My boyfriend doesn't believe in fate, is this a bad sign?

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I believe in fate. I believe we got together through fate. He doesn't believe that which is a bit off-putting. I don't want to be one of those girlfriends that thinks every little thing is a make it or break it thing but I find it's very important to me to have the same beliefs especially something as important as fate.

Maybe I'm making something out of nothing. Am I making something out of nothing or is it a bad sign?

God_of_Thunder · Accepted Answer

I don't think you'll find that the majority of people will agree with you on that one. There aren't too many people who believe that fate is a real phenomenon.

Only you can decide whether that's a dealbreaker for you, but I, personally, think you're making a big deal over nothing.

If you believe that you were brought together by fate, then why would fate bring you someone who doesn't believe in it, if it's not going to work out?

Wouldn't you then be fated to break up, due to your different beliefs? If so, then what was the point of fate bringing you together, in the first place?

If you really were brought together by fate, then would that imply that you were meant to be together, despite your different beliefs?

SoJust · Accepted Answer

We should respect everyone's faith, he believes in something else instead of fate

SnowedIn · Answer

You are TOTALLY making something out of nothing.

I'm sorry, but I'm going to be brutally honest: fate is NOT one of the important things. Those are kids or no kids, marriage or just live together, buy or rent, cat or dog. Fate isn't on that list.

You risk losing him over this and future partners as well: yours is not a widely held belief -- at least not widely held enough to have a dating life with.

whereismyjohnny · Answer

No. I think you are making a big deal out of nothing honestly. 😅 Many people don't believe in fate, I don't either. It's a personal choice and I think it's not necessary for your boyfriend to believe what you believe. I don't see it as a bad sign or a deal breaker. You shouldn't have a problem as long as you respect each other beliefs.

DextroShade · Answer

He believes in free will as most men do. Only women have the luxury of believing in fate, astrology, manifesting, or whatever woo woo crap because they are used to things happening for them because the men make it happen. A man doesn't have the luxury of these beliefs because he knows he has to make things happen for himself or end up a loser bum.

AllAloneInTheWorld · Answer

I feel you are overreacting. If your relationship is good, why allow something like him not believing in fate bother you so much? Seems silly honestly.

Quackthulu2 · Answer

Is it a bad sign that he is a rational person?

slatyb · Answer

Fate? Do you mean that some external entity intended your meeting?  if you do, then I agree that you and your boyfriend aren't compatible.

Berethor · Answer

Screw destiny trope, life is pretty shitty, not because of fate, I don't believe in supernatural.

mommymommymommy · Answer

MAYBE things happen for a reason. There is no saying whether it does or doesn't. You have to learn to get along with people that have OTHER BELIEFS, REPUBLICANS!

Andres77 · Answer

Just stay away from little old witches in the forest.

msc545 · Answer

Abelief in fate is avery pesonal thing that does not need to be shared. Give the guy a break.

BarryLiverstone · Answer

Fate is what you make it. I’m sure he shares some other important values

Ptrmbrs88 · Answer

I don't believe in fate either, because it isn't real.

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

No it's not a bad sign he just believes what he believes and there is nothing wrong with that

Cheerfull009 · Answer

Everybody has his own Beliefs

CubaPirate · Answer

Not necessarily

My boyfriend doesn't believe in fate, is this a bad sign?

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