How much does personality matter to men?

[Anonymous]

I get told that i look like a 3/ 4 out of 10. But some guys say that they would date me because i seemed like I had a beautiful personality. A few guys kept telling me to stop focusing so much on my looks and have more confidence in myself. They wouldn't even rate my pics. But reality is... people judge you by your looks especially on whether or not they want to get to know you. If there is a lack of physical attraction, a relationship isn't likely gonna happen regardless of how beautiful your personality is. are these just lies that people just trying to make me feel better about being ugly?

[Finchie40]

Personally is very important to me , Having great chemistry and connection is very important , Just because I notice a girl’s beauty it doesn’t mean I want to be with her , Her personality is what really
Makes me want to be with her , just as long as she doesn’t have split personalities, Most girls’ do lol why I don’t jump into a relationship with a girl right away anymore , I made that mistake plenty of times lol one minute a girl will be loving and caring and sweet and innocent then all of a sudden she turns into this vicious evil bitch that spawned from hell , I understand shark week, but if her negativity is higher than positivity she isn’t the girl for me , Most girls’ assume things in her head and becomes a very selfish person , only thinking what is best for her , I know most girls have this split personality because of her hormones and how her brain is wired , so I will date a girl for awhile before I fully commit to her, because sadly most girls’ change within time and to see if she can accept me for me , and she knows what it means to be in a relationship , Most girls’ say they want love and want a man that stands by her side that stays loyal to her and loving to her but they don’t tell you about how selfish they really are. So for me to give my heat to a girl completely she pretty much has to prove to me that she isn’t a selfish person and that she actually has a good heart and understands the true meaning of a relationship. If I really like a girl, I will be honest with her right from the start and tell her the things I like to do and how I am and what I am seeking in a relationship , Giving her the option on whether she wants to continue dating me or not , I am not here to waste her time or mine. What she receives from me in the beginning is what she will receive 10 years from now , i learned to remove selfishness when i het into a committed relationship , so If she can’t accept my flaws I won’t be able to accept hers , bottom line , Most girl’s don’t grasp the concept of a relationship and don’t grasp the concept of selfishness , Most girls assume things are ok for her but not ok for her partner , and that’s where most relationships fail , You can’t expect someone to give to you , if you can’t give back the same or equivalent in return , it needs to go both ways or the relationship is just a waste of time , basically thank you for a good time but not a long time, if you can’t wear my shoes like you expect me to wear yours, then you are best to stay single , I am not Going to commit to a girl that only thinks about what is best for herself, that thinks it’s her way or no way , I been down that road too many times to realize I won’t tolerate her selfish behavior , if she wants to go be a whore , go be a whore , I will latch onto the girl standing right behind her that doesn’t want to be a whore that only wants to be my whore. The only time I would ever consider cheating on a girl is if she doesn’t wear my shoes like she expects me to wear hers , If I express my feelings of concern to her and she acts like I am being insecure and acts like I don’t trust her , I will laugh and say it has nothing to do with insecurities , it comes down to respect for each other , Don’t set boundaries in a relationship that you can’t follow as well, Bottom line if there is something you don’t want your partner doing because it hurts your feelings , understand you need to do the same , it can’t be your way or no way , Double standards do not work on a relationship period , 2 people are choosing to be in a relationship together not the other way around. If you can not remove selfishness for your partner don’t expect them to remove it for you period. Don’t even waste your time getting into a commitment if you clearly can’t remove selfishness

[Asker]

shorter is better. realize that when you write too much, people are not going to read most of it.

[dudeinohio]

I consider personality to be the most important aspect in a woman. Looks are definitely overruled by personality.

[Anonymous]

Physical attractiveness is only skin deep, and it only matters in initial attraction. Personality is the most important thing by far.

[Aces8]

I don't fucking care just get on the bed and spread those sexy legs

[LiamJHayden]

Personality is everything long term.

[In_Trance]

A lot