Agree or Disagree: Women choose men who are over 6feet tall due to evolutionary factors of feeling protected?

[coachTanthony]

Agree

Disagree

[purplepoppy]

There's an evolutionary memory to it I agree but it's not such the big factor some guys make it out to be. It would be interesting to see if it's more important in rougher areas than in nice safe ones.

But there's other factors to the whole height thing.
Tall guys tend to be nicer people, it's the short ones who commit most crimes and are prone to be violent.
Employers prefer tall men, most executives are over 6ft so he's probably got a well paid job.
Body parts "tend" to stay in proportion, you don't get many small dick tall guys.

[DeeDeeDeVour]

My husband is an inch short of 6 feet.

However, I chose him because I was attracted to many other things about him.

Maybe, subconsciously, a man significantly taller than 5'2" me is indeed also security for me.

At least, I know for a fact than he's well more than fit and skilled enough to protect me when necessary.

[DeeDeeDeVour]

Thanks for the MHO @coachTanthony. :)

[Screenwriter]

I'm sure this could be a factor. But men come along who are over or under some height. I didn't choose my height and there is nothing I can do about it. The same is true of the men I've been with. I've hung around with 5' 9ers, 5'11ers and one 6'2" guy. but I didn't choose them for their heights. They didn't choose me for mine, either, I don't think. Liked a guy who was 5'5", married a guy who was 5'7", but my feelings of being protected were never dependent on the height of my partner.

I think most of that comes from the attitude of the man, and his skill set. The tallest guy knew judo and could flip over a cow if needs had been and he taught me how to toss him over with the flick of my finger. It was amazing how easy it was.

The other guys were never tested one way or the other. So I don't know how protective any of them were, except for the friend of one guy I was interested in. He was a tank. I had the feeling he could handle himself in any situation. And he was easygoing and gentle. Just as my father, at 5'9" was. But when my asshole grandfather threatened to hit my mother on some idiotic pretext in front of my daddy and me, my father stepped between my mother and grandfather and said, quite quietly, "You'll have to go through me first." My grandfather backed down immediately.

So, it's not about height. It's about confidence and skill. Average guys have as much moxy as 6 footers. Probably more. My son is short: 5'5". But I know he punched out some drunk guy at a card table. I was shocked, but I know he can handle himself.

That's ALL you need to know about a man protecting you and avoiding a dangerous situation. And a woman should be able to handle herself too. Not meaning you have to have a brown belt in something, but either run fast or stand your ground and fight for your life. Moxy.

[coachTanthony]

There are always one off's in life.

[Lliam]

Where did this ridiculous, magic number 6' come from? It must have been promoted by some on-line incel influencer. I mean, show me an incel who doesn't believe that the only traits women look for are 6' height, six figure income, and six pack abs. Those guys have zero understanding or respect for women. THAT'S why women run from them.

Guys who believe that shit are projecting their own attitudes on women. They think women are as shallow as they are. Plus, they are seeking yacht girl, bikini model babes, not normal, cute, wholesome, smart women.

Only 14.5% of men in the U. S. are 6' and over. It's 10% globally. If one merely looks around, it's obvious that guys under 6' have partners.

The average height of American women is 5'4". And it's 5'3" globally. Tell me that a majority of them want a guy who is at least 6' tall. Even a guy who is 5'9" seems tall to most women.

I think that women generally just want a guy who is taller than them. At the same time, I doubt if height is even that important when compared to other things that they find attractive in a partner.

[mikan_galena]

(Voted No)

There are 2 portions to my answer:

1) dating taller man then they are: I think that evolution is a portion of the reason many women choose to have relationships with taller men. It does stem from feeling protected, but that also has to do with the gender roles that are established that dictated men to be “protectors” and women to be “protected”. It’s difficult to unlearn things like this that have been hammered into us since birth. Things like social pressures for women to feel small and dainty also add to this (dating someone taller than you would definitely make you feel relatively smaller).
Plus a question: what about men who refuse to date women who are taller than them?

2) dating men specifically over 6 feet tall: 110% a sociological thing. 6 feet is an arbitrary value of worth set on men, and while women as a whole are at no fault for playing into that construct, it is definitely something that people should work on.

