My girlfriend got mad for not buying her Starbucks. What should I do?

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My girlfriend (age 16) and I (age 19) have been dating for 1yr and 10 months. Tomorrow is her birthday and so I got her a camera, a teddy bear and made her a card but she doesn't know I got her a present. Today she asked me if I can bring her Starbucks to school and I said yes but after I pick up my brother from school and she said she understood. After I picked up my brother she called and told me if I can take her Starbucks. And I promised her I would take her Starbucks tomorrow. And she kept insisting and she told me that she wished I was different and that she missed the old me since I use to take her Starbucks every week to school. After school, she called me upset and we argued for awhile. We made plans to see each other on her birthday a week ahead;today, because of my actions she cancelled our date and decided to go to the movies with her friends. I told her if I could go with her so I can see her and surprise her with her present. And she said that she doesn't wanna see me but she feels bad saying no so she said yes. I told her that she doesn't have to see me if she doesn't want too. And she told me that she is not like me who says "no" to her for Starbucks. Later, she changed her mind and said that I can't see her tomorrow. She also uninvited me to six flags with her family next Saturday which we made plans for too. I asked her why and she said if I can't spend $4 on Starbucks for her then she doesn't want me spending money on six flags. I told her that money is never a problem. She didn't change her mind and told me im always greedy which is not true. She told me that other guys would buy things for their girlfriends and that i dont. She said not to get mad if she went out with another guy who would do things for her. She said it's my fault that I'm not seeing her. I do wanna see her it's just when I do something that bothers her, she ends up uninviting to dates. It happens all the time and its the reason why we rarely see each other now. Am I wrong? What should I do?

RJGraveyTrain · Accepted Answer

She's a spoiled rotten little princess and you are not wrong. She's completely self entitled and if I were you I would tell her straight up: I bought you a present I intended to surprise you with and a loving relationship does not revolve around you getting your fucking coffee. If you're willing to end things over a stupid drink then you're not the kind of girl I thought you were. Have a good life with 50 other guys that will dump your ass for throwing a princess fit over fucking coffee.

kaylaS91 · Accepted Answer

Sounds like you're with a complete spoiled brat and more than likely, her behaviour will only continue to get worse.

Best way to deal with it? Call her on it. Ask her if she views whether or not she got a drink from Starbucks more important than being happy with you. Hopefully that'll make her realize how much of an idiot she was and she'll change her ways.
If not... I guess where you go from there is up to you.

Goldie757 · Accepted Answer

Dump her.

She is a spoilt brat and you are not a chauffeur. Tell her you are leaving her because she is too immature with an awful attitude. Seriously if you rarely see her what is the point.

This is exactly why I recommend guys who have graduated not to date high school girls.

FatherJack · Accepted Answer

Treat her like a very hot object... drop immediately !! Get rid NOW. I was in a similar situation around your age , but so glad I saw sense & got rid. Low character girls like that will just turn you into a pessimistic , jaded misogynist if you keep dating them , think of your own self respect too , it's worth far more than a spoiled brat !!

JustinTheGreat · Accepted Answer

she's a fucking brat. its not your fault, tell her to grow up. and buy her one of these

teawrecks · Answer

She needs to be sucker punched off the pedestal that everyone in her life has placed her on, because she has a disgustingly entitled attitude. You should return the gifts you purchased for her, tell her to have a fan-fucking-tastic time at six flags, and encourage her to find a different guy to act as her servant.

fondue · Answer

Get her some dunkin donuts man and tell her to chill. Sometimes you just can't get your Starbucks and she kinda needs to understand that. It's not you buddy. She's being selfish. You can't just uninvite people to planned dates as punishment.

inlovewithyou2014 · Answer

Seems like she's a bitch. Ditch her. There are much better females out there then her. Damn if you can't get Starbucks to her you can't get Starbucks to her. She's not understanding at all. She's just using you.

Complicated-Soul · Answer

she sounds immature, even for a 16 year old  You're not wrong. I don't know what to tell ya. I would move on.

RachelBrigs · Answer

That's basically what happens when you date a 16 year old girl.

Frost_Byt3 · Answer

OMFG. She is way too immature to be in a relationship. Dump her ass.

psychomonkey · Answer

Dude leave her immediately cause she's too childish and girls like that create unnecessary drama in a relationship

JustMe-93 · Answer

What. the. f**k?

Oh & "She said not to get mad if she went out with another guy who would do things for her." & then calls you greedy?
" It happens all the time"... If I were you, I wouldn't be in that relationship!

DodgersGM · Answer

It's only happening because you're allowing it to, man.  If it were me, I'd tell her to go have fun with another dude. She can go find someone else to be her whipping boy.

linds34 · Answer

She's behaving like a typical 16-year-old. There's probably nothing inherently wrong with her, she's just too young to be able to handle a serious long-term relationship.

Alexious · Answer

Bro.. no offense but she sounds like a spoilt little brat. Coming from me I wouldn't touch her with a ten foot pole. Relationships ain't about buying fucking gifts it's about being with each other.. even without money.

Anonymous · Answer

She sounds like a real jerk. Return the gifts you got and let her go.

kittykatg · Answer

Wow even for a 16 year old her priorities are fucked along with her perception of a healthy relationship

Otaner · Answer

Thats a very childish reason to be upset. Maybe you need someone more mature and around your age.

stardust101 · Answer

Why couldn't you just have bought her the 4$ Starbucks? Like what was the point in putting it off for the next day?

xXiTacoXx · Answer

You could always get an older girlfriend who knows how to not be a spoiled bitch.

Zendrya · Answer

She's a bitch, run far awy

Lady7 · Answer

Dude she's a kid, you can't really expect much from her.

Anonymous · Answer

Maybe you should, I don't know, get a more mature female or a real young woman instead of a very immature girl who acts like she's 12.

singlebee · Answer

My girlfriend (age 16) - that's the real problem LOL

My girlfriend got mad for not buying her Starbucks. What should I do?

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