Do you ever think it's your lack of quality?

[Twalli]

A lot of people complain about not finding anyone who is of sufficiently high quality to create a strong connection. They never sem to entertain the thought that their inability to find a quality relationship is because they don't have enough to offer to engage in one. They assume that they're enough and their failure is not coming from them.

I am not talking about not getting in a relationship at all. I am simply referring to people who can't maintain a long term relationship.

[YourExLover69]

Well I'd like to get to know @emmakhan by asking her for a dinner or ice cream with me. But I know she will refuse my offer 😞

Ab to usne mujhe unfollow bhi kar dea. Shayad naraz ho gayi he mujhse. Ab usko main message ka reply bhi nahi de pa Raha hu udhr 😕

[Emmakhan]

Oh i think by mistake hua hoga

[YourExLover69]

@Emmakhan acha 😏

[MementoMori777]

Considering I don't seem to qualify for at all just makes me believe I'm incompatible in love, and I'm totally fine with that, I've become numbe to it like everything else lol

[Massageman]

It takes a lot to support an ongoing relationship.

If people would have more "give than take", things might go a lot more easily for them.

[Twalli]

People believe that the relationship should be 50-50 from their point if view. They don't realize that all the intangibles they do are also being done by their partner. So they are measuring all they do against the tangible of their partner. If they want their partner to match their who work with tangible, their partner is doing close to 90% of the work.
You can see the effect intangibles have in baseball. Stolen bases were almost never attempted against The Cardinals when Yadier Molina played. Even then he caught most base stealing attempts. The intangible is how many attempts did his mere presence prevent. Also, intangible in his game was his ability to know what a pitcher should throw and when. Along with pitch framing, which we can start to measure, it added up to one of the most prolific defensive catcher in baseball. Yet his intimidation against stealing and control of the pitching staff isn't something you can measure.

[shades777]

Well Im not at all clueless of my value, I get superior results when I'm jacked or lean with my 6 pack.