If a guy likes me, should I reject him and tell him to find someone better?

[Anonymous]

It’s just so he doesn’t regret his decision on being with me. It’s for the best for him.

[HollyK21]

Do you think you’re not good enough or undeserving of a good man?

[Asker]

I do think that

[HollyK21]

You shouldn’t be so hard on yourself, hun.

[Asker]

I’m just being realistic.

[HollyK21]

If you don’t mind me asking (and it’s ok if you do!) what makes you feel like you aren’t good enough? Like what’s the bar in your mind and why do you feel below it?

[Asker]

I literally have nothing to bring to the table in a relationship.

[humanearth]

Do you have a mental health problem.

So you'll just to reject the guys and yet you women wonder why men don't approach women no more.

If you like the guy, why play mind games

[Asker]

Never said anything about playing mind games. I just want him to find someone else because I’m not right for him.

[slatyb]

Why do you say that? See a counselor and rlwpek on your poor self-image.

[Asker]

Honestly, I don’t want to see a counselor.

[Spongebobssocks]

I've never seen an American with low self esteem before..

Why do you think like this? What about you in your mind would he not like?

[Spongebobssocks]

Thank u for mho

[Red-Blaze]

I think give him a chance
warn them
But give them a chance if they decide to take it

[Asker]

I will definitely warn him but I honestly wouldn’t give him chance. That’s not the wisest choice.

[Red-Blaze]

I really have to ask why?
What can happen? you lose him? you already losing him if you don't give them a chance at all
The thing is, is it because you can hurt them? or because self debut makes you hurt your self in the end

[Asker]

I’ll end up hurting them.

[Red-Blaze]

Maybe, and that is ok, no one has a disney happy ever after, but its the hardship that make a partnership strong

[Asker]

I’m not looking for a Disney happily ever after. I just don’t want to drive my future partner away and make him regret his decision for ever being with me.

[Asker]

And no, it’s not ok if I hurt them. I’ll do everything I can do avoid that. It’s why I’m staying single because it’s a better choice.

[Red-Blaze]

But its not
Your pushing them away before they even get a chance, your losing them regardless

And if you care you work it out
We can heal, hurt is not something that go forever
You heal even if you got a scare its from good and bad
Give it a chance, or there is only lost

[Asker]

I rather take the lost.

[Red-Blaze]

But you both take it

[Asker]

It’s better that way

[Red-Blaze]

I guess we may just have to agree to disagree
I honestly feel your just putting your self in a bad spot you should not be at
You deserve to be happy and they deserve to get a chance
If you decide to put a block in your own way for fear that is fear alone ifs up to you, I can't really do anything to help beside say take the time, work on your self if you need to
But you keep asking this, so I feel you know that really you should at least try
Only place no one gets hurt is fairy tales
Partnerships are the best of times the worst of times
But they should be over all good, and happy for both, there be some bad here and there, but you work it out and come out together and stronger together with it

There is a nice quote I don't remember how it go
But its something like "If you never fight with your partner you never been with your partner"
If you work out in a gym and you feel pain it can mean your body is getting stronger, it pass a time of pain and weakness, but its just to get better
Only in fairy tales do you just wake one day with an amazing body :)
Same with partnership

[Yannishka]

Do you want to be alone or do you just think that low of yourself?

[RavVid]

It is his decision to like you. Do you think a guy shouldn't like you? Why?

[EaterPeter]

Let him see his best and you see yours. I have been with women I have been told straight out someone scored big time and that gave me big screen. I said something like hell yeah. I am one lucky dawg.

[DextroShade]

Is this because you don't like him or because you are aware that you aren't relationship material?

[Asker]

The second one

[DextroShade]

Just tell him that then.

[Asker]

I guess I can but what if he keeps insisting we start a relationship?

[Asker]

Like, he asks questions on what makes me not relationship material.

[Asker]

I mean, he’s not going to back off as easily. And that’s what I’m concerned about.

[DextroShade]

Tell him your body count and that you aren't interested in serious relationships with anyone.

[Asker]

My body count is 0 because I never been with anyone sexually but I guess I can make up a number.

[Asker]

Whatever works, I guess. Thanks for the tip 😄

[Washington12]

You’re putting yourself down by asking that.

[Ms_Facesitter]

Only if you don't want him.

[Asker]

I’m not the right one for him.

[Ms_Facesitter]

Why not?

[Jazzy54]

Are the feelings mutual?

[Asker]

I’m really just talking about hypothetically if this happens.

[Jazzy54]

I’d only reject a guy if the feelings weren’t mutual.

[Wise4myage]

That seems half assed to me.

[Anonymous]

Don't think like that first

[dudeinohio]

Go out with him.

[Asker]

What if I don’t want to?

[dudeinohio]

Ok... well, then don't. But he likes you. So he sees something in you that is good.

[Asker]

Until he actually gets to know me. He’ll change his mind real quick.

[dudeinohio]

Maybe he will still like you... don't fall into negative assumptions to fast. Plus, the date will. give you experience in social interactions.