Why do some men like to shame other men for paying for their dates dinner or buying ladies drinks?

[wittymilf]

You see it on here all the time! Are they jealous.. or is their ego fragile or what!! What’s the big deal if one of your mates enjoys treating the ladies 🤷‍♀️

[MCheetah]

Because some women like to manipulate men into shaming each other, all for a woman's benefit.

But to answer the question, it's because no one deserves free sh*t just for having a pussy; especially if said pussy-owner tries to talk about wanting "equality" while using her sex (or having sex) to become richer. It's a case of "feminism when it benefits me; 'equality' when it doesn't."

Seriously; what makes women entitled to men spending copious amounts on them? The implication from the man is that sex would be implied, but if so, that just makes the woman a prostitute/ho. And if the woman doesn't have to give the man anything in return, then that just makes her a piece of sh*t parasite exploiting men who she knows wants more from her, while she's unwilling to be honest with him and tell him he's not getting any pussy or additional dates from her.

So yeah, the women who do this are pieces of sh*t and the men who do are even worse, as they're pathetic simps desperately trying to bribe their way into some chick's panties; a chick who likely has no intention on giving him said sex in exchange for gifts and cash.

And no, there is literally no excuse or spin for wasting hundreds of dollars on someone you just met and do not know. I'll definitely call you pathetic for being played like that and somehow thinking it's "gentlemanly" or "how I was raised." No, you're just a moron.

Trying to say stuff like "you just can't afford it" doesn't excuse you being a self-loathing simp (since you all want me to say it) and walking ATM to women who don't even respect you. It's pathetic and nothing you say can change that.

By the way, actual rich men don't HAVE to spend money on women; that's how they stay rich and don't lose all their wealth by simping to every ho who gives him a nice look or smile.

If you are generous to your male friends and everyone else, no one is going to judge you for it. But if you ONLY do this to pretty women on dates, you are f*ckin' pathetic and are demonstrating you have nothing else to offer a woman but your steady dwindling amount of money, and she will probably only see you as such. No ifs, ands, or buts. But like I said, if you treat your friends, family, coworkers, etc, the same way and are just a generous person, then it's fine.

[wittymilf]

There’s a lot of writing, I think you mistake a guy wishing to shout as a women feeling entitled. This confusion is clouding you but it really does answer why you personally would shame other men for this. I hate entitled people, I’d never buy something for someone who thought it was their right to be treated.

[MCheetah]

LOTS of women see men as only ATMs and personal Santa Claus'es.
And lots of men think they can get women to sleep with them, or even marry them, just by throwing money their way.

[wittymilf]

😂😂😂 holy shit gag is a twat 😂😂😂!

[Lliam]

Those guys are bitter losers who resent women in general. It's sour grapes. They don't respect women but can't understand why women don't respect them.

They are male versions of the bitter, angry feminists whom they blame for their misery and loneliness. They don't understand or like women. They take their anger and jealousy out on men with character who treat women like ladies.

Instead of enjoying the pleasure of a woman's company, they think women should repay a meal or a couple of drinks with sex. Because they think women's only value is sex.

I think those guys are isolated. I might blame a lack of positive male role models and the on-line presence of male gurus who pander to losers and inflame their hostility and bitterness toward women.

[wittymilf]

If I forget to give you MHO… you deserve it :)

[Lliam]

LOL. Thank you, you wittymilf you. 😆

[Nikki1989]

^^^^ This guy nailed it.

[Account]

Honestly, other people should do what they want. I don't get involved in other people's business. If it works for them, it works for them. I know for sure that I prefer taking turns paying, I earn my own money and I like treating the other person too and that won't change

[Alwayreckles93]

Because men from my generation are immature and some don't even realize they are adults and not the popular high school football player.

[Chazmatazz269]

I suppose it’s a misinterpretation of context. If fella ‘A’ has only or mostly been taken advantage of by women, then he can’t but assume that’s always the case. If fella ‘B’ gets rewarded for his investment more often than not, it just makes sense to stick with what works. However, from outside it appears to A that B is a chump or fool, or as the young’ns are saying now, a “simp”. Ell oh ell!

