How many dates should you have before sex?

Question

Some say having 3 or 4 dates is okay. Is there a specific number or does it depend entirely on your intimacy with your partner?

EricSummer · Accepted Answer

3 or 4 dates sounds ok, but it also depends on what the two people want and need. Importantly, I think it's best to have the first kiss and first sex at different occasions. There has to be a bit of a build-up of intimacy for the two people to develop an emotional bond (if that's what you want).

Bricealan · Accepted Answer

As soon as she steps into your apartment on the first date and as soon as you can get her naked! Any more than that to get in her pants is a waste of time... LOLOL

I don't know... depends on the girl...

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

It should be 3 months dating minimum because after 3 months, they can show you their true self and it also shows whether they are serious about the relationship or not and not just there for only sex. And for those who are religious, they do it after marriage.

mandyfire98 · Accepted Answer

There's no specific number. It's whatever both of you are comfortable with. It also depends on the chemistry.

stepyo99 · Answer

Women: Why can't I find a good guy who won't pump and dump me after we've had sex?

Also women: Yeah, I wait until the 3rd date to have sex, but sometimes if I'm feeling it, I'll fuck on the first date.

Nobody wants to marry the local cum dumpster.

TacosRAwesome · Answer

As many as both are comfortable with. That said, if one is willing on the first date and the other wants to wait much longer, it's probably not the best match.

Adam1978 · Answer

Depends on how fast you can get to know them. So it's not just number of dates but how long and how much sharing is involved. So when you got a commitment.

Simslover92 · Answer

It could be as little as one date or as many as five. It just depends on the person and the chemistry.

BCA6010 · Answer

I don't think you can just stick some arbitrary number on that, because not all dates or relationships are the same.

Quackthulu2 · Answer

As many as it takes. Could be zero, could be that it never happens.

Nikki1989 · Answer

3 at the most. If it hasn't happened by then I will probably look elsewhere.

DrAdams · Answer

Whenever you feel comfortable. I would say after 4 dates is a decent amount of time.

e232bm · Answer

It’s up to you and what you feel comfortable with. You can’t put a number on it.

bolverk · Answer

There is no specific number, it is best to get comfortable with each other, be that 4, 6, 10 or more dates, its up to the both of you.

Date_a_Snob · Answer

I usually wait until the 3rd or 4th date although I have had sex on a first date.

zagor · Answer

No dates or prunes; you don't want to have to crap just when things are getting hot and heavy.

Anonymous · Answer

As many as it requires. If she's making you wait a while simply date another woman as well and sleep with her in the meantime.

baseball_del_tuono · Answer

Not until your monogamous and maybe married what’s the rush?

DizzyDesii · Answer

Around 6 months worth

provokeesmokee · Answer

Depends entirely on the partner.

D_Bone_Steak · Answer

Who dates? I just have sex!

WanderingLoveWizard · Answer

Zero. Sex first, then maybe a date

Lowiu · Answer

As many as you need to feel ready for it

slatyb · Answer

There's no should, there's only mutual desire.

Molly1997 · Answer

I did on my 3rd or 4th

gothbxtch · Answer

however many you both consent to

LiamJHayden · Answer

As many as it takes. Minimum of 90 days.

In_Trance · Answer

2-4 generally speaking

Clyde_123 · Answer

5 dates.

shades777 · Answer

2 dates max

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