I met a guy on a dating website and he took me on a couple dates but he was very inconsistent. I told him about it but he ignored it. Months later he messaged me and asked me for a second chance. He told me he was stupid and he wanted to make it right. He was saying he wanted to find a wife and work towards that and asked me my feelings towards that. I was so happy. He started changing his behavior and was really sweet. I met his friends and some of his family. Quickly, he started shifting back to his old ways, not as bad as before but his inconsistency was starting to show. I told him about it again and he said that he felt pressured. He hasn’t been in a relationship in almost 6 years so he kept saying this is new for him. We are both in our 20s. I just wanted to get to know him more, we went on 3 dates in a month. I felt he was distant, he is in dental school but I asked if he’d just text me when he isn’t able to talk for a while, just let me know. Or he’d go out w his friends and I’d ask him to let me know that he’ll be out for a while and he said that “we aren’t together”. I was just confused bc I just wanted to create communication bc he was the one who told me he wanted to start working on a future w someone and thought it was going to be with me. He told me he was unsure about me bc I was “too sweet and nice”and he’s not used to that. i could feel and see his uncertainty when I did see him. I was just seeing a whole bunch of red flags so I told him that and I told him im not interested anymore. Was I too pushy?
Was I pressuring him?
