Would You Date Someone Who's Fatphobic?

[Anonymous]

assuming you both have average built

[DaveJord]

So honestly, I am victim of fatphobic... I mean I have a hard time taking fat people seriously some times... especially the ones with all these medical conditions... like maybe what your doctor is not telling you is that you are fat, and you should lose weight.

Like these people that say being fat is no their fault? They did not choose to be that way. Well it isn't my fault either, and you could make different choices. So yeah, I have these preconceived notions about fat stereotypes.

Am I right for this? Probably not, but I am not wrong either for having my own feelings and ideas, about what living healthy means. So yeah, I am drawn to alike minded people... but I do not hate fat people for being fat... but yeah I am bias.

[Spade_01]

Disliking fat is understandable. But shaming and hating a person who's fat just because he's fat? No, sir.

[provokeesmokee]

Lmao, wtf is "fatphobic"?

Like is that the type to think conscious weight-loss is fatphobic? Cause I would trigger them so hard their jimmies would rustle 'em into the nearest McDonald's merely by holding an object up and displaying my forearm muscles.

Or is it that they're an asshole to fat people for no reason? Because again, I'd probably trigger them. I'm not thin.

[Nikki1989]

Nope. If he is fataphobic, I wonder who else does he have a problem with.

[OlderAndWiser]

I've never met anyone who is afraid of fat people. WTF are you talking about?

[Pinay_ako]

No. What if one day I gain my weight back? He’d leave me then?

[razelove]

Of course, whether it's dislike, discomfort, revulsion, or fear of fat people. I'd hope that if I start becoming a fat body they encourage me to do something about it, rather than letting myself go while feeling less attracted to me and becoming less healthy.

Yeah, we're all going to die, but I would prefer to be on the fewest amount of drugs and least amount of pain I can be in before that happens. Living in the South, and how many fat bodies there are down here with the diet we have, I've seen so many people start on cholesterol meds and blood thinners at my age.

Hell, I just ran into an old friend the exact same age as me who had to get a kidney transplant because both of his failed from diabetes. It would be best to avoid that if possible.

[nolabels]

I realize that there are people who have physiological reasons for being overweight. I experience some of those myself.

There's still no reason for not doing what one can do to minimize those effects.

I've seen both ends of the spectrum.

Those who truly try to do something about it usually succeed. Those who go to water-aerobics classes once a week hoping for a miracle probably won't fit into that category.

Some are beyond self-help. I pray for them.

As regards the question? If someone is fatphobic, they don't need me in their life.

I'm hanging in there with my weight.

What is Mr. or Ms. Fatphobia doing with their lives?

Maybe great things, maybe just petty fat-busting.

I won't know.

I won't be around them.

[WonderBell99]

I don’t shame people for their build, but at the same time, I would never date someone who is obese. It’s ok to not want to date someone who is obese from a health perspective. Depends on what you mean by “fat phobic”. Do they shame people for their obesity? I’ll pass. I don’t want to associate myself with such a terrible person. However, if they were more concerned about their friend or a loved one’s health and suggested they lose weight for a healthy life, then yes, I’d date them.

[WonderBell99]

by the way, I find time to work out everyday at the gym, (I usually prefer evenings, around 7pm) so I think it’s ok to want someone who is as active as me. I’d prefer my partner to not be a total couch potato. I prefer dating people who are fit and actively take care of their health/do some sort of exercise every day.

[Miristheiss]

LOL!!!

Fat "PHOBIC", Oh my gosh, you freaks and you stupid victim labels.

You mean a pretty typical person who isn't attracted to obesity and doesn't date overweight people?

So, fit people are OBLIGATED to date, marry and be attracted to overweight people?

Get out of here with this dumb crap.

[PBandJ_Nerd]

I wouldn't no. My mom used to be fat, and I wouldn't be happy having a partner that's fatphobic. I don't like people who make fun of someone (whether currently or previously) had weight issues. It takes lots of effort to lose weight (as well as gain).

[BoopBoopBeep]

From an evolutionary standpoint, "fatphobia" is a healthy natural aversion to breeding with inferior mates, and that's coming from someone who used to be obese.

Now I do marathons wearing 34lb body armor. Guess which of me has fewer problems finding someone willing to mate. Yeah. You're correct.

So no I don't have any issue with my S. O. feeling the same way.

[exitseven]

What kind of time do you do in a marathon?

[BoopBoopBeep]

@exitseven 9 hours in the heat/humidity, 7.5 in cooler temps. If I switch from vest to pack it shaves off 30-45 minutes from both.

The cutoff time for the Boston Tough Ruck is 12 hours or less, but I want to be sure, and I don't know the climate in Boston

[exitseven]

The summers are usually in the 70s and 80s we have 2 or three heat waves in the 90s.

