Why do people diss men who ask out waitresses?

[Anonymous]

I've been told that asking out waitresses is rude and that they're only being nice because its thier job (duh no shit)🤣. But idc I've asked out several waitresses and one become my girlfriend for a while. Why is there such a big stigma? As long as your kind who gives a fuck.

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10 mo

I dare one person to write out a well written argument as to why its immoral to ask out a waitress.

[BoopBoopBeep]

I don't know. Who's saying that? I've dated a little under a dozen waitresses.

[Asker]

exactly. and lots a people are saying it just watch this comment section be full of em

[Asker]

but everytime they fail to provide a reason WHY its rude.

[KendallChris]

I can't believe that people think its wrong to ask out a waitress. As long as your respectful its completely fine. Girls want to be approached. We don't like to be the ones approaching.

[Anonymous]

This site must be some type of mental ward.

[Asker]

lul your not wrng

[Asker]

whats yur opinion?

[Opinion Owner]

Some tard on here said it's tacky to ask them out while they're working. LMAO
I noticed he couldn't give you a plan B. That's because he couldn't even come up with a plan A.

Be charming, subtle and funny. And be patient! Take your time. Don't stare at her, and don't make too much eye contact. But make sure she notices your smiles. Ask her for advice. Tell her you think going to weddings is a fate worse than death, but you're kind of roped into going to one. Tell her it's so easy to buy a present for guys, but girls are from another planet, and you don't have a clue what to get her.
1. She will love that you respect her expert advice.
2. She will love that you are using her for her brain, instead of her goodies.
3. The next time you see her, she will be the one approaching you and asking questions.

[Asker]

I like yur answer. i think its important for men nowadays to realize its ok to talk to girls. 90% of dudes my age are ao scared to talk to women. be genuine kimd and respectful. take risks and be bold. but most guys are too pussy unfortunately. and it hurts women as well cause theyre not finding reliable husband material.

[Opinion Owner]

There’s absolutely nothing to be afraid of. When her eyes and your eyes meet, ALWAYS, ALWAYS, ALWAYS be the first to break eye contact. This puts you in the driver’s seat. NEVER stare. If she wants your energy, make her earn it.

You: Sally, I really like that blouse, but why did you pick yellow?
Sally: What’s wrong with yellow?
You: Nothing. See you next week.

Now she will be thinking about you for the next week.

[Asker]

hhhmmm that may get her to think of me but it ain't gonna get me a date. im a straightforward guy. i go up to a girl and talk to her for bout a min or two then get her number and set up a date. i find being direct confident and honest works best

[Asker]

I like that yur roleplaying scenerios in the comments. i can tell yur the kind of girl who daydreams

[Unit1]

I refactor the stigma others give you/me into their jealousy. They wish they could do the same but haven't gotten the balls/ovaries to do it themselves.

Go on. Be crazy and stand out.

[In_Trance]

Because they get asked out constantly. You think you're original and you're the only one; you're not. You're as douchey as all the others

[KrakenAttackin]

It's not immoral at all but it does have a low probability of success.

[mommymommymommy]

Same sort of stigma is a girl dating a guy for his "job". Doctors, lawyers, etc..

They know they say "it's whats on the inside", then they go for those jobs

[Asker]

thats a way different context. thats about status and money. im talking about social stigmas

[mommymommymommy]

No, it's not. Men are always saying "dont go after doctoros lawyers, cause it only proves she's gold diggers", just like women are always saying don't go after waitresses/strippers because they're "just working"

[Asker]

oh ok i see where your coming from. yeah i think its important to not rely on these stereotypes. everbodies different

[BarryLiverstone]

It’s not a big deal to be kind and talk after they are done working. But hitting on them while they are working is tacky and disrespectful

[Asker]

I've never had a negative reaction. as long as you ask her out like a normal person theyre is nothing wrong with it. and youve failed to explain WHY its disrespectful. its disrespectful if theyre busy with other customers but thats why you ask hey r u busy rn.

[BarryLiverstone]

You dare? Dude this is a free question and answer site. Don’t come looking for arguments.

[Asker]

yes i dare 😁

[Asker]

lots of men nowadays are being told its wrong to approach gurls. but i dont think it is. it just creates a huge amount kf lonly men.

[KendallChris]

It's not tacky or disrespectful. I don't know where you got this idea.