Girls, When you have gone over to a guy's place after a date, has it ever not led to sex?

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[Anonymous]

I guess when you go over a guys place it's like an automatic suspicion that something might happen. At least that's where the guys mind is going, he's hoping and praying it will. I've gone over my ex boyfriends place for the first time and he did try to sleep with me. First it was like he initiated that we make out. I was very shy and naive I was fine with just watching TV. I didn't think he would try something but I guess you know guys are like that. We made out for like almost 30 minutes, I'll be honest it was torture and my lips felt like they were going to fall off. But what he was trying to do was get it to turn sexual however I wasn't responding to him or reciprocating because honestly I didn't know what was happening. We were just kissing endlessly forever and after a certain point I did get really bored. But I was too nice and shy to turn away be like, "Ok yeah that's enough kissing for me." I kept kissing him until finally he made the move that he wanted sex and I pulled away from him. I told him no and I said we have plans to go to the movies after. Like we got other things going on. Then he tried again, which is really disrespectful. If you tell a guy no and he still tries, please leave him, he's trash. No is no. I didn't know at the time, I was young and stupid. He tried kissing me again after I said no and he tried to get me to lie down on the couch and I pulled back from him again and said no again. Finally he got the message and stopped. That really pissed me off I gave him shit for that later. Thankfully he never did that again but yeah that was really disrespectful. But it can happen if you lay down the ground rules and don't let it turn sexual. Like don't let him touch in a way that may turn sexual or don't make out that'll always turn into something. I didn't know that lol but now I do. If you keep it PG then nothing will happen. If he's a good guy and you tell him you don't want to, he'll respect it. Good luck for when the time comes.

[Cynicaldreamer]

As a matter of fact, yes, many times!

I know this is hard to believe but if you tell a guy upfront you're not ready for sex, most will respect your wishes. I've been to a guy's house and absolutely nothing happened: at the most, maybe we cuddled, ate a snack (mostly this), watched a movie (think Netflix minus the chill), or just fell asleep.

But if you're afraid of the temptation, just don't go back to his place with him.

[_Maya_]

Yep. That's happened before for me. It was just to chill and hang out. Now maybe he had it in his head he wanted something extra but he never made a move. Like not even a little one. We watched a movie and talked and I went home. It was actually a great night and we had subsequent dates. He was a good guy. Things ultimately didn't work out but I enjoyed my time with him.

[Ekaterine_78]

For me it's never ends in without making out because we are openly talk about sex so

[MysticAngel5000]

Actually, yes! The one time, he suggested we go back to his place to watch a movie. And guess what? We sat down on his couch and actually watched the full movie! He put his arm around me, but no sex.

[Anonymous]

[Malwi93]

who is this guy

[Opinion Owner]

I honestly have no clue

[Anonymous]

Sure. Sometimes we’ve just cuddled on the couch and watched a movie. One guy made espresso and we stayed up all night talking. It’s not always about sex. You just have to feel out the situation if you’re not ready for sex yet.

[chrissykerdock]

often a blowjob happens... make out with a guy out comes his penis

[Paige90]

I have gone to a guy's house and done everything except sex because I was on my period.

[chicken_nugget24]

I've never gone to a guys house or had random hook up sex. But yeah sometimes it doesn't lead to sex

[Yannishka]

Eh yeah. It doesn't have to be about sex whenever you go to his place.

[Anonymous]

Tons of times. Not that they didn't want it but I can't put out like that.

[Nikki1989]

I wanted sex, but he didn't, so I just drove home.

[milknhoneyy]

Yes. This was the case more often than not, actually.

[Agape93]

It almost never does, even if that's what they want.

[elizamichale1]

I can't really remember even a single time like that lol

[sheikalana]

Yes. I never felt obliged to have sex just because I went to someone's place.

[MizzArtFreak89]

No. One time I went over to my ex boyfriend’s house and didn’t have sex.

[Akam93]

Not yet. I'm hoping to control myself in the future.

[Date_a_Snob]

99% of the time it does

[Dinklex3]

Plenty of times

[Ekaterine_78]

That's happen always so it's lots of fun

[California_Poppy]

Yes.

[paigefaithful]

Yes.