[BoopBoopBeep]

@exitseven Hahah okay so more like 9 then. Bummer. Thanks for the intel! You ruck any?

[exitseven]

No, but I have run numerous marathons. My PB was a 3:03 in the Ocean State marathon in Rhode Island.

[BoopBoopBeep]

@exitseven Oh nice! My ex did the NYC one. I have three crushed verts from an IED. Oddly, running hurts, rucking doesn't... that's what got me into it. Good job in R. I.

[exitseven]

My son has done a few of them and did some of the obstacle course runs. I was too old and broken by then. i did get to run a few 10ks with my kids.

[BoopBoopBeep]

@exitseven That's awesome! I'm so happy for you. They're so much better with family at your side for sure!

[asphaltrhymes]

I'm slim built so I'm below average. And I think I've either only ever attracted women who were slim like me, or they themselves were underweight or below average in weight. It's possible once or twice a larger woman has been into me, but I wouldn't know. I've always been single up to now. 😬 And I suppose I only seem to attract slim women 👌 I hope that answers my answer to your question 😎

[Anemone978]

No I wouldn't, anyone who would be mean to me because of how I look doesn't need to be in my life and obviously I don't need to be in theirs. Like if you gain weight in the relationship they would dump you, so why even consider someone like that a suitable partner for a long term relationship.

[Anonymous]

No. But not because of that. But if she judgmental of that I'd think I'd just be seeing the tip of the iceberg. I'm like this about women who have a height bias as well. It might be completely rational to her. But when a woman tells me a guy under 6 feet is unattractive I just can't help but see her ass a nitwit.😆 Nothing that comes out of her head after that is intelligent to me.

[therealricksanchez]

Personally, I don't think "fatphobic" is even a thing. You wether like or dislike obesity. I don't see an issue here, unless it's an extreme thing like "if you put on some weight, I won't be able to be in a relationship with you"

[Anonymous]

I'm fat currently and I would never date someone whose fatphobic once I lost all the weight. Luckily I found someone already who likes me for me so when I lose the weight I won't have to go out weeding through guys who aren't. I already have a guy who I know 100% is not fatphobic.

[Anonymous]

Fat phobia does not exist, it is completely natural to have an aversion yo those who are unhealthy.. So yeah I woukd date someone who doesn't want to be fat.. I use to be fat, I worked my ass off to lose 200 pounds, and refuse to go back to it. I refuse to be unhealthy.

[Asker]

There are fat people who are healthy. What about them?

[Opinion Owner]

Except they aren't, if you understood anything about medical science you'd know that.

[Asker]

Healthy fat people definitely exist. You'd get it if you're world wasn't a well, you its frog.

[Opinion Owner]

Lol no, have you ever seen a fat person try to run? That by its self is unhealthy. Not to mention the risk of diabetes and heart disease. And you are not a medical professional.. I on the other hand am.. I am in a position to know more about it than you could ever hope to..

Your political idiocy does not matter when compared to facts. If you were an intelligent person you'd know that.

[BoopBoopBeep]

Thank you. Coming from a former fat person.

[Opinion Owner]

Welcome.. I have been on both sides of this. I chose to make a change because I started getting winded going up my stairs in my home.

[BoopBoopBeep]

I chose to make a change so I could get laid in high school. However we get there, ya know ;)

[Opinion Owner]

@BoopBoopBeep agreed. its the journey that matters not the reason

[BoopBoopBeep]

And acceptance of reality. I was never like "Oh no I'm really healthy right now" I just liked to eat and did it too much.

[Adam1978]

I don't think those people exist. It's a word fat people use to shame people with preferences that exclude them. I would have no problem dating that person, because that makes it less likely that they become fat.

[Lionman95]

Yes because fatphobia to me seems like a turn that is losely used to discredit people others don´t like. To me that´s not a reason to not date someone.

[Justneedtokno]

No it would make me uncomfortable. If they’re talking about somebody, it would make me uncomfortable to eat around them.

[Levin]

I work out for 2 hours a day 4x a week. Not to mention all the other movement I do.

Not really any excuse, is there?

[Asker]

What about the ones trying to work it by excercise and diet?

[Levin]

in my opinion, it all works around mentality and lifestyle.

Like people will be inherently unhealthy and sedentary, and then think starving themselves for 2 weeks to get into a bikini or working out in the next fad for a month will get them anywhere.

Those sorts of people are perpetually tubby.

[Asker]

would you help them in setting a better routine?

[Levin]

Most people aren't interested until they are interested. If they're genuine about change, then sure.

[Asker]

That's good.

[JessicaEarl]

Depends on what you mean by fatphobic. Are they bullying people? Are they of the opinion that obesity is unhealthy? What are we talking about here

[OfMiceandMen]

No, I could not. If the person talks about other people then it's just too judgmental to me. I don't condone body shaming.