Should I reject any guy interested in me?

[Anonymous]

Mostly because of my mental state. I just want to be prepared. I don’t want to put any guy through that.

[SteveSmith1985]

No. You should not reject this guy. Not if you're interested in him. That would be a mistake. For sure. Give things a shot. You can certainly discuss your concerns with him about why you're hesitant. See what he has to say in response. But, you definitely should see where this goes, if this is a guy you're also interested in.

[Asker]

I would encourage him to find someone else.

[Static_In_The_Attic]

Being open & honest is the way to go & if you feel the need to reject guys because they interested in you that’s your choice. Instead of rejecting take a raincheck instead.

What happens if girls are interested in you & are you prepared for that?

[Asker]

I’m interested in women.

[Asker]

And I’m only rejecting men because I’ll never be ready to date.

[Static_In_The_Attic]

To each is own & as for being interested in women I think that is wonderful & you & I have that in common.

[Asker]

I meant to say I’m not interested in women. My bad 😅

[roseloyaa]

Oh 100%. A few years ago I needed a little break and some time to breathe, take care of myself. Sometimes you need alone time bc you are not ready for it and its completely okay to do that

[Asker]

Honestly, I don’t think I’ll ever be ready.

[Pinay_ako]

Wow I admire you for that. If you let a man know why you’re rejecting him, he might understand and still pursue you. If he really wants to be with you, nothing can stop himm

[Asker]

I don’t want him to pursue. It’s best if he finds so else.

[Asker]

*someone

[Pinay_ako]

Good.

[slatyb]

That's up to you. "I want to be prepared" -- what do you mean by that?

But sure, you can just say "Thanks, but I'm not looking for a relationship."

[Asker]

Be prepared on what to say if a guy suddenly asks me out.

[slatyb]

If you aren't interested, just say something like I wrote. Being prepared will help.

[teamvic]

I suppose yeah if you feel you're not ready. No reason in finding someone you like then somehow messing it up cause mentally you weren't ready

[Asker]

I don’t plan to be with anyone ever. I’ll never be mentally ready.

[teamvic]

Then don't

[Mansearching]

Tbh... you got to get therapy to work through it. But if you find someone who wants to be with you and loves you, no matter whgats your state, then he's for you.

[Asker]

Honestly, I think if I stay away from relationships, I’ll be ok. Thinking about being in scares the living shot out of me because I don’t want to fuck it up.

[Asker]

*being in one

[Asker]

*living shit
I can’t spell today 🤦‍♀️

[Mansearching]

@sasha0426 you need therapy to find out why that is. Not the spelling. I've fat fingered stuff too... lol.

[Red-Blaze]

No, you should be honest and let them know about it, but its up to them how to take it

[Asker]

I honestly would tell him it won’t work between us and for him to find someone else.

[Red-Blaze]

I can understand that, but honestly I'll say if there willing to do it, if they get it explained and yet decide to stick out, I believe it may be worth it, as it may help you, and if they want it that much its something they accept they get something they want as well

[Asker]

What if I pushed him away?

[Red-Blaze]

In what case?

[Asker]

To the point where he gives up.

[Red-Blaze]

Well then he at least knows what there is to come
I mean its between not even giving a chance and letting them decide

[Asker]

If I don’t want to be together, shouldn’t they move on and find someone else?

[Red-Blaze]

If you don't want to, sure
My answer refer to if you are interested, but feel it make there life too hard, but its not our place to decide for them if they should take the struggle or not

[HippieVeganJewslim]

No, unless You are that type of asexual. Many guys are good to reject, for their lack of compatibility, but surely not all!

[Asker]

I’m not asexual

[HippieVeganJewslim]

There are some guys that it OK to reject, I mean, but not all.

[Asker]

I don’t want to be with anybody at all.

[HippieVeganJewslim]

Currently or forevermore?

[Asker]

Forevermore

[ColHathi]

I'd say just let them know. Let them make the choice.

[Asker]

I don’t want him to be in a relationship with me. I’ll tell to look for someone else.

[Asker]

*tell him

[dray995]

On what basis do you feel you shouldn’t be in a relationship with someone? Is it the person or your own issues?

[dudeinohio]

Don't reject everyone. You may find someone compatible.

[Asker]

I don’t want anyone

[dudeinohio]

Ok then

[Pudsmucker]

You can reject any guy that has a personality conflict with you.

[jimmy2]

Well honey I hear you but I think you should find love.
I know what you are saying though.

[Asker]

I don’t know. I don’t think I’m ready at all to be with someone.

[Googlemyahoo]

What is your mental state

[Asker]

It’s really fucked up

[In_Trance]

Get some D before you do

[Asker]

Why’s that? 😅

[In_Trance]

Because you really need it

[Asker]

I don’t want to

[OddBeMe]

What’s your mental state?

[Anonymous]

I guess