Girls, should I still text her?

[Anonymous]

I text my crush from my study course on IG if she want to go out, she agreed. We spend together almost 10h talking. It was great and at the end she said that she hope to meet again, so few days later I invited her second time, but this time I reserved a table in the best restaurant in the city. I think, everything was rather ok, but maybe I insist a little bit to much to go to my place. At the next day I asked her to meet again, but she couldn't and she proposed to give me back money for a lunch in this expensive restaurant (what I know, it would be problematic for her - she is from a poor family - in contrast to me). She hasn't been watching my stories or texting me since, but she didn't block me on IG (I can watch hers). I also didn't text her since now cuz she didn't reply on my last message on WhatsApp, but maybe I should? Do you think I have a still chance or I lost this case and she is no more interested? I was hoping for a longer relationship with her and I didn't want to alienate her.

[far2gud4u]

I have a few questions here:

1) You said you insisted a little too hard she go to your place - explain how?
2) Is it possible she feels under pressure because she feels you expect something because of how hard you pushed and because you bought dinner?
3) I know people who look like they come from poverty who have millions in the bank. Are you sure she has no money? If not have you raised this with her?

Something has bothered her. We need to find out what.

[Asker]

1. The first time I simply said that maybe we can go to my place later - she kept silent about it. Two more times she tried to gently say no. I took her to her house later. She's still a student and lives with roommates, so I didn't suggest going in with her there.
2. Yeah, I'm really afraid it's my fault and I scared her. Now when I think about it, it might have looked like I wanted to find ONS for dinner - what was never my intention (I just wanted to show her how important this dinner was to me)
3. I'm sure, she is working as an au-pair for a pittance. I'm making more in one day than she per month, but it never bothered me.

[far2gud4u]

OK firstly, money should never be an issue. If someone doesn't want to work that's one thing but if they do and they earn little but enjoy what they do it's another.

I think you need to just have an honest conversation with her and explain you wanted to take her somewhere nice because you like her that much. Stay clear of any back to yours talk, instead suggest a nice walk or something if you are not ready to finish the date.

A little advice I give to my guy friends if they REALLY like a girl is wait for her to make a move re: back to theirs or about sex etc. It isn't fair but men get a bad rep for being after one thing and a woman always has that in the back of her mind. Its easier for even a beautiful girl with a great personality to believe she is wanted only for sex and not because she is a good person...