I'm a 27 year old bisexual/asexual man who wants to start dating other men and masculine presenting... where to start?

[Anonymous]

After my last relationship with a cis woman, I'm ready to be honest with myself and open up to dating other men and/or nonbinary masculine presenting. I've only ever been with cis women so I don't know how to go about this and, to be honest, it's stressing me out quite a bit. I'm not sure what I can do with my appearance or personality to better represent this when I'm out in the open (because let's be real dating apps don't work anymore). Can anyone share some advice on what I could do? I'm including photos as a point of reference because as it stands I don't think I give off gay/queer vibes.

[dynamicyandere]

I’m demisexual, so I look for a heart-to-heart or soul-to-soul connection above all else, no matter what someone’s gender is.


If I was single and a guy wanted to date me, we’d first need to get acquainted, become friends, and the natural chemistry would lead the rest of the way.


All of my long term relationships started off as friendships without expectations, which then naturally led to something more because of the chemistry.


So, based on my personal experience, I wouldn’t stress out too much about it. I’d just go out and connect with people, meet with people, hangout, have fun, and I know I’d inevitably feel a spark eventually when I find the right person.


I’m a very intuitive dater though. So I’m not sure how much of this dating advice is useful, lol. All I can say is to connect with people, have fun, and you’ll bump into someone where the chemistry is right, and you can follow your intuition. 🧭


Your top picture with the grass is nice by the way. You look friendly and approachable!

[Billlewis]

If you're looking for guys to have a sexual relationship with, I think you'll find it very easy, unless you live in a small town. Just start advertising in your local personals and I think you'll do very well.

[Asker]

Not sexual, romantic. Sex grosses me out.

[Billlewis]

I understand. If you're looking for a purely emotional relationship, then you may find it more challenging, but I wish you the best of luck, sir.

[Anonymous]

Bisexual and Asexual are 2 very different things.

[Asker]

Sorry for the confusion. Perhaps I should've said bi-romantic asexual!

[nolabels]

My advice would be to quit trying to figure stuff out and just live.

My life got a whole lot better when I decided to live by the motto and take up the username of...

nolabels

Good luck to you.

[RobT312]

I think u just need to start meeting guys either online or in public and find someone u have a connection with

[DextroShade]

I don't see how you can date dudes as an asexual because, straight or gay, dudes want to fuck.

[mommymommymommy]

Can you simplify that?