[wittymilf]

This makes lot of sense

[AnUglyBarnacle]

It depends on how far along they are in their relationship. If the dude buys something for his steady girlfriend or wife, then she has earned that "perk". Most men are fine with this scenario.

The contention or shaming is because of men giving free stuff to a date or even a stranger. He's "putting out" for a blind investment. He's easy, and more self-respecting men are trying to correct him.

[wittymilf]

Interesting perspective, but why should other men tell other men how to
Spend their money? Surely that isn’t respectful either. Surely self respecting man wouldn’t want another guy telling him what he thinks he should do with his own hard earned money?

[AnUglyBarnacle]

When you care about someone, you try to stop them from making unwise decisions and point out their poor judgement. Whether they'll listen or not is another matter.

[wittymilf]

But how do you even know another man’s financial situation?… plus you’re right the guy whose wanting to lavish affection on the object of his desire also cares about someone… but it’s more likely her than you.

[AnUglyBarnacle]

That's each person's choice. And I'm not going to complain to a stranger with the same intensity that I would to a friend.

Women are a money pit, and they're always alert about ways to shame or manipulate men into giving them stuff.

[wittymilf]

Not in my experience 🤷‍♀️ so I do t think you can generalise like that. There are many assumptions I could make about men buying women and feeling entitled to sex if you accept anything from them, but fortunately I know that most men aren’t like that. Sure they’re hopeful that you’re gonna put out 😂😂 because that would be a fun end to an exciting night but they don’t expect it.

I try not to full into generalising all men based on some behaviours

[loveslongnails]

They're the misogynists who believe all women are greedy gold diggers who would actually go on a date simply to get a free meal. LOL They've all been butt hurt or rejected by someone (who hasn't?). They think that since women scream for equality they should EXPECT to pay for their share of the food/date, especially if it's the first one and you don't really know one another.

These guys think that anyone who pays for a girl is weak little simp who's just trying to impress her at any cost. It's been my experience that these guys are horribly insecure and consistently pick the "wrong girls", if you know what I mean.

[BoobMan]

That seems like a classic case of "only on GAG but not in real life."

[Apple1996]

That seems to be the truth with 90% of questions here. I'm convinced that I don't live on the same planet as most of these people

[BoobMan]

@Apple1996 LMFAO!

[Apple1996]

I'm guessing that you live on plant boobs 🌎 🌎 . Two of everything there and it all looks like boobs

[wittymilf]

@BoobMan That’s such an odd phenomena!

[wittymilf]

@Apple1996 that’s why I left this place for a year or two… it made me lose faith in humanity

[BoobMan]

Odd? Yes! GAG phenomenon? Absolutely!

But don't let a bunch of bots and tards make you lose faith in humanity!

[Pegases]

Same reason some women shame toher women for caring about men in any capacity. Misery loves company.

[wittymilf]

Fortunately in My 46 years I have never seen a women shame another women for being good to a man!

[Pegases]

Your generation is different. This generation of women mostly finds being good to a man as demeaning to women.

[wittymilf]

I have 3 daughters and a granddaughter and I run a hostel… I know many generations of women though. 🤷‍♀️ the majority being in their mid 20s due to the ages of my daughters. None of them ever hate on people for being nice to others no matter what gender.

[Pegases]

I date women, and know know many men from my generation that do as well. You and I can both be right. Good day.

[wittymilf]

It is true ! :) but we could also both be wrong 😂😂 I’d say you don’t come from my country which could make a big difference

[ZackBan]

I personally have no problem, in fact actually enjoy, treating a woman to something.
But only those who don't expect it and have no problems treating me too. (Even if they don't do it)
I have no interst in gold diggers

[ChiTown33]

Does it really matter? I mean, does any guy really feel shame for such a thing? I consider this a non issue.

