Met a new guy at work. An intense connection right from the beginning. We hit it off! Great chemistry, same interests, and we were able to have deep conversations consistently for a few months.
I had a rough time recently. Car died. (Now saving for a large down payment on a new one)
Days later we were closing together. I went outside to wait for an Uber. He saw me sitting there and asked what I was doing. After I explained. He says “No. I can give you a ride.” I admit I already had a crush so took the offer. He proceeded to tell me, “Anytime we have the same shift I can pick you up and drop you off.” (He lives 30 min minimum from work. Where he lives has another name for their town. I’m in the city limits. )
So it became routine. If we had the same shift I would ask or text. The first time he picked me up he had a box of cookies from this bakery I had gushed over. “Yeah! Took me 40 minutes to get the cookies and then 20 minutes to come to you.” I was shocked honestly. Super sweet and thoughtful.
When we had different shifts he would find me and ask how I got to work. When I said Uber. He said “No. I would have come got you on my 30”. I said “really but it’s your lunch break.” “Absolutely!” He says. Now last night he gave me a ride home. Asked me if I worked the next day. I said “Yes. At 7am” He goes, “I can pick you up.” Normally, I’d agree. But it was his day off. Like I said. He lives kinda far from work. I had to make sure. “You’d get up at 6am to take me to work?” “Yes, I want to try a new coffee place anyways.” I assured him I would appreciate that but only if he wanted to.
This morning on the way he asked me what my plans were for Memorial Day. We both revealed we had Saturday off. He was thinking of grilling. My gut says he wants to ask me out but he’s a bit on the shy side. He’s asking questions to see my interests and what I do in my free time. Should I suggest hanging out this weekend?
I fumbled. I asked him to go see a movie with me, but waited a couple days too late. He had friends come to town.
On the other hand, he’s been asking me every time he’s seen me (after Memorial Day) if I saw the movie yet. I haven’t. He’s on vacay now. But maybe when he gets back.
That’s not the hard part. I think the hard part is we both are living in our heads. We like each other. It’s obvious.
He spoke of some girl he used to know messaging him. And Looked me right in the eye & said “I’m anxious. I need to meditate”
I said “mediate. Go outside & ground yourself” But I couldn’t help taking it as a hint that he chose not to pursue this anymore.
