I’m seeing a guy who’s older and we go on dates and he says he likes me, he compliments me only on physical, no deep connection. Should I drop him?

[Anonymous]

He’s 39 and I’m 26. We’ve been on 4 dates and his breath smells weird, almost like alcohol and he’s kinda handsy and wants to kiss and touch me a lot. I feel emotionally detached when I’m out with him and he doesn’t listen to me a lot. He’s obsessed with how we look together. Even on the second date he wanted to take pics together... and he’s always complimenting me on my physical appearance. I feel no emotional connection or conversations truly take place. Is he just using me as arm candy to show his friends or something?

[Guy13]

That’s too bad that he’s 15 in a 40 year body. Obviously 🙄, he had never learned to bond emotionally with a woman. Single younger women are supposed to be naive in that area. Too bad as he is not the wise and caring sort that you require. 🤷🏻‍♂️🤷🏻‍♂️

[OlderAndWiser]

His motivations are unimportant. If you don't feel any closeness or desire to be with him after four dates, it is time to cut your losses and move on.

[AmandaYVR]

Yeah, sounds like arm candy. He's the older, he should be at least caught up to your maturity level. Your appeal to him is your beauty and youth.

Cut bait.

[DaveJord]

I read you post and I honestly do not know what you want me tell you... I think you know what to do.

Does this man make you happy? Does he make you feel valued and self confident? Does he treat you how you what to be treated?

I mean it seems like all the answers these questions would be no... so tell me how did you get to 4 dates with him and why?

Is he rich or something? Don't tell he is good looking because there are plenty of good looking men out there.

[Avicenna]

Well, there's is definitely no chemistry or compatibility, which would be a dealbreaker even if you were the same age.

[Asker]

Why does he want to keep seeing me? I feel like there’s emotional distance between us.

[Avicenna]

Well, he's made it clear that he's very attracted to you, so it's obviously entire about that. He doesn' have a clue how to treat a woman, though. Time to end things, I'd say.

[Asker]

@avicenna he told me once on one of our dates that he’d bring me flowers next time he saw me but he showed up at my apartment building with 4 cans of alcoholic drinks that he likes, not me. And that’s it. And we went to my pool on my roof deck , which I felt used for.

[Avicenna]

OK, that should have been enough right there to end things.

[Asker]

@avicenna oh and he texted me things like “let’s make out when I’m back!” Meaning when he’s back from a trip he’s currently on. Ew! That’s all I’m good for?

[20yearsolder]

Only you can answer this question, If it was your sister telling you this, what would you tell her? There's your answer

[BarryLiverstone]

If you don’t feel an emotional connection why do you keep going on dates with him? Is it because he shows interest in you?

[Beardedman1996]

Yeah I’d drop him, he’s 40 and can’t keep a convo and clearly just wants to sleep with you

[Asker]

He takes me on really expensive dates though.
Also, he did say something about spending the night at his house eventually. Ew I really don’t want to.

[Asker]

He also told me “idk why but people always seem to think I do drugs and I don't know if it’s because I’m a lawyer or something”

[Beardedman1996]

If your in it for the money and the dates that’s one thing if your actually trying to care about this Man and date him you should drop him before he oversteps

[Asker]

He just texted me “let’s make out when I’m back!” Meaning when he’s back from his trip, he’s out of town right now.

[maximumpower]

Again - you need approval from anonymous people on social media?
Wow.

[Anonymous]

I think you should stop using him.

[Staximus]

Get rid of him

[EndGame55]

Yes! I would run if I was you.

[Anonymous]

Keep him so he can put you on his living will

[Anonymous]

🤣🤣🤣

[Tyler8154]

Douche Bag