Do narcissists already decide on the first date if someone is „relationship material“ for them or not?

[Anonymous]

[DaveJord]

I have dated narcissists... I mean yes. I went on a date with a woman, and she invited me to go to Mexico with her. I was like seriously? We just met. She says she has good feeling about me. I mean I was having a good feeling about her... so I said yes if we are still dating 3 months from now, I will go to Mexico with you.

We went to Mexico had a lot of fun, but she went form being a very sweet and nice person... to this emotional anxiety driven out bursts. It was very unsettling to watch. It was hard because, I really started to like this person. But you just know it's not right for someone to act that way.

Just stay away from these types, it can be very different relationship to get caught up in. She was so amazing for like the first few months, but that's because she could hold it together for short time periods. They will shower you with affection, and really very flattering, and easy to get caught up in the emotions. But it really called love bombing. They so this to entice you with how amazing it all can be, but then once they think they got you hooked their true nature comes out.

[Avicenna]

I doubt they are that discerning.

[HollyK21]

That is not narcissistic at all, it’s knowing yourself and who you’re compatible with. If I’m not vibing with a person or he just doesn’t seem my type during that one on one time, I’m not a narcissist for choosing not to continue on. If anything I’m sparing both of us from wasting each others time.

[provokeesmokee]

Narcissists are always deciding in the moment whether or not you're useful to them.

They don't care about you, your relationship, or your happiness.

They care about themselves and what you can give them. That's it.

[virtualwasp]

no idea sorry.