(citation: one of the things I study is sociology — along with psychology and physiology)

[stepyo99]

Being tall definitely makes you more of a threat/a more capable protector, so it's no surprise women would generally prefer tall men. There's a video I watched of Conor McGregor sparring with "The Mountain" Hafthor Bjornsson. The size difference makes it obvious that despite all of McGregor's fighting skill, Bjornsson would kill McGregor if he ever managed to grab hold of him.

Us short guys just have to stay in shape and remain confident without being an obnoxious asshole with "little dog syndrome" if we want to compete.

[Anonymous]

I think its because we women have a herd mentality. We want a guy if other women want them. Its like my virgin neighbor growing up. He was totally into me but I wasn't into him, that is until he started hooking up with other women who were maybe attractive. So I guess I just thought well if he's good enough for her and her and her well he must actually be hot.
In some cultures a fat man is attractive, in older cultures a small penis is attractive so...

[coachTanthony]

Women do take advantage of preselection. When other women have signed off on a man they feel more comfortable pursuing that man.

[Opinion Owner]

I dont know about that either. We are the same with clothes, hair and make up. We are always measuring ourselves by other women. I mean can most guys tell the difference between lingerie bought in wallmart or Victoria secret?

[EricSummer]

Disagree. Women tend to prefer men who are about 5 inches taller than them simply because that is the average difference between women and men. It feels like a manly attribute to them.

Most women select the man in relation to their own height. However, I acknowledge that some have a fetish for the man to be as tall as possible.

In evolutionaty terms it ensures that the woman does not get ever shorter children. For example, I'm about the same height as my wife, but our daughter is really 6 inches shorter than her mum. If our daughter picked a man of her own height (which is rare for a man) chances are that their daughter would be even shorter.

[ShadezMcgee]

I feel that is true to a degree, but I think a lot of it also comes from how the dating scene is influenced by social media and TV. The standard for male attraction that shapes perception of women's views on a man's physical appearance comes in the form of a Christian Grey kind of guy. Tall, dark/mysterious personality and rich. It has created a large group of women that glorify fantasy and use that as the medium baseline which is perpetuated online.

[OfMiceandMen]

I agree to a certain extent, it also comes down to a daddy/daughter relationship. Men expect their girls to be small, the smaller the better... sometimes almost child-like 4 ft and 5 ft and young looking. Whereas women choose guys that are typically taller like their dad is. They go for older men too, as it reminds them of their father.

[Babygirl_S]

A 4 ft girl can't find a decent guy in my country 😂

[OfMiceandMen]

@Babygirl_S I meant to say 4 ft something to 5ft. I bet most 6 ft guys would like a 4 ft girl.

[Babygirl_S]

Western society is fucked up then

[OfMiceandMen]

@Babygirl_S 😂👌

[Anonymous]

Incel logic

The average male height in the US, as well as across the world is approx 5'9-5'10. That means half of all men are below 5'9-5'10. If that was the case, as the premise in your question, then all short guys would be single. If you mean "attracted to", then perhaps you should have phrased your question in a different way

[SoIcyGang]

I'll try to rephrase the question.

So for men there seems to be a hierarchy of attractiveness. Sure, some men like obese women. But most of us prefer a more narrow definition of beauty.

There's women who are 10s and 9s and 8s. And sure it's somewhat subjective, in aggregate most men somewhat agree on beauty standards. Somewhat agree on who is in the upper part of the spectrum and who is in the lower parts.

So I suppose question is, do women have the same? Clearly some men are more attractive than others.

I think men simply wish to understand what that hierarchy is, how it works, and how he fits in it.

Just because a man desires a supermodel, doesn't mean he doesn't settle down with an obese and hideous woman.

The same goes vice versa. I've seen examples of beautiful women with men who are disabled AF or disfigured.

But still, in general, there is that overall hierarchy that displays what the average is. Some men are more attractive than others.

It's just that, us men can't figure out why one man is more attractive than another. We think we see women gravitating towards money or looks, but also the feminists are screaming at us in rage for daring to think what the female view of the male attractiveness hierarchy is.

[SoIcyGang]

So really the question is, do you accept or deny the idea that women too have a general hierarchy of attractiveness. That some men are more or less attractive for various reasons.

