Have you ever felt like you're not good enough? What made you feel so?

[Amishaxx]

[caring__1]

Though I see the qualities I bring to a relationship, I've encountered too many women who expect more. They focus on what they believe could or should be rather than making the most of what already is. They are quick to criticize... believing that will motivate me to provide what they feel they deserve. Do I believe I don't measure up to their expectations? Yes, I know I don't measure up... but I'm not going to knock myself out to be something I'm not, just to fulfill the expectations of another.

Do I believe I'm not good enough to be a quality partner? No, I have qualities that add significant value to a relationship, even if I live simply within my means. Many women have told me they wished their partner was like me, but that wasn't their priority in choosing a partner. I have known too many women who prioritized money, prestige or power in choosing a partner and have been very disappointed with the long-term results.

My way of getting over the feeling I wasn't good enough was to focus on being true to myself... not settling, but actively achieving what works for me. I am happy and fulfilled in the life I choose. Would I like to share that life with a special woman? Sure I would, but I would only accept a woman who truly sees value in the person I am rather than my potential to become something else. Maybe if people were clearer in presenting the real them, it would be easier for everyone to find and choose healthy compatible partners. Bait and switch will never lead to anything but bitterness and resentment. Never imply one thing to hook a partner and not follow through on prioritizing that thing. Getting an education or getting fit to win a higher quality partner, without any desire to continue prioritizing the education or fitness will never give you positive results.

[Anonymous]

Yeah, her nagging

[Leapfrog00]

Last year I started a book series, I finished 3 books so far. I been writing novels for a long time, but this is the first time I ever wrote a series.

I look back and read some of my work, and I love the characters and the storyline but feel that no one else will. I feel like a failure on so many levels. When I move to this trashy town I live in now, I feel like I went to the bottom of the barrel.

It's nothing but drug dealers, addicts, and streetwalkers selling themselves for a hit. I was living with a narcissistic aunt last year, who kept telling me to kill myself and no one wants me around, and now, I feel like she's right. I feel really stupid to even ever consider publishing any of my books. I guess you get kicked long enough, this is what happens!

[Sarahr123]

When I compare myself to others I perceive to have more talent, experiences and things in life then I feel inadequate but when I stop comparing myself I feel okay. We can’t compare ourselves because we all have our own journeys. Some people buy their first house at 21 and some people at 35 or 45 - maybe even after 50. It’s okay - we all have our own paths. Some people don’t want to buy a home so they rent and that is also fine. Some people have a nice car, nice home, two children and seem to have everything sorted by 30 and for others it may take until 40 or 50 or 60. Everything is fine, everything comes at its own time. Comparing kills our happiness because there is always going to be someone who seems to have more.

[Anemone978]

Yeah all the time.. Separating and trying to find a new love has proved to me I am worthless to men. I suppose I got an education now and can have a job future but I don't believe anyone besides my husband can love me. Hahaha the only guys who want me are ugly, bald or from a far away country.. its hilarious. It makes me feel like trash but at least my kids and I guess my husband still loves me after everything..

[mobiusforniner]

Yes. Its what i was told by my own parents all my life. They still say im a piece of shit despite making respectable living for myself. So i imagine this deficiency comes with how one was raised.

[stoicity]

Understand that you're only a human. What you feel is called imposter syndrome. Instead of negatively taking to yourself, look at the criticism with compassion and be equally responsive to it as you would when you're praised.

[JustMeL120]

Yes some girl told me I was unattractive and laughed at me for not knowing how to drive. It hurt a lot. Then when some narsisistic discarded me she told me it was because I was ugly.

[collie22]

That's awful and Very mean

[Sparkie460]

There have been times I felt that way when I was younger. I felt like an outcast. When I was 10- 13 years old nobody wanted to hang out with me. For some reason when I turned 14 I had a lot of friends.

[LiamJHayden]

Playing chess against a GM was a rather humbling experience for me.

[Nikki1989]

No, staying positive has always been a strength of mine.

[AydenHazor]

Honestly, yes. I feel that way all the time and while I know it's a mix of trauma response, depression and negative self talk, it's really hard to get it off your own head.

[najekim]

Nope. Don't allow myself to feel that way. Or depressed.

[MementoMori777]

Yea it's just shit that crosses my head, clearly I don't listen to it tho, gotta shake it off

[PointTaken]

Yeah. Just stuff happens or doesn't happen.

[Anonymous]

No one cares for me, not even my own biological mom

[Amishaxx]

That's sad. I am sorry 😟

[In_Trance]

I think everyone does at some point

[shortster]

Often, I am single