Girls/Guys, do you think that I am an attractive and okay person to date?

[MonMon1477]

I'm 5'8-9, 15 (16 in September), a sophomore, brown, and I'm graduating as a junior (aka I'm ahead in a lot of my classes) lol. I'm an A student, laugh a lot, and joke around sometimes (maybe TOO much). I get stressed out quite a bit just because of my life so I would like (need) someone who was not insecure because honestly, I don't have time to be trying to build up someone else's self-esteem every time they see me with the same or opposite sex. Some guys and girls have approached me for a relationship and some seem nervous and just stare. I have a good fashion sense and I'm at an above average height for a girl so I see why people would stare. But I am never mean (unless I'm like, tired or I want to be) and I don't have a rbf. Do I seem approachable and would you date me? I feel like some people would be intimidated by my height, status, and/or my accomplishments.

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9 mo

Oh and if you could, could you tell me why you would or wouldn't date me? Honesty is desired!

[GuyIG]

In response to your question, yes, you seem approachable. Your personality description reflects confidence and accomplishment. Regarding your height, there are different preferences among guys; some might appreciate it, while others may not have a strong opinion, such as me. However, your positive attributes far outweigh any potential drawbacks. It's important not to stress about these things at our stage in life, as things may change with time. Overall, you shouldn't encounter any difficulties when it comes to dating.

[Pistolshrimp]

I would recommend working on your grace for others there will be times you need a boost and if you aren't willing to help a guy out with his issues how can you expect that in return. It will happen everyone faces seasons in their life usually every 10 years your whole world view changes even if just slightly.

[MonMon1477]

ahh I see

[Avicenna]

You should have no trouble finding someone to date. Don't forget that you can ask others out as well.

[MonMon1477]

True, I guess I kind of get nervous because I feel as though a lot of guys like girls that are shorter than them. Maybe it's their ego or self-esteem?

[Avicenna]

Some guys really like tall girls. You only need one, after all.

[DextroShade]

It's more like they know that women want taller men.

[MonMon1477]

@DextroShade omg that's a really good point..

[MonMon1477]

true, true

[BigDog1989]

I see you picked MHO pretty quickly, eh?

You would be less stressed, if you don't kill yourself trying to get straight A's, I've found that the most depressed people, are the ones who are always studying. Trust me on this

[MonMon1477]

Okay!

[SnowedIn]

If I was around your age and in your school, yes, I'd date you. You're funny, you're smart, your ambitious, and you speak well. You sound confident too. All of that is crazy attractive.

[slatyb]

Yes, you are an attractive and okay person to date.

[rigmarole]

Making more account just exhibits off your narcissism and proves my point.

[DextroShade]

You left out something very important: your weight.

[MonMon1477]

lol I'm 134

[MonMon1477]

pounds, that is.

[DextroShade]

Okay, good to know. I think the reason is probably your personality and feminist mindset that is off-putting to guys. That you are the kind of person who thinks guys are "intimidated" by your accomplishments in high school shows that you are not the type of girl who should be taken seriously and you come across as a headache to deal with. I would consider you recreational use only. Try working on your femininity.

[MonMon1477]

Mmm and how would I make myself more feminine? I'm not very feminine to begin with, so I think SOME potential S/O's would be intimidated by my accomplishments. I feel like telling them in advance (or just making it known) tells them that I'm not going to settle for just anything. It shows that I'm not desperate and I will drop you if you don't put your best in all you do. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ I don't know if people think that's feminist I guess that's a new label I have!

[Anonymous]

Not my type but okay for other guys I guess

[DerekC321]

You sound fine to me. 🙂

[Yannishka]

Yes, have a nice day!