[USLegionary]

Can you feel ashamed for something you aren't ashamed of?

[ChiTown33]

@USLegionary exactly it's a personal choice. I was raised a certain way and I for the most part live that way. I realize this is not the world of my parents so you adapt with the changing times. I get that some people feel equality demands that women pay thier fair share. And in the long run they should. But paying your fair share isn't just a monetary thing in a relationship. Maybe "paying is the wrong word "giving" your fair share. Statistically speaking women still make 70% what a man does on the avg. It's only logical that a guy would pay more on the avg. At least that's the way I see it. I'll put it this way, on a first date who pays is not even on my radar. There's a lot more pressing things occupying my mind.

[USLegionary]

To my my mind women make 70% less because the choose to work less hours in jobs that pay less, more a personal choice. I mean women represent a higher amount of college graduates than men.

[wittymilf]

@USLegionary in some countries it may come down to women taking more time off due to having to birth children, so a different way of paying or working for society that isn’t paid well.

In my country women just get paid less to do the same jobs as men with the same experience and qualifications, but our government is aware and is working hard to change the historical habits.
Women tend to ask for less than men when it comes to getting wages, seem to automatically feel less entitled.

[ChiTown33]

Do they feel less entitled? Or do they just know traditionally they don't HAVE to make as much as a man. As slim to none guys will be expecting them to be the main income let alone the sole income in a relationship. Just saying that guys are judged more than thier ABILITY to generate income whereas women are not. So less pressure is all I'm saying. I've never heard a woman on a dating app lament anything like this. 🤣

[wittymilf]

Makes sense

[DribbleGodCurt]

Honestly I don't know, i usually do it for the first 2 dates and then she pays for the third one bc that's how in my head it's supposed to be bc a relationship goes both ways.

[NathanDavis]

would you believe that they never mock me face to face... lol

online people do not really have an idea about my personal life anyway, lol

[TroyDT2]

I don't consider it shaming but I do try to warn them about "foodie calls" where a woman will go out with a guy solely to get a free meal. Frankly I'd rather treat a homeless vet or someone who is just down and out to a nice meal than spend a cent on a woman who is only there for the meal. But my female friends or women I have gone out with several times? Not an issue, because I know they are there for me and not free stuff.

[BJP21]

Well, put it this way. How are your going to be in a relationship if you can't demonstrate in buying the lady a drink or a plate of food?

[MCheetah]

What makes any woman I just met worthy of a plate of food?
Do you also spend copious amounts of money on men you just met as well? Or only people you think you can get sex from? If you don't do this with men, then it's hypocritical and BS.

[wittymilf]

@MCheetah or it’s just a guy being a hood cunt 🤷‍♀️. Again you have pre conceived ideas that the women he wishes to treat well, is expecting him to do so.

[BJP21]

@MCheetah Humanity can go a long way when you do the simple things for people in life.

[exitseven]

I guess I was brought up in the days when the guys were the ones who always paid for dinner. I never would occur to me to shame someone for doing that.

[spartan55]

Can't say I've seen that on here, although I'm sure there are plenty that call you a 'simp' for doing that...🙄

[dolemite89]

are they actually shaming each other or just telling them the truth that it’s unnecessary and a waste of money usually? 😂 if a girl actually is interested in you and really wants to hook up then you don’t need to buy her anything to butter her up. There’s nothing wrong with buying your wife or girlfriend dinner or drinks if she deserves it though.

[Friendlybro79]

Prob a combination part troll part lonely... I'm not sure why anyone cares about these things.

[bamesjond0069]

It's nice to pay for a date who is a dateable nice lady. We are talking about paying for women who are trash and taking advantage of men. That's stupid asf.

[nawtee_me]

I don’t understand it myself if that is true then they would try and shame me them because I will buy dinner and drinks for girls. I don’t have a problem with it.

[slatyb]

They are insecure and have little success dating, so they console themselves by pretending that men who are successful are being victimized by evil women.

