Are mid 40's and 50+ year-olds men the right range for a 36 year-old single (childless too) woman?

[Anonymous]

Sometimes I get matches and replies. They are mainly 10-15 years older than me. A couple of them were widowers too.

If I'm 36 years old (still look much younger than my age; always did), are those men good age range for a serious relationship?

[RyanK9b]

No, men tend to date girls generally between 18-25. No matter their age.

[Asker]

Then why do have their profile set for 30-40 years old?

[Asker]

The 50+ year-olds had it set for 35-50.

[RyanK9b]

Generally. u have some they search between 30-40 but if given the chance they would take the 20yo everytime

[Asker]

They would likely just be in for the quick sex with the young college aged woman and she would likely be after their money. That's not a serious relationship.

[RyanK9b]

They would date them for serious relationship bc women younger check more vital boxes. And the girls too. Bc its normal for girls to extract resources, thats their biology.

[Asker]

I'm in that position thanks to a narcissist-sociopath (he took money from me too) that deliberately faked an entire long-term relationship and lied about a future, lied about wanting a kids and marriage. He wanted me to continue staying with him till I'm not fertile anymore, to make sure I continue loving me the more he lovebomb me. He took my years from me. Evil...

[Asker]

Much later on, I learnt he did that to another woman too and she blocked him (I did that too), never wants to hear nor see him ever again. She hates him.

[RyanK9b]

Sorry to hear that. Such experience are hard and leave big marks. But you know how to identify such individuals and can help others with that

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't worry about the age so much if you hit off, you hot it off. There are good people and bad people in every age bracket.

[Asker]

Yes there are good and bad people. I don't trust easily anymore.

[historectomy]

i would say go with whatever you like more

[Asker]

Okay

[Fireguy17]

that seems a bit too old.

[Asker]

I know but I can't really ask too much. Even if I look a decade younger, it doesn't change the fact I'm 36.
My ex boyfriend wasted wasted my younger years. I fell for the future faking trap.

[Fireguy17]

That sucks.
Sorry to hear that.
Those men are just looking for someone younger, when I was on eHarmony stuff like that would show up, and I would look at the age range that the women listed and I was older than they were looking for, so I have no clue why they would match us, but I guess computers are not infallible.

[Asker]

It's ok. Through failures and getting decieved and lied to, one gains experience and knows when to ditch someone faster.

[Fireguy17]

Ya, it's too bad we have to go through it.
Sometimes it makes being single not so bad after all.
but we keep trying and trying...

[Asker]

Yeah and now I'm more straight to the point. For instance I don't keep an ex boyfriend as a friend. Friend nothing. Whoever doesn't want me in their lives, can take a hike. I'll gladly open the door for them.

[Fireguy17]

Good plan!
I have seen so many people, mostly younger that are so worried than an ex blocked them, or won't relpy, it's just baffling.
Isn't that the whole point of the word ex?
So what do they want, get back together and break up again?
Life is short, move on, buy the motorcycle.

[boobliker]

any age will do the job