We just want to know exactly what makes a man more or less attractive in general.

Who is at the top and why, and who is at the bottom and why.

Because it seeks to be different than how it us for us. We men see beauty and that is the main criteria. It seems to us that women's attraction is based on some mythical superman.

Why is it so hard to demystify this all. Why is it so hard to make it make sense?

[Lliam]

@SoIcyGang. Different men vary on what they find most attractive. There is no standard to go by, unless one goes by what is put before them in fashion magazines and media.

So it would seem obvious that women are the same way. Besides, why should a person worry about things that they can't do anything about?

From what I've seen in real life, this incel crap about women only being interested in men who are over the magic height of 6', have six figure incomes, and six pack abs is nonsense. It's the excuse those losers use to justify the fact that women aren't interested in them. Those guys obviously don't now anything about women.

[Opinion Owner]

@SoIcyGang That's a fair explanation. Much better than the original question, which wasn't very clear
So no, I agree with Lliam. There's no hierarchy of attractiveness. Looks is subjective. Each person has their own preferences.
I don't believe all women care about a man's height; as long as they're attracted to a guy and like his personality

[Dinklex3]

Depends on the person.

I’ve only been with one guy who was over 6ft (6’4?). I usually date men around my height, but I dated him anyways because he was a super sweet person and had a cute face. His height played 0 factor.

I had a friend who only liked tall guys in college because she thought it somehow raised her “status” (her husband is 5’7).

[RolandCuthbert]

Not sure what to say. You can be 9 feet tall. If you lack confidence, you won't successful in the dating game. I have too many short friends who have date beautiful women, broke hearts, cheated, been caught cheating, had their women buy them clothes, flower, balloons, etc.

[Berethor]

Women prefer strong men trope, feel protected, better genes for her children, many reasons.

[lightbulb27]

I think they do that because of their reference within the family of what a man is, and they are attracted to that.

Whose more powerful... the huge soldier that is an expert in MMA... or the dorky Senator from Jersey? Historically, it's the senator...

[andreasderjuengere]

Why did... I ... get chosen then a few times?

[coachTanthony]

Every squirrel gets a nut here and then.

[andreasderjuengere]

You mean they took me for my bushy tail? :D

[cocobellass]

Personally no, i know if a guy is too big he becomes threatening and it's in my evolutionary best interest to stay away from big scary men like thst, who could have 1 bad day and snap me in 2 like the poor nfl wives. However, I do like an appropriately sized man who can make me feel more like a woman, if you get what I mean. It's more so feeding my ego as a dainty little woman rather than you being a big man that would make me go after the say 6ft/180kg rather than 6ft 7,/210kg man. U know?

[Anonymous]

There might be some truth to it. But if that's the reason then that shows how ignorant women are. Because a bullet doesn't care how big you are. 😆😆😆 So much for the evolutionary advantage.

[coachTanthony]

bullets are not in the evolutionary chain of fear. More like tribes of other men with axes.

[Opinion Owner]

I know the point you're making. But I don't think you get point I'm making. Scarface wasn't very big. But you respected him or you found yourself dead. I just said bullets because it's the ultimate equalizer. What I'm talking about is a mentality factor. I'm a big guy. And it's been my experience that shorter guys generally hit harder.

[Iron_Man]

It doesn’t mean they have to be exactly that tall but they want them strong. I am that tall

[coachTanthony]

They don't want a strong 5'5 guy when they themselves are 5 foot 5 in most cases.

[Iron_Man]

Well yeah they’re attracted to height to

[Quigly]

Being tall is simply a characteristic of a guy. Guys tend to get tall and girls typically don't grow so tall. Women prefer tall guys cause, that's a guy and they aren't gay.

It's no different than a beards or body hair. Many woman prefer it cause it's something that girls don't have.

[shades777]

Im just 5'7 3/4 and thought I was 5'9 there are still plenty of women shorter than me, I also think some people don't know how tall they actually are. Kind of how women don't know how long a man's penis actually is.


Why do I say that? well its about proportions, I can be a fat guy at this height and get ignored or I can be a muscular buff guy and get laid, even at this height I've been successful but I have to be fit and strong and look strong as well.

