Would a narcissist go so far as pretending to be someone you don’t know to trick you into dating them?

[Anonymous]

[Anonymous]

Absolutely. My ex moulded herself personality wise into everything I wanted in partner. To be fair I may have overlooked some major red flags because she had big tits, a fat ass, was short and had red hair.

She was always a bit ditzy and wasn't that smart buy I did love her despite all her faults and at the very least thought she was loyal and a good mother to our son.

Fast forward a few years her younger sister is getting married and she turns into a mega bitch. Turned out she was cheating on me for a year while j was working for our future ( even took our kid to the guy's house who is a known paedophile), then it turned out she had given me an std from the guy, then it turned out she was beating our kid and I had to call social services, then she tried to make up false allegations that social services were for a time taking her word on until the realised I had a solicitor and had been recording everything. I used her relationship with the new guy she was cheating with to leverage 3/7 days custody, the new guy isn't allowed to be left alone with our son and was told that if my son had been a girl he wouldn't be allowed in the same room as him.

[Asker]

How awful. Life has been most unfair to you.

[jahaims]

That's literally what a narcissist is

[inhua]

that doesn't sound like narcissism. more like obsession

[BoopBoopBeep]

How can you date someone and not realize it's somebody you know? Are they wearing a mask? If your entire relationship is online it's not "dating" it's "pathetic."

That's coming from someone who was deployed for 9 years. I've had a lot of LDRs, but only after a real one started in real life.

[Asker]

I hear what you’re saying. There are a lot of idiots online. But it’s not pathetic to be autistic and socially confused or to try to keep being positive about dating and trying, despite my autism and my depression and anxiety and the low energy and inability to keep a job that goes with it; and the alcoholism and the times I was raped and the times I was stalked. Get back to me when you’ve had such experiences.

[Asker]

You’ll have a very different idea on what’s pathetic.

[BoopBoopBeep]

No it'd be the same, because I don't hold people in the present accountable for something that happened in my past. If you're THAT broken like you seem to want me to believe you are, you'd be better off with therapy than dating. The difference is I am not buying that you're that broken.

Autistic people date in real life. I know because I've dated too many of them for it to be some freak occurrence.

I've had two kill teams sent after me, lady, you don't know my "experiences."

[Asker]

We’ll just have to agree to disagree. Calm down mate. You’re getting hot under the collar over nothing.

[BoopBoopBeep]

You misread something. It happens. I'm not hot under the collar at all. It's a webpage... that doesn't create emotional response.

[Asker]

No. I’m sensing that you’re looking for a fight and I’m not interested in arguing.

[Asker]

Hence the lack of advice and the long, self glorifying rant.

[BoopBoopBeep]

The advice was implied in the very first post. Get off the screen and date in real life, you're GOING to get catfished if you're in a relationship where you never see the person, and then you get what you earned.

"I've had a lot of LDRs, but only after a real one started in real life."

That's neither long nor a rant. You're intentionally being obtuse. THAT'S why you're single. That's one of the least favorite personality traits for men. You can do better than that. I know you can do better than that. Why don't you know that?

[Asker]

Whatever.

[chicken_nugget24]

That's a catfish

[Asker]

Do people do this? For real?

[BoopBoopBeep]

www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=catfish

[chicken_nugget24]

Yeah

[Asker]

Why do they do it if they know you?

[BoopBoopBeep]

People are mentally F'ed. They do f'ed up stuff. Why do people dress up as sailor moon and fondle care bears while watching golden girl reruns? I dunno... cause they're f'ing weird... the "why" and my inability to understand it doesn't make it less frequent though. Wish it did...

[Asker]

@BoopBoopBeep lol you’re so right

[chicken_nugget24]

There is a show called Catfish. Look it up on Google @asker

[jimmy2]

Yes I know that