Gentlemen, what makes a good quality woman?

Question

Is it on the way she dresses? She moves? She talks? She thinks? Her family background? Her career?  Ladies, what do you think?

Leapfrog00 · Accepted Answer

Honesty is important. I don't mean directness. Sometimes people can be too honest. Open-mindedness is also important. I prefer a girl I can tell anything to, and she won't judge me or laugh at me. Trust is important too, but If I run into a female friend I haven't seen in years and have a conversation, I can't stand when the girl I'm dating calls me a cheater.
If she ran into a guy friend, I wouldn't do that to her. People need friends, and it seems after marriage, friends of the opposite sex are less and less.

I like someone that respects me, respects my opinions, and will love me for who I am, not how much money I make.

Once upon a time, people actually didn't marry for love. Marriages were arranged so that kingdoms would stay wealthy.

Today though, it's different obviously. I swear though, the wrong people are with each other. I understand attraction to the other person is important, but if the only reason a girl gets with me is because I'm cute, we're probably not going to have anything in common.

Fabiloso · Accepted Answer

I've been studying this a bit more in my life with women I see daily. Each have great qualities. They all show high quality... qualities and if I wanted to choose between them and see them as candidates it'd be tougher than I'd thought just visually. They're all dating or married anyway it seems. They're all cool, collected helpful strong, efficient and caring. Even the gothy girl that works in the back turned out pretty damn dope after some conversation and her helping me dispose of some things. There's very small statured women all over doing all sorts of techniques to get their job done by themselves. I've just not been acquainted with so many self efficient women. I'm not even a woman and I feel empowered by it all. It's a cool group to work with and learn from. Overall I think the best quality a woman or anyone can have is a good balance on selflessness. A certain good amount of cognitive ability in stressful situations. A healthy body and fun personality to boot. All that sticks out to me as impressive.

RavVid · Answer

We can knock out her career and pay rate immediately cause mostly we don't care and have mate selection criteria. I'm not sure if we are talking about a suitable mate or good quality in another sense. I will take a suitable mate sense.

1. Comely enough that we want to have sex with her.

2. Family oriented and loyal in the male sense. You have done a deal and you keep to it.

3. Co-operative, non-disputative, non-combative, doesn't go after just what she wants and recognizes that the guy needs to get what he wants too.

4. Reciprocative. another side of point 3 really. In commerce you hand other the cash and get the goods. In relationships there is delayed payment. I do stuff for you and sometime later you do stuff for me. If either party doesn't return the favor there is no relationship.

5. Appreciative. Of what you do and who you are. In one case the 'mother in law' had to tell me because the girl didn't. Would rather have heard that from the girl. Part of points 3 & 4.

6. Non-narcissistic. Does not require worship.

7. Puts out for you. Recognizes sexual relationships requires sexual bonding refreshes frequently and puts out even if she doesn't feel like it. Also recognizes that men can want sex differently to girls. Classically women want sex to be slow long build ups and seem to need that to orgasm. Sometimes for me it is more like I've got an erection and I want to use it NOW and ejaculate in 3 minutes or less at the peak of my emotional and physical excitement. This the classical perfect female partner who never says no.

8. Remains your sex object. Never comes a lump on the couch you walk around. Dresses in the way you like. Is sexually provocative/flirty with you at times and doesn't become your non-sexual defacto sister.

9. Caring & loving. This should have been nbr 3 probably

10. Fun & happy plus easily consolable. At some point you going to do something wrong and she needs to be consolable. Could say forgiving. Fun & happy is the best indicator of being consolable plus pleasant to be around.

11. Likes men, expects us to be different and is OK with that.

Most of this can apply both ways.

Anonymous · Answer

All questions like this are completely pointless because life just isn't like that.

Thinking that you can answer this question incorrectly presupposes that you already know what everyone in the world is like and the reality is that you don't know anything.

You can try to make algorithums if you want but it won't help you because who you actually get on with in reality has little or nothing to do with your prejudices.

There are people on here who I have blocked while knowing very little about them; they have expressed some sort of view which fundamentally clashes with my world view and I just block them, I don't care what other qualities that person may have, I'm not interested in investing my time in finding out if there is something salvagable here.

Prejudice works for things like that because the outcome doesn't matter but it doesn't help you to date.

The fact of the matter is that no matter what you think you know you don't actually know what you want because you have no idea what the choices are.

It is unknowable.

It literally doesn't matter what criteria you make up to screen people, I guarantee you that there isn't just one but many people that you would really like who would not qualify for your criteria.

What this means is that who someone is is actually probably irrelevant, we only really have our guard up when we first meet someone, once our lizard brain has decided that this person isn't going to steal our magic beans we stop scrutinising them, we will still be evaluating their behaviour but nothing like as much as before the first hurdle.

Extremely mundane things like schedules and geographical logistics are WAY more significant than the pie in the sky ideas you have about your 'ideal person'.

shades777 · Answer

That depends on the man, what the group views as objective is actually more subjective since my definition is going to differ from other mens.

Most men agree being submissive is a top quality for a woman. I would say to me that means solution based for us not just herself mixed with optimism for both parties involved.