[USLegionary]

Because they simping. Simping gets you nowhere with ladies. I know a guy who girls basically date for drinks and a good meal.

[inhua]

for the same reasons men get shamed for doing the opposite. there's no winning as a man unless you actually win.

[Berethor]

Women want feminism only when it benefit them, that "lady" have a job, don't she?

[wittymilf]

So you like to Shane men who are nice?

[wittymilf]

Is it because you like to make all interactions about feminism? Be a there seems to be plenty of guys who assume all women are into that too 🤔🤷🏼‍♀️ Weird

[wittymilf]

Actually this is interesting… honest question, do you think your masculinity would be jeopardised if I bought you a drink?

[Berethor]

Maybe, a woman 11 years older than me buying me a drink, does she want to be my sugar mama? I prefer for everyone to pay for oneself, it's only fair, I am no fan of gold diggers.

[wittymilf]

Or just generosity I. General? Do you only hang out with people who are in the same financial position as yourself?

[Berethor]

I am not an optimist. I prefer to hang out with people in the same financial position.

[wittymilf]

How does one even do that?

[Berethor]

Most people planet are not rich so it not too hard.

[wittymilf]

I hang out with people from all walks of life. Some are super rich some have nothing at all 🤷‍♀️ I can’t imagine a world where I cut out people based on their income.

[wittymilf]

I suppose you just don’t get the opportunity to meet people that are in different situations than yourself?

[Berethor]

Maybe, I also didn't check their bank account so I don't know for sure.

[wittymilf]

You’d kinda know if you went out and your good mate couldn’t afford to be there.. especially if you weren’t willing to buy them a drink 🤷‍♀️😂

[Berethor]

Bros before hoes, I rather buy a friend a drink than buy gold digger a drink. :)

[wittymilf]

I’m friends with guys so yeah I buy them drinks 🤷‍♀️

[TaureanBull81]

I have no problem buying a woman dinner 🍽 or drinks while on a date. It's just the way I was raised however if a date insists on sharing the bill or taking turns in buying drinks 🍸 then that's fine with me too.

[MannMitAntworten]

It has nothing to do with what you speculated. It is a MGTOW thing.

[Havthrills]

Never seen that. That is odd they would make fun of someone being a gentleman.

[YourFavoriteFriend]

Why do women like to shame other women who date much older guys?

[wittymilf]

Do they?

[wittymilf]

I only see guys calling women gold diggers🤔 it happens daily in here!

[YourFavoriteFriend]

I didn't talked about calling them "gold diggers". I talked about shaming both them and the guys about the big (more than 5 years) age difference.

[wittymilf]

Never ever seen a women do this 😂😂 🤷‍♀️ maybe if he’s 40 years older than her someone might have an opinion.

[YourFavoriteFriend]

What do you mean you never seen one? I've seen/heard about tons of them doing it both online and irl. With this logic, I also haven't seen anyone shame other men when they pay for dates irl.

[wittymilf]

Oh if you haven’t, just scroll through this gag🤷‍♀️. I’ll go make a gag now to see how women feel about other women who date men 5 years older than themselves and see what I can find out if you like?

[YourFavoriteFriend]

You can do it. Even tho people on GaG are not so toxic. I have see it happening online so many times.

[Jamie05rhs]

I give zero fucks what he does.
But he better not be coming to me asking for a loan.

[NerdInDenial]

It inflates the egos and requirements of all women including those who don’t have any standards or are losers.

[OlderAndWiser]

I think a lot of these guys are jealous because thy've never actually even been on a date!

[FilmGuy93]

Some people suck

[rienna888]

Yeah, because they know they can't do the same, so they shame other men and call them simps

[ParkRangerDan2]

Because insecure men secretly want to be those women that get taken out on dates by really handsome women.

[Alex8736]

hence the reason they are single

[krin_m]

Don't know. Probably jealousy as you say!

[Date_a_Snob]

I don't shame anyone.

[motownplayer2000]

Nah. No shame. Men can do what they want.