[DizzyDesii]

I find super tall dudes intimidating, not hot or protective. I prefer anywhere between 5’7-6’3 with the ideal being 5’10

[DizzyDesii]

Most of the dudes i was into in HS/college were 5’7/8/9 and could throw hands like a mf. They didn't need height to back them up

[sheenagwapa]

my crush here before Tyler (RedThread) is 6'5"... i think apart from feeling protected it also looks cute

[strateguy632]

i think they imagine bigger privates despite not guaranteed

[Babygirl_S]

Bigger size is attractive to an extent. Too big is unnecessary.

[RavVid]

Women say they feel safer with a taller man so yes. IRL I don't think the 6 foot rule is that fast.

6 foot is more a selection criteria that can be used on tinder to subset down an over supply of men.

[Anonymous]

Its the same reason we like thin fit women, Evolution tells us that thin fit women are healthy, where as Land Whales, like lizzo, are simply not, and offer virtually no chance of creating offspring. Its also why men in general like women 30 years old or younger. Yet again better chance to create offspring. But most women on here are not ready for that conversation.

[EstelleBelle]

I completely agree! Height is everything for men. My man must be tall - the taller the better! I need a real man not a stunted, weak, pathetic little boy! When I go out with my man I want to feel feminine and protected, I also want to wear heels! I need a tall, masculine, dominant man (a real man) - a sissy manlet boy can never be that! Manlets are creepy, deeply insecure, insignificant, puny little boys - dating a manlet is never ever an option. No woman deserves such a cruel fate.

[FreyaRed]

Protection is one reason. Generally tall and strong guys are more confident, less uncontrolled aggressive and more positive/optimistic in their thoughts.

[GoodEnoughThen]

One of my lady friends explained that it is evolutionary, not for protection/security reason but rather bec taller guys typically have bigger dicks. I don't know.

[SophieLund]

Agree. My man must make me feel protected. Hafthor Bjornsson is so handsome - now that's a man! I'm more than a little jealous of her but they are a beautiful couple!

[HippieVeganJewslim]

Some materialistic women, yes, but I hope that number is way less than a lot.

[jshm2]

By that logic tall women should be attracting midgets...

[RingOfFire]

[msc545]

Women do not protect men - they trash them.

[RingOfFire]

Ahhhhh!

Clever! 👍

[Adam1978]

No it's to get tall and big offspring. Ie make their kids have a better chance in the same game.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

False. Height doesn't determine if you have balls of steal.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

*steel

[Twalli]

The funny thing is that I can probably protect people better than plenty of people who are over 6 feet tall, even if they have 8 inches on me. So it's an illusionary protection

[This_Is_My_Opinion8]

Ask under every single comment here what evolution actually is. Most of them don't even know without a googling first, but will claim to know about this!

[RingOfFire]

I think that guys calves are bigger than my waist!

[LimitedBenefits101]

" women have a herd mentality" that anon gal is spot on 100% couldn't agree more
women follow whatever other women do/want

[LiamJHayden]

Probably a bit. I know a good part of the attention I get is due solely to my height

[Anonymous]

This question isn't really up for debate. It's a scientifically proven fact that's why women are attracted to taller, stronger men.

[msc545]

I agree with this. Women also do this because they think it looks good to other women.

[Nikki1989]

No. Protected from what?

[Nikki1989]

And some comments from men on here are hilarious.

[SoIcyGang]

Predatory animals. Other tribes. It's about evolution after all. Women are vulnerable during childbirth and rearing.

It's not that it doesn't make sense. It's really the baseline belief that everyone has.

The point is to counter it with counter facts and examples showing why it is not evolutionary in nature. That it's purely socially constructed.

It's all down to the biologyvs social construction debate.

I wonder if a single person on this site has any understanding of either side.

[SpaceGalaxy]

women can get a bulldog for protection

[Abdulwahh]

Yes protection is a biological factor.

[Christoff92]

Hey. It's her choice. Can't torment him

[AngryCarl2]

I don't think that's controversial.

[TallAnon]

Yes, but it's also just "fashion"

[legalboxers]

among other things... (so she told me anyways)...