Why do guys show an interest in me then suddenly reject me?

[Star44]

Over the last year, I just happen to meet guys who seem really cool, we get on like a house on fire, they are really keen and want to chase me, send me a message or two then just stop or reject me altogether! I like to take time to know a guy in that way and many have told me they find me easy to talk to. I am at a point in my life where I would like to find a guy and settle but I am easy going and certainly don't push that kind of issue onto them. What am I doing wrong? I start a date feeling great then end up feeling like I've been whisked through some sort of dating conveyor belt! I want to remain positive but I'm starting to feel pretty crappy about it :(

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Thank you very much for all your comments, I really appreciate the advice. After reading through then pondering over everything, I feel that I definitely haven't met the right guy yet so am currently enjoying my singledom :)

[Tamikaze]

You don't explain much about what is happening on individual dates or situations. Without hanging with you it would be hard to know what is going on. I can say a certain amount of guys will approach a girl in hopes of converting her into a sex partner, and when they see that you are taking your time to get to know them, well they realize you are looking for a relationship and they will move on. But, that is good because they are in a different place than you.

I wouldn't push the idea of a relationship on a new guy either. Guys need time to figure out what they think about you and where they want things to go, at least if they are going to take the time to head towards a relationship. Guys rarely start out with a girl thinking "oh, wow, I want to have her for my girlfriend". But girls, we can make the decision pretty quickly, even if it might not be a very well thought out choice or work in the longrun.

I can say that I think now, with IM and texting and so many other easy forms of constant communication, we probably will end up going on a lot more dates that go nowhere. But if we are patient, we will find the guy we want to be with that feels the same way as us.

[coolgirl27]

For a very long time I was the same way. I was almost too nice to them, and I think came across as boring, or quiet when that wasn't the case. Just try to be yourself as best as possible and don't push certain aspects of yourself that you think they would like. If you notice a slight change in interest back yourself off too, and sometimes if they see that you aren't pushing hanging with them that you are an easy going person who just has fun they come back for more. Good Luck, and just remember to laugh and be yourself and show that fun easy going side of yourself, they will want to join in on that fun. :)

[Reeses-pieces777]

they don't sound like the ones that are going to be long term anyways. so maybe they are't the ones worth worrying about if they don't try harder.

[Bvroon]

it's because you are left handed...well not really. (Just a little joke) I think you may have not found the right guy is all. I know it seems easy for everybody to give you all sorts of advice on how you should feel about this. I most definietly relate to your plight, try and I emphasize the try here but try not to feel too upset about this as it will happen from time to time. I can say that if you get really upset and obsess about it, it will really discourage you which just makes you feel worse. So try not to beat yourself up over it, remember there is only one of you, and once you find the one special man who loves you for who you are, it will be well worth it. Worry less and have some fun in the mean time.

[Asterix]

most liekly you are not showing enough interst in the guys and they feel like they are doing all the work, subsequently at soem stage the think to themselves "screw this, she doesn't even like me why bother" and then walk away.

we guys can be very insecure about girls when we think that the feelings are not mutual an we are getting played.

[Alucard]

Who knows, but don't think of it as 1 problem but take each guy/date on it's own. The problem I see with most people is they want a relationship for the sake of having one as opposed to wanting to be with that person, so take your time.

Best of luck!

[coolgirl27]

Ya if she said she likes you too, she's just waiting for you now to make that move! Good Luck!