Boyfriend says I’m too harsh on him, am I?

[Anonymous]

When boyfriend and I fight, like he does something to annoy me i find it hard to get over it fast. Like I normally take a week or two to get over being pissed off. And in that time even if he’s apologised I can’t let it go because I want to make sure he knows it’s in unacceptable to annoy me.

It’s basically a way to make sure it doesn’t happen again so I dont move on easy. I won’t give him any affection or sex till I’m over it. My boyfriend moves on easy and then claims I’m being harsh by not letting it go.

Is this harsh? Everyone has their own ways of dealing with conflict don’t they?

[PeterLegg91]

Your entitled to be angry and teach me him a lesson, but not for weeks KEEP DOING THAT you'll LOSE HIM

[Asker]

But I need that time to get over it, what’s wrong with that?

[PeterLegg91]

Do you do take ages to get over every argument or when he pees you off?

[Asker]

Pretty much every argument

[PeterLegg91]

You can't go through your whole relationship doing that darling, how long you been with him?

[Asker]

Why not? It’s his fault because he does things to annoy me. 3 and a half years

[PeterLegg91]

In the end he'll think not putting up with this, I'll find a girl that will respect me more , how often do you argue?

[Billlewis]

It's impossible for a woman to be too hard on her boyfriend, in my opinion. I think you should continue to demand that he treat you like royalty and worship the ground you walk on.

[slatyb]

Yes, you are. I would have left you the second time you behaved that way. What do you argue about?

[Anonymous]

Maybe. Everyone has thier good and bad points. Your bad points may be bigger than most the question is whether your good points are better than most. He's still with you so...

[Boomchakalaca]

Lol i do it too. 🤷🏻‍♀️

[Billlewis]

Really? You do that, as well? Good for you, I hope you keep doing it!

[Boomchakalaca]

Relax billie b benson. Ur 59 years old

[Billlewis]

Yes, ma'am, but at least I don't lie about my age, like so many other guys do.

[Boomchakalaca]

Do they now 🫸🏼

[In_Trance]

I can't believe he hasn't dumped your ass.

[Asker]

Wait why?

[Asker]

I’m a good girlfriend..

[In_Trance]

You're a terrible girlfriend. Your childish tactics are ridiculous

[Asker]

How are they childish? Everyone is entitled to take the time they need to get over stuff and I have to make sure he doesn’t continue annoying me doing the same things

[In_Trance]

A week or 2 to get over being pissed off? WTAF
To make sure he knows it's unacceptable to annoy you? SMH... it's not his job to walk on eggshells around you to keep you happy. Your triggers are your responsibility.
All the time you withhold sex... there's someone else that'll gladly let him rail. He doesn't need you.

Trying to make sure it doesn't happen again... the fact that you've formed these habits is an indicator of how well that's working.
You don't get over things easily... not his problem. Don't attempt to make it such.

Grow up and have actual conversations before you fuck everything up even more

[Asker]

You’ve got this all wrong. If I’ve told him something annoys me and he keeps doing it that’s his responsibility. And he does need me because he loves me. It is his job to stop annoying me and I stay mad for so long because all he says is sorry he doesn’t prove it’s not gonna happen again

[In_Trance]

Your triggers are nobody's responsibility but your own. You're terrible for attempting to put that on him