I have had three dates with a guy. I really really like him. He is so cute and so sweet. We do kiss and hug. I really don't feel comfortable having sex for about a couple of months at the earliest. I am pretty sure that he wants to, but I would like to wait a little longer. Is this appropriate, or do you think he will leave? What should I do?
u Don't have sex before you feel ready, or you will simply resent your partner for making you feel pressured. However, after three or four date, at least SOME guys might be expecting sex, so you need to address their expectations.
"Braden, I think you are a very handsome guy and I certainly feel attracted to you, but I'm not a girl who can have sex with every guy on the third date. I'm not ready quite yet, but it feels like we're moving in that direction, so if you can be patient with me. . . I promise that I'm worth waiting for!"
It's up the individual, but I prefer it as soon as we decide to start dating exclusively. If we are infatuated and want to be monogamous with each other, I see no reason to waste time. I never needed a guarantee that the relationship would last forever.
Girlfriends and I have had sex as soon as the second or third date. I waited close to a month (6 or 7 dates) for one.
I would never pressure a girl. It's her decision. But if she made me wait too long I would think there was something wrong. Is she sexually inhibited or what's the problem?
I mean, how could we get along great, have good times together, and make out passionately without her wanting me as much as I want her?
When me and my boyfriend first started dating when we were broke students in college. We had dates in the park for a pininc, going for long walks as we were both very adventurous back then, Netflix and chill etc.
I actually don't remember the number of dates we went on but it was around 4 months before we had sex. We are still together 5 years later and are each others firsts 💜
As many as it takes before you feel comfortable to be intimate with them. Could be 1, could be 30.
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There is no number. It's whenever you both want to have sex.
You've known this guy for awhile. Communicate with him. Tell him exactly how you feel about sex. Don't "give in" because you're afraid he'll leave. If it's okay with you, maybe there's a compromise... oral for example?
It really depends on the personal chemistry. When I was younger, I tried to do it on the first or second date, but I'm patient now. I think three or four are enough.
There's no expectation, but typically by the third date I've had sex. You've had sex before, presumably, did you make all the people before him wait similar times? If so then you're being consistent with your past, so... you do you... don't let someone tell you what's right/wrong for you.
He's investing his time and money into you. On an infinite timeline there comes a time when that is no longer worth it to him if he's not getting laid, because he can get the same thing with a friend and only have to pay half as much to go out. It's on you two to figure out where that tipping point is, not a bunch of disinterested parties on the internet.
You're 41, hence I assume you had some previous relationship.
How many dates before you had sex for each of them?
How long after those relationship last?
What were the reasons for broke up?
I think if you write down the answers, you may then answer this question yourself.
Perhaps you may find answers to have a more permanent and lasting relationship.
I think it's fine. You should take as much time as you need to really get to know a guy before moving ahead. Like see if there's something special about you that he loves you for. And if he's serious about you, he will wait for you.
You dhould follow your heart and whatbyou feel comfortable with. Ifvhe truly cares for you he will wait. If you give him what he wants to early he may disappear as he has gotten all he really wanted. If he waits patiently you could reward him with a hand job but fo give up everything.
No set rule. Its up to when you both feel comfortable. If its too long for him before you feel comfortable, you probably were not sexually compatible anyway
It's exactly what you said: when you're comfortable. It isn't a specific number or an exact number. For some people it might be the first date and for others several months.
I think you should just go off the amount of time you've been around a person. Dates can be a few days or longer apart so it's hard to go off of how many dates.
number of dates doesn't matter, length of time knowing the person does.
If you don't know every last thing about him, and can prove it all, its too soon.
This is similar to a question I recently asked. If a guy is waiting more than three dates it's usually because he's unable to attract other women.
It depends on you, your comfortability and morals I guess? I don't know, if you’re comfortable with sex on a first date go for it. If not wait. I don’t think there really is an “appropriate” amount of dates you have to go on to have sex.
Whenever you both want to have sex, it's appropriate.
0 to 10. If we haven't done it by date 10 I'm not interested enough to continue.
You have to let your feelings for him and your conscience be your guide. I usually have sex on the first date, but have been communicating with the girl for many days or weeks.
a lot of them most likely. Unless I feel there something longterm brewing I'm not going to sleep with her. If she's just chasing some fantasy then she's got the wrong guy.
Whenever you are ready. It could be 5 minutes, it could be a few months.
There is no 'appropriate' number. As long is it's consensual, it's okay. So take your time.
Yes its appropriate to make him wait!!! It’s been a few dates are you guys even monogamous yet like committee to just each other? Mutually exclusive? Have the respect for yourself to make him be committed
The textbook answer is 3.
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