Why do guys invite girls to hang with their friends?

[Anonymous]

I’m asking because my friends with benefits has been inviting me to things and it’s throwing me off because we usually don’t have that type of friendship. Am I reading into it?

[BasedBaeBecca]

Guys may invite girls to hang with their friends for a variety of reasons, including wanting to share their life and interests with that person. It could be that he is looking to turn your friends with benefits situation into a relationship. However, it's also possible that he has come to see you as more than just a friends with benefits, and is interested in spending more time with you outside of the bedroom. It's difficult to say without knowing more about your situation. If you're interested in taking your relationship with him to the next level, it could be worth asking about his intentions and having an honest conversation with him.

[Nikki1989]

What is the problem with hanging out with friends?

[Ohhi12345]

To him, hanging out with you means sex later, potentially, and hanging out with his guy friends is fun. Pretty easy to see why he'd wanna do both. Whenever you're thinking about why a guy you're having sex with is doing something, it is almost always about sex. Guys love sex like we love pizza, or water. It's epic and I will probably never be hot enough to get a lot of it, but that's on me lol

[Asker]

yeah I always wanted to sleep with him he never had to do anything I always liked him so it feels like more than just about sex to me but at the same time our original sexual chemistry isn’t exactly the same bc we’ve been sleeping together for so long so he could also be friend zoning me haha

[Ohhi12345]

Chances of a guy friend-zoning a woman he's been having sex with are next to none, unless he gets into a relationship. That would mean no sex. And -- this is the key point here -- guys love having sex. Unless you literally gained 100 pounds -- I'm not talking about some weight gain I'm talking massive weight gain, literally 100 pounds, he will want to have sex. Even then there's loads of guys who like large women. That chemistry stuff you were talking about is essential for women but is a "nice to have" for men. Sex to men is like pizza. Unless there happens to be an amazing, out-of-this-world pizza ready to go right next to you, when someone offers you pizza you will probably eat a piece of pizza so long as it is edible. Oh, did you gain some muscle? Will not matter. New makeup? Will not matter. New outfit? Gained some weight? Haircut? Hair color? Nails? Less chemistry? Doesn't matter. To a man, sex with you will still be sex with you. It's sex. That gaining 100 pounds thing I mentioned before? That could matter, but probably not. The male sex drive is like your desire to drink water. And most men have immense difficulty actually getting laid.

[Ohhi12345]

Imagine someone offers you water, and you have a hard time getting the water. And I don't mean they give a vague "hint" that they might offer you water if you can find 10 riddles written in invisible ink and answer them correctly in the proper order. I mean someone literally offers you water that is not covered in visible pond scum or labeled "contaminated", and you're not sure when you're gonna get water next. Guess what? You drink the water. You do not have to have good chemistry with the water. You need only the most basic assurances that the water has a low chance of ruining your life. That is the situation.

[Ohhi12345]

Go have sex with pretty much any guy who's single and who doesn't have a hundred women knocking on his door. Literally say, "hey, I think you're hot. Wanna go [insert phrase here such as "grab a late night drink" or something or even "kiss" or something super duper straight forward]" and wink. Men are starving for sex. Offer them that if you want to have sex. Picture yourself in the hot, hot desert carrying jugs of cold beer, surrounded by dudes who haven't drank water in a year. That is the situation, amiga! Live your best life. Have the sex.

[In_Trance]

For the same reason girls would invite guys

[Anonymous]

Uh oh, is he falling in love with you?