Better question is, why do you not make the first move? You're a woman. Which means you're naturally better at conversations. Plus, doing so will strongly grab his attention more thoroughly.
But we men are not so great at approaching because we normally never see signs we recognize as interest. You may smile or some other gesture, but we always perceive it as just common courtesy. It never appears as indication of "Hey, Come talk to me".
A better technique would be to use your hand in that "come here" gesture. There's no way possible we can misunderstand that. And seriously; that would really give us a boost in confidence to talk to you.
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Guys do it all the time. They shoulder 99% of the rejection. Some to the point of being destroyed by it. Or they need time to rebuild the damaged self-esteem, which you never get damaged by never approaching and never being rejected (or supposing you did, you get tons of propositions to get self-esteem back up in no time).
... but you still have to complain about them not rushing headlong into a possible wall? Please google E-M-P-A-T-H-Y.
sometimes stares can be misinterpreted for insults rather than a crush sign. Most people stare at you while speaking to themselves inside their head about how you dress, how you look, or even ask themselves questions such as "should I talk to this girl". It's basically a mind situation.
Most don't, even if you are attractive a lot of them may either not want a relationship or may be afraid of rejection. Dont take it personally, there's no way you can make them do it.
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They assume you're either taken, uninterested, or unobtainable.
These probably don't all apply to you but here are some common explanations
1) you're always busy doing something
2) you've always got your ear buds on
3) you're buried in your phone
4) you don't make eye contact
5) you don't smile
6) you have closed off body language
7) you're always moving
8) you're always in a group
9) you're talking to other guys
10) you're too attractive
11) you're not attractive enough
12) you look like you'd be a bitch
13) guys have had bad experiences with girls and fear they'd be rejected because they're not good enough or because you're taken
14) you're never alone long enough for them to approach
15) guys think you don't want to be approached because you get so much male attention already that they'd just annoy you
16) they think their approach won't be good enough for you
17) they have no reason to approach you that won't come off as painfully obviousWell it's hard to say for sure, but usually when I see a girl that I find attractive, I hesitate with whether to approach or just pass on. I figure if she liked me she would smile at me, or acknowledge my presence in some way. If it is just random eye contact, and we linger, then how can I know to make a move, without some sort of sign
You must be or the most beautiful woman ever or awful af, if you are the first one… well you intimidate most of us badly enough not to even dare to approach you
😂😂... This is very surprising for me to read this... Usually guys do approach girls
But if they are not then maybe you should.. it's nothing wrong in thatWell, it's one of two things: Either you're really pretty and they assume you already have a boyfriend so there's no point in getting rejected, or they don't think you're pretty at all and are just looking in like morbid fascination. The former is more likely I suppose.
Probably because you don't look very inviting. Give a smile. Guys generally don't want to get torn up for going up to a girl.
May be u smile less and reserved ,
May be u appear as a strict teacher , try some new wardrobe set , throw some random smile truning back at some random guy. May be than can help to change ur image have fun :)You know why it happens? Because we have no excuse to talk to you, to start a conversation. Even if I liked you, it's stupid to come in front of you and say "Hi, you look nice."
I realized, that it's really tough to start a convo with a random girl because you don't have a valid excuse.
Asking for a direction is one thing, but it's so damn cliche.i also sometimes stare at girls and exchange smiles and stuff like that. i like never approach the girl unless i see something where i can talk about, otherwise those conversations would be awkward as fuck.
A lot of guys nowadays just don't know what to do or say any more. The 3rd wave feminism and the Metoo movement shared a lot of experiences. Some men are more hesitant now because they don't want to overstep.
Well we can't really tell you if you don't post a picture. Maybe it's that third eye in your forehead or maybe you have one of those "outtie" belly buttons... Ewwww..
I can't. I am way too shy to approach a girl directly in real life until I get home and text her on the phone saying I am having a crush on you blah blah blah, and I think I might blow that chance anyway.
It's just how people are now a days. Nobody wants to bother anyone out of respect. Also nobody wants to make a move on someone in a relationship. Id say that's probably the biggest thing
In complete honesty. you're either too attractive for your own good. Or you're not attractive at all. Depends on circumstance. Those that are incredibly attractive tend to be more out of reach.
They are shy or they could not even be shy. They might just not know what to talk about, so they just stare instead.
After a while men get fed up with being turned down by women. Women do a lot of damage from this behavior and yet they come here asking, "Why" lol
Because we are trying to gauge your thoughts and reading your body language.
We guys tend to have a 30/70 pass/fail ratio when approaching someone.
We try to figure out what to say without seeming like a complete wacko/wierdo.you might be too pretty and/or look classy as well guys approach sluts faster than anything else.
Can’t say until I’ve seen u. U could be stunning or have 3 ears. Both would cause people to stare!
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