Why guys stare at me but don’t approach me and ask to be my boyfriend?

[Anonymous]

I shop alone at stores, markets , do errands alone as I have no boyfriend, and I see all girls with bfs doing errands or buying market together. The few guys that are alone I see stare at me but don’t approach me at all. How will I ever get a boyfriend if no guys ever ask to be my boyfriend and chase me? I’ll be 26 never had a serious relationship? My parents never have met a boyfriend either. No one is proud be next to me or do serious things like all those girls at the markets with their bfs.
I’ve been rejected my men my whole life since I was age 14- now so I have no confidence approach men it feel impossible get a boyfriend nor can I be old age 80 never having a boyfriend I need baby , a guy in my life I can’t be alone forever. I’m not a party girl Im a family girl want my baby & guy next to me. So I don't know what to do if men will reject me for rest of my life

[Curmudgeon]

Possible answers:

1. They look at you and assume you would not be interested in them. I dare say that *they* "have been rejected by women thier whole lives since they were age 14 - so now they have no confidence to approach women." No, ladies, we are not made of wood or iron or steel or even titanium and other super metal alloys, we are flesh and blood creatures just like yourselves.

2. To expound on #1 above, the risks and hazards of approaching women have skyrocketed, and the potential benefits and rewards have fallen off. Who wants a potentially career destroying false accusation of sexual harassment? Or who wants the lady to make a video of the fellow looking awkward and post it all over cyberspace in mockery? When something rewards less and pays off less, you get less of it.

3. You are giving off some aura, some body language, that makes them assume you are not interested. Sometimes shy people actually unconsciously do this, simply because they are awkward and don't like social situations, and other people see them as standoffish and "stuck up", when in reality they are NOT that, in fact they are anything but that.

[Asker]

So how I’ll get a boyfriend going alone to stores doesn’t work at all LOL

[Asker]

I just feel like a loser now get anxiety go to the stores as all girls have a man to shop fro house stuff and food with her and I’m alone. 😞 feel like worthless and those girls r all worthy of having a man next to her

[Curmudgeon]

Hmmm. Could you try the gambit of asking a man to get something off the shelves for you if it is high, heavy or bulky? (This applies to warehouse type stores like Costco or Sam's Club)

[Asker]

That won’t make men ask me to be their girlfriend lol

[RyanK9b]

First you don't need a child. Its the highest task ever and should be thought through. Its no commodity

Well if guys stare at you and doesn't approach are they not the right person.

When do they rejected you?

[Asker]

So girls can’t approach guys? Only if a guy approaches u then he’s the one for u?

[RyanK9b]

Sure can girls approach guys but its unusual. Bc women want generally assertive guys and such guy approach first.

[Anonymous]

are you saying you never dated, never had a boyfriend?

[Asker]

Never had a serious relationship like meeting family bringing boyfriend to family holiday parties , livin together serious stuff like that

[Opinion Owner]

then what type of relationships have you had then? whats the longest you dated someone?

[Anonymous]

Guys that do that are afraid of rejection.