Why do guys stare at me but never approach me?

[Anonymous]

I've never had a guy approach me in my life they just keep staring at me. Why so?

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So I've been told many times that I'm very beautiful. The thing is is that I'm very shy as well so I can't approach guys.

[GingerGuy]

You have to seem approachable. Example if you're shy, maybe you don't smile or anything? It also helps if you help, like if you went up to him for example and just said "hi" to break the ice and start the conversation. But even then, some will just not do it. We guys have ALL the same thoughts, feelings and insecurities you women do, yet we're "expected" to be the ones to approach. It's one of my biggest pet peeves. It's fear of rejection and we ALL have it. We feel no different than you women do.

[Asker]

Yeah I've never smiled at guys.

[Asker]

Also, if a guy stares at me for too long I look away because I get uncomfortable.

[GingerGuy]

Yeah, understandable. He's staring because he's interested and/or finds you attractive and he stares because (besides your beauty) he's trying to gauge your interest back. This is why smiling helps, shows you're "open" to him and it MIGHT help give him the confidence to approach?

[Asker]

I'm just too nervous too smile.

[Asker]

*to smile

[GingerGuy]

Even if you smile as you're looking away, this would probably help you out a lot.

[GingerGuy]

Only do it for guys you're interested in though of course lol

[Asker]

Hahaha lol yeah thanks 😝 I could never smile at my crush. I thought I'd look weird or stupid. He never smiled at me either.

[Prince_Vegeta]

Same here they stare at me like i have a devil tatoo on my forehead

[Jen1406]

They either second guess you, feel intimidated, think you are completely out of there league, witch is most of the time, or they like you but are shy. Men don't stare if they don't find you attractive.

[Bas96]

Well, I'm not trying to be mean, but it could be either if the two things I can think of. One: you are very beautiful and pull the guys attention towards you, almost literally taking their breaths away, seeing someone they could only dream about. Or either two: they see something weird, or mysterious that they don't understand or are strangely attracted to. For example something funny, gross, weird, exciting, horrifying or breathtaking. Either way, it's something they realize it's something special. I'm very shy too, I love to be able to approach girls but I can't, but I never had girls stare at me. At least not because I look good. It's more likely they look because the dadjoke I made was so bad.

[Goochbreaker]

Maybe you are really pretty but don't seem that interesting LOL but really it's probably because we are intimidated, we would have to be pretty fuckin full of ourselves to approach the prettiest of girls straight up and someone that narcissistic tends to be an asshole hahaha but if you see a guy you like and you wanna give him confidence, attempt to make eye contact, break it off quickly if you're shy, but just make eye contact repeatedly, and it might give him the courage he needs to come up to you

[Logorithim]

Is there something very out of the ordinary about you? Are you very beautiful, very tall, or both?

[Asker]

Well I've been told many times that I'm very pretty and attractive

[Logorithim]

That's the explanation, then. They are admiring you and either there isn't an opportunity for them to talk to you when they see you or they assume such an attractive woman couldn't possibly be single.

[Asker]

Well that's unfair. My crush stared at me for months in college but never approached me even when college ended. Yes, I could've approached him but I'm very shy.

[Logorithim]

Shyness is another reason guys may not approach. I personally have a hard time understanding this because when I was younger I would always take the opportunity to talk to a woman who seemed interesting (and not just the attractive ones).
You should not be afraid to approach guys you're interested in- you will definitely get their full and rapt attention.

[Asker]

Are you sure?

[Logorithim]

Yes, I'm sure you would get their attention, unless they are so shy that they cannot talk to anyone. Guys may be surprised at first, but they will like it.

[Tushnim]

They're probably intimidated. Maybe make some small talk if the opportunity arises?

[Asker]

I'm very shy

[Tushnim]

I guess I know what you mean.
I had a girlfriend who was that way. I myself am pretty reserved in these matters (i mean interpersonal matters, ofc. I talk to lots of people for a living lol) so it took me 8 months to get her to see that I'm asking her out. It was hilarious... But also pretty sweet, in hindsight.

Wait for a really brave soul. But don't accept the first guy who comes along just because he's the first one to approach you. People often get that bit wrong.

All the best :)

[Tushnim]

Also, read the novel Thud, by Terry Pratchett... It elaborated on my point really well as a matter of a sub plot.

[IntroExtroTri]

I go through this also but its annoying after a while because all it is a stare back and forth. You ever casually chat it up with a less attractive person? Of course because in no way are you intimidated by them emotionally and physically but try doing that with an attractive person and you'll be worrying about your every move.

[Nutzo23]

Only one of two reasons. Either u are hot as fuck and guys are intimidated. Or u have a big fuck off on ur forehead. I have one. But it doesn't work people still wanna chat

[ImrankhanImmu]

Haha

[Asker]

Ok so I've been told many times that I'm very beautiful

[Knnyluong]

As guys we have a preception of league, the more beautiful the girl is and the less attention she returns will tend to signal to us that it may not be worth approaching. If a guy smiles at you and you want him to approach you, try slightly smile back when you happen to notice each other. It’s being friend and approachable without doing too much that may alarm some shy-ish guys.

[idk777]

You're probably so gorgeous it's intimidating. Plus how often do complete strangers just waltz up to people and go "whaddup omg ur so gorgeous <3" like it'd be kinda off putting.

[Whipa]

As someone said, they are scared. They think you are too good for them or maybe your posture sends a message that you are not interested

[Asker]

What should my posture be?

[Whipa]

I would same to keep the same, you want someone

[Whipa]

If you you want someone that likes you for who you are, you should keep the same.
I don't know your posture, if you are smiling, how you dress in what environment so I can't tell you more.
Or if you see someone looking at you, you can go and talk to him

[Finchie40]

Cuz they r nervous and think maybe you r way out of their league

[feelzbadman]

We're all shy, tbh I feel like guys have two big problems 1) we don't like to do stuff without like a specific purpose, 2) we don't like to show that we're super into you so the two kinda contradict

[sugar_dadddy]

May be you are so beautiful a lot of guys thought that you are probably out of their league... if you wanna chat here is my WhatsApp [phone]

[bigdaddyjoe38]

Maybe your not putting off the right vibes and that's why they're not approaching you maybe your putting off an intimidating vibe and they are worried about rejection

[abdabdal]

If u see a guy looking at u. if ur beautiful he will just say she's to pretty no way she single an leaves. Go to him an just say hi ur shyness and his shock will go. an u get to talking

[aboringuy]

Because you're a strong girl, you don't need a man.

[midwest1228]

Us guy tends to get a little shy or think you're out of our league depending on how you look.

[xxNDMxx]

Probably they find you intimidating.

[ssd428]

Guys always want to satisfy his sexual need staring you is just part of it one boy that really like would always reach you

[ejallday]

Probably because most guys find it hard to actually go up directly and talk

[yourdarksecretx]

Maybe u stare at them

[Asker]

Uh no lol

[yourdarksecretx]

Few guys approach girls.. most are nervous.