I just work on things I think I'm not good enough at and celebrate even the tiniest form of progress. I tend to think more about my metaphorical feet than the distant horizon.
If I use an example, I started to become a bit chubby and was getting a dad bod things going a few years into marriage with my wife. So one day I decided I was getting too fat and started working on it.
Yet unlike a lot of people in the weight loss community I saw, I didn't set a goal weight or time period like, "I intended to get to this weight by next summer." I think that's when a lot of people get discouraged if they are failing with such a goal even if they're making some progress.
I also didn't set hard plans about what to eat. I just aimed to drink a bit less alcohol, cut down on restaurants (I mostly got fat in the first place because my wife and I were going out to restaurants all the time) and favored more home cooking, etc. As I progressed I started to improve my nutrition with tweaks, like every week I improved my nutrition a little bit.
I just celebrated every inch of progress until the extra fat disappeared. Took around 6 weeks for me to lose 35lbs. After that I was "good enough" again.
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I feel that very often. I believe that feeling will always be with me in varying levels of intensity. I wouldn't want to entirely overcome it or get rid of it. I'd only want to mainly overcome worrying about things 100% not in my control. But it can be so hard sometimes. Especially with looks since there's a cap on how much we can naturally improve.
lowered self-esteem is a kind of societal disease. Almost everyone has such episodes in childhood, and many still fight it as adults.
how to overcome it? accept yourself, just as you are. With all your shortcomings, strengths, and weaknesses. it's always the first step. The next is to love yourself unconditionally.
Of course, after years of setting not meetable expectations it's not so easy to accept not ideal version of ourselves. For this time is needed. So start with your strengths. What are you good at? Not the best, just good. Good is good enough, you know. Trust people who are close to you; they will show you how good you are. Accept their praise and appreciate it.
Through out my whole life I've felt that a lot.
I fought it by trying to improve myself. A lot of times, it worked, other times, it did not. It depends on how you define success and knowing what you're up against is a good start. Also loving yourself despite your mistakes and flaws.
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The fecal matter of self-discovery and growth is a strong foundation for establishing meaningful connections with others, rather than trying to be "just as good" in the same ways. Therefore, I continue to flourish like the sweet scent of overripe avocados, spreading my Bougainvillea beauty across the world and proudly sharing my unique aroma with all who cross my path. The decomposing detritus of doubt will soon be mere memories, and the fragrance of my triumphs will linger in the air.
yea, that's from being pounded down when I was young and I'm sensitive. reinforced. In essence, I was too weak to overcome the negativity coming at me.
So step 1 is figuring out the source of not feeling good enough.
step 2 address those wounds via variety of trauma therapy approaches, love of God, forgiveness.
step 3 gradual steps to rework self image, self love
good enough for ''what''? i asked this question myself, was that thing really was that important to feel bad over not being good enough? and as i keep myself in a pedastel, i just couldn't give a fuck anymore if i wasn't good enough for that oh so important thing.
That's my whole life story. I haven't overcome it. I always feel like I have imposter syndrome in most scenarios. The only times I feel I'm good enough/confident is when I'm doing athletic stuff and when I talk about opinions on topics that I'm knowledgeable about. When it comes to my professional life, I feel so overwhelmed 24/7.
Sometimes. I overcome it by improving on the things I feel deficient in. For example, a couple years ago I made a career switch to a completely new field because I wasn't satisfied with my work life. It's been a tough learning experience, but it's all ready been more rewarding.
I think people get self-love or a positive self-image wrong sometimes. Saying you're enough just the way you are isn't a good thing - it's just complacency. But you should love yourself to know that you deserve more out of life than to wallow in defeat or despair. Self-love is wanting the best for yourself, which often requires discipline, sacrifice, and even being critical of yourself. As long as it's done with the goal to be better and doesn't become self-destructive.
All the time…I have a massive inferiority complex and believe that unless I become tall and get a big dick I can never be successful in life…I guess I just accepted that that’ll likely never happen and so I only focus on my career now because I can never be any woman’s dream guy.
I feel that way all the time, there's time as I overcome it and there's times I let it drag me down. I wonder about that with relationships. 33 and never had a girlfriend makes you think like that
Oh absolutely! I question the kind of mother/person/ my value all the time. I think about what makes me feel that way and what I can change about myself/work on to be better all the time.
Ever sense I stopped giving women what they wanted I’ve felt great about myself. No longer living under that boot I’m the best at what I do at work and everyone tells me i am even my boss. My therapist always tells me I’m doing fine after every session too. So honestly I believe I am good enough
That was a while ago. Now I created a good relationship with myself and came to be more forgiving towards myself. Yeah, we're good together
no, not ever.
I know I could be better, but I could also be a lot worse.
It might have just been the way I was raised that made me want to excel at things.The enemy wants you to believe that. If he can get you to feel like you are not good enough then he keeps you from becoming the best you can be. Don’t believe the lie…. Jesus Christ found you worthy by dying on a cross for you. He took everything that would make you not good enough to the grave with him and found you more than good enough. He found you worthy of salvation….
I think at some point everyone has that thought. Get over it. The truth is nobody is actually good enough. We all fail and fall short.
The key is to accept you aren't perfect but keep trying to be better today than you were yesterday. Don't compare your life to anyone else - especially anyone "famous". They're just as fucked up as we are.Not as much these days, but I still have bad days. No one is perfect. I just do the best I can for myself and the people I care about.
I feel like I am not good enough for the standard of others. However, I think that I am better than enough for them if they would give me a chance to prove it.
I've experienced this. But I'm not a quitter. I keep practicing until I'm really good.
I've never felt like that and you shouldn't either I don't know you that well but from what I see so far you're an amazing person
All the time. Still working on it, but I always tend to go back to what is comfortable even when it hurts me lol.
To beat a GM in a chess tournament, yes. In general, no.
I used to feel like I wasn't good enough and would take it out on other people. I stopped comparing myself to others and that I'm just as good as everyone else just in different ways.
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