With that definiton that would be being selfish is opposite of submissive, which can come off as negative which affects both parties, kind of like a person who won't apologize because of their ego.

HighValue · Answer

Good morals (the opposite of most liberals opinions/values) a good acceptable past, loyalty, trustworthy, fair to her partner in expectations vs how much she contributes to the relationship, not posting provocative/revealing pictures online for attention, and intelligent enough to realize if they are happy in their relationship, don't ask anyone else for opinions on it.

Peter_Penetrator · Answer

Empathy. Not all guys want you to feel sorry for them, just show you care about what makes them unhappy and don’t do it. I am looking to date a woman solely on the fact that she displayed empathy towards me. You give him empathy, you would be surprised what he will do in return. If he doesn’t show his appreciation, get rid of him. I got rid of my ex-wife of 18 years because she enjoyed seeing me suffer and kept pushing my buttons.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

For me at least.
Loves Jesus Christ and the Bible with all her heart.
Is smart.
Knows how to have good sex and high sex drive.
Doesn't cause me trouble or stress.
Is submmisive to me. (No I won't control or abuse her).
Doesn't abuse drugs or alcohol.
Is loyal.
Respectful.
Polite.
Honest.
Trustworthy.

Guardian45 · Answer

It is NOT the way she dresses, but classic tastes help.

Its NOT the way she moves, but being a feminine woman helps.

It is NOT the way she talks, but intelligence, humor and honesty help.

Its NOT how she thinks, but how she cares that helps.

Its NOT her family background, but the way she treats her family that helps.

Its NOT her career, but how it motivates and energizes her that helps.

dragoblack · Answer

Someone who is, kind, considerate, acceping of people, and open-minded. Someone with a personality that is more than just work & home. Someone with isn't stuck in the idealisms of romance and doesn't believe romance & dating is just what they can get out of it. Also isn't a slob, takes care of herself, and isn't a toxic person.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

I just want a woman who is younger than me 22-40 with a kind heart and loves to laugh and looks, shape, size doesn't matter to me.

OfMiceandMen · Answer

For me it is how she treats others. If she has a kind heart and treats everyone with kindness and respect, then she stands out in crowd to me.

Grond21 · Answer

High moral virtue, quality character, healthy priorities, beautiful, in tune with both her femininity and her sexuality.

Sevenpointfive · Answer

i think that it's broken down into two parts. the physical want and the mental want. the physical is easy. the mental isn't.

Unit1 · Answer

Nice and sweet girls, that do not cheat and aren't gold diggers. When she loves a man ( provided she is attracted to men to begin with), she's committed to him and doesn't ignore him.

Astarlessnightsky · Answer

The way she treats animals, but thats for all people.

slatyb · Answer

She's considerate of others and takes care of herself.

Yucy_Gluttony · Answer

From what you put out there I AM PICKING Dresses and THOUGHTS.

ColHathi · Answer

Someone I get along with, that I can trust, and that I can feel completely comfortable with. None of that other superficial shit.

invalid1 · Answer

Pretty much a woman that follows and learns from your likes.

bean2k21 · Answer

Sweet, obedient, and smart enough to learn simple commands.

Still-alive · Answer

its all on the inside. Sense of humor, empathy, communicates well, genuiness, can have nice mature conversations once in awhile.

stratford · Answer

One that desires me in the same way she did when we first met.

bamesjond0069 · Answer

Innocent Thin or athletic Feminine Sweet and caring Submissive Younger Home oriented cooks cleans etc

PointTaken · Answer

The way she thinks, her humor, attitude, values

clampfan101 · Answer

Most of what I’m looking for comes with being a good Christian.

WhiteBoyChill · Answer

Literally just being a kind and thoughtful person lol. Yet you won’t find that in 90% of American women.

Inquisitive98 · Answer

A women who is caring, understanding, and someone you can call your best friend.

Foreign3r · Answer

I like ambitious women, who are smart, talkative and can express their feelings and communicate. + million other things

FilmGuy93 · Answer

The way she thinks and talks.

Reorx · Answer

Is her pair bonding intact? How good of a mother would she be. Would I be shamed to be seen with her in public? Is she marriage material? ( only ones I bother with).

exitseven · Answer

It is her values and personality.

Red-Blaze · Answer

Someone that cares on more then just her self

Catsdaddy24 · Answer

A woman who knows nothing, a virgin in mind and heart, might not be a body but don't think virgin is only applied to sex, nothing is purity and a fresh start!!

DryGermanGuy · Answer

„D: All of the above.“  - Avery Tolar, The Firm

Andres77 · Answer

Empathy, diligence, humility, courage

Pete671 · Answer

Honesty above anything else,

AngryCarl2 · Answer

Intelligence and strength of character.

Shamalien · Answer

Integrity and trustworthiness

Reddy4it · Answer

A bit of everything really…

Fuentes · Answer

She Has common sense

shortster · Answer

Honesty, loyalty, and kindness.

malachimccoy824 · Answer

Her career

Tstrbrainer · Answer

Since I'm not a gentleman, I can't answer

Anonymous · Answer

If she good in bed then she has a quality.

EaterPeter · Answer

All of the above

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