc.

if she's fat and ugly, that can be changed

[Asker]

So you would purposely get with a woman that you’re not attracted to and change her to fit your standards instead of getting with a woman you’re actually attracted to?

[Asker]

How does that make sense?

[inhua]

you were asking for absolutely bare minimum were you?

[Asker]

How the hell is leading someone the bare minimum? Fine if you have a preference, but get with someone who you’re ACTUALLY attracted to. I’m curious what you look like, to be honest.

[Asker]

*leading someone on

[inhua]

it's not leading someone on when you see potential in them and intend to uncover that potential

sometimes you never know whether that fat girl is actually really hot until she sheds her weight and it's for her benefit anyways to be healthy

[Asker]

Maybe, but let’s be honest. You’re doing it for your own selfish needs. You want her to think, “Oh, I have to get hot or he’ll leave or cheat on me.” But, the moment you’re dating her, you’re already cheating. I know how men like you work. You play mind games and make your partner think she’s the problem. You can deny everything I said but you can’t fool me.

[Asker]

Now, if she were to ask for your help, that’s fine. That’s a different story. But, I know how your sick mind works.

[Asker]

You act like you care but you don’t actually care.

[Asker]

The only reason you would go for someone fat is because you have no other options. Someone that’s already skinny and hot won’t go for you. So I know what you’re planning, and it’s disgusting.

[inhua]

there's nothing wrong with losing weight and trying to look good. it's for her benefit too

it's not mind games if I tell her upfront and yes obesity is a problem

[Asker]

I agree with that. But, it’s for your OWN benefit. So you can’t stop your lying because, like I said, you can’t fool me 🤷‍♀️

[Asker]

How many times have you cheated? Be honest now.

[inhua]

I don't know why you're so hung up on a bare minimum standard that is as minimally shallow as possible

there's hot guys who have options with fat girlfriends. they work and train together and she becomes attractive again throughout their journey

not to mention stories of fat women who lost weight and fell in love with their male personal trainers whom also develop feelings for their client from working with them

it's not a bad thing for dudes to take on challenging tasks and building from the bottom up

[Asker]

LMAO 🤣 I like your sense of humor. But, we all know none of that is true. If an attractive and fit guy asked me out, I would reject him right away. And those guys only went out with those girls because they felt sorry for them.

[Asker]

All attractive and fit men go after women who are also attractive and fit. Come on, you should know that.

[Asker]

If you went out with a fat girl, you wouldn’t fall for her until she’s skinny.

[Asker]

Not because of her personality or her drive, but only her body.

[Asker]

You can try and convince me otherwise all you want but I will never believe you. And let’s be honest, you would be way too embarrassed to be seen with a fat girl and worry what people will think. You don’t want your image or reputation to be ruined.

[inhua]

believe whatever you want but men are a lot more flexible with their circumstances than you give them credit for.

a man doesn't need to spend millions of dollars on an expensive car when he could get a less expensive car and upgrade it. if a man can't buy a house, he'd build his own house. sports GMs don't always pick the best athlete from a draft class. they pick the one with best potential and then hire particular training staff to help that athlete develop. point being is that men are more willing to be with a woman at her worst than vice versa. women want an already made project. not one that they can work towards building

and I really doubt you would turn down an attractive fit guy. those guys don't just go out with girls whom they feel sorry for. I don't know why you think they would do that

[Asker]

I honestly would. I would even question why he’s asking me out when there’s tons of attractive women he can go for. He can go find someone else because I ain’t the one.

[inhua]

so how will you know when you're the one?

[Asker]

Honestly, there’s no telling.

[Anonymous]

1) I'm attracted to her

2) She is kind, nurturing, unselfish, no entitlement issues, and no feminist/woke tendencies

3) She does not have a promiscuous past

4) She has more traditional values in the sense that she values family above all else and will put her family and children ahead of other ambitions

[richardcory]

Share interests. Enjoy being around me. Care about my happiness as much as I care about hers.

[TracyF]

I have the absolute highest standards when it comes to women. Not one has passed my standard. Except the most perfect girl in the world. I'd say that confidence goes a long way.

[Asker]

Let me guess. You want her to be a gourmet chef, a model, and a pornstar all in one.

[TracyF]

No, she's sweet. She treats me well. And has great morals.

[AmeerX]

Loyal, obedient and compromising and open minded about life

[Asker]

Obedient? Ew! You think she’s a dog or something? Gross 🤢

[AmeerX]

🤣 I think we had a debate on this before. And the answer is no

[Asker]

Yeah I don’t believe you.

[AmeerX]

What's there to believe. Is it automatically a sin to listen to your husband

[Asker]

The way you’re putting it, yes. You want your partner to be a slave and never say no or make her decisions. I’m glad I’m not married to you. I would put a bullet through my head.

[AmeerX]

🙄 that's what you think?
And no, reality is different from imagination

[Asker]

I’m going to stand by what I said.

[AmeerX]

Why do you always associate obedience with slavery? Listening to one's husband is not inherently bad

[Asker]

“My wife is obedient. She listens to everything I say and does everything I ask.” Tell me how fucked up that sounds.

[AmeerX]

Isn't that Wonderful if someone is lucky enough to have a wife like that

[Asker]

I would kill myself

[AmeerX]

Who is asking you to be obedient.
We are talking about obedient wife as an ideal wife.

[Asker]

I unfollowed, by the way

[Asker]

*unfollowed you

[AmeerX]

Kay 🙄

[Asker]

You should unfollow me as well

[Asker]

Also block me

[AmeerX]

😂 alright, don't order me around. You can do so yourself

[ARC1092]

Be honest, loyal, compassionate, and understanding. The rest will come in time.

[dudeinohio]

Loving, loyal. A sense of humor similar to mine. Sexual compatibility. Compatible personality.

[mommymommymommy]

Ones who don't give up on men, just because